Found out my Dad has another family...

pollypenny

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

But neither I or you knew that when you made your post so you were assuming, just as you assumed her family struggled financially, which they did not by the sound of things.

Her post saying her mum knew the woman came as a result of our discussion.

Yes 7 children by 5 mothers, sounds a bit like Mick Jagger and Rod Stewart!

I don't think Jagger or Stewart had a secret family, did they?

POPPYOSCAR

pollypenny wrote: »

I don't think Jagger or Stewart had a secret family, did they?

Where did I say they did?:)

RuthnJasper

Darci wrote: »

Thanks for all the replies. Not sure hour the person that doesn't believe me.

I met my half sisters and they are lovely. We've had significantly different upbringings though. I spoke to my full sister afterwards and told her - she wasn't surprised and has heard rumours in the past. She has advised me against mentioning it to mum or dad as mum probably knows (apparently she has been told by an anon source years ago) and she feels that Dad has fought to keep his secret for this long and to let it go now. I sort of don't agree, but those of you asking me what I think the consequences will be are right in that I think they will be awful.
My sisters are happy to know me in secret, they have been told only positive things about my mum and don't want to cause any problems. And as it was me who contacted them, I believe them. I'm going to keep in touch but I think at a distance, without seeing them too often.

I know many of you would have confronted my Dad, and I may do in the future. I'm definitely getting the holiday over first and then can rethink. Speaking to my full sister was brilliant though as I don't feel as 'weird' now that someone else knows.

Thank you for the update; I am so glad that you were able to speak to your sisters. Please ignore "whodathunkit" - they're a troll.

FWIW, I think you're right about raising it with your parents and I hope that you go on to enjoy happy times in the future with your half sisters and their extended families. x

hanginginthere

FWIW, I think you should speak to your dad,

i am going through a similar situation at the moment, (soem of you may recall my thread) my husband was living a double life for 2 years and i wish someone had told me, and i never found out in the fashion i did

if at all possible, try and ensure you father tells your mother everything, while some of you, maybe yourself and your sister, are nearby for support

i really hope this all turns out well, i am only half your dads age, and this whole episode has almost been the death of me,