Timing

Ozzuk

She only has the power if you give it to her. You have control over your life, starting living it for you. She will respect you more and you'll be more able to deal with not being with her. Who knows, you may even realise it was a destructive relationship for both of you so you are both better just as friends.

Confusedandneedhelp

Ozzuk wrote: »

She only has the power if you give it to her. You have control over your life, starting living it for you. She will respect you more and you'll be more able to deal with not being with her. Who knows, you may even realise it was a destructive relationship for both of you so you are both better just as friends.

Ye maybe.

I just think of all the birthdays and Christmases and family holidays.

Think your right about her respecting me more though, getting emotional and asking for another chance is not the actions of a man she'd want either way.

I'll deal with it. Just wish we could 'autopilot' for a few months and just get thru this

Confusedandneedhelp

Things seen to be back on track for the moment with regards the kids. I'm seeing them regularly, and have a timetable in place.

I'm also leaving her alone to have space and time.

Just annoyed as I recently found out back in March when we were supposed to have our family holiday, she wanted to try again. She wanted to take the first steps. And now I feel more down than ever at the fact that the last 2 months have been spent arguing and fighting and all the crap with that. And it could've been spent mending our relationship.

And now she doesn't want us anymore and I don't know how or if that will change.

Me and my stupid !!!!ing head.

Just wish she'd of told me about what she wanted, but she says I should've been showing her not being told what to do.

It seems whatever was with this other guy is now nothing but mates. But I'm still so angry I've wasted all this time and made things worse than better and so much more work to do, and it still might not work.

Anyone else who reads this take warning: if u say u'll change, start immediately, don't wait and see because it doesn't change on it's own!