Why Are More Couples Splitting Up These Days?

Stephb1986_2

I think it's sometimes to do with home pressures and that's why people break up. Life and marriage isn't easy and it's something to be worked on by both parties.

I got married just over a fortnight ago. My FIL lives with us (He lived with hubby before we got married now I've moved in with him) for the last fortnight fil hasn't cooked a meal, bought a meal, put money on the gas and electric metre actually done anything.... If it was just me and my husband we would have no problems but I'm currently not working due to relocating so struggling for money fil works but doesn't pay anything at all. He's stealing food that I've got in for a weeks worth of meals. I'm finding it really frustrating and getting to breaking point

Me and my husband are fine otherwise, so I think sometimes it's just pressures in the home that can cause problems.

Steph x

Big_Tree

BrassicWoman wrote: »

because women have financial independence and no longer have to put up with c**p in order to keep a roof over their heads.

And long may it last.

Getting a council house and being a professional single-mother is not financial independence.....

BrassicWoman

BigJockKnew wrote: »

Getting a council house and being a professional single-mother is not financial independence.....

a) It isn't dependent on a man
b) That's not how all women do it
c) Lots of people on benefits, not just women of child bearing age!


I'm happy for some of my taxes to get someone out of a bad relationship, however. Hurrah, goodbye to oppression! Hello civilisation!

When I was first employed there were "careers for men" and "jobs for girls." You had to quit when you got married. SO HAPPY those days are gone!

Big_Tree

BrassicWoman wrote: »

a) It isn't dependent on a man
b) That's not how all women do it
c) Lots of people on benefits, not just women of child bearing age!


I'm happy for some of my taxes to get someone out of a bad relationship, however. Hurrah, goodbye to oppression! Hello civilisation!

When I was first employed there were "careers for men" and "jobs for girls." You had to quit when you got married. SO HAPPY those days are gone!

being dependant on the state is not independence though.....

BrassicWoman

BigJockKnew wrote: »

being dependant on the state is not independence though.....

I think you're being a tad pedantic now. The question was about why people split up. Wherever the money comes from, it's no longer a tie that binds.

cheepskate_2

Everything is throwaway nowadays, Some people seem to see relationships the same way. The 1st sign that the "lust" has gone then they move onto the next looking for that feeling again.

I also think that now more people have their own houses, that they meet the guy/girl and they move in fairly quickly, -without a courtship, getting to really know each other time- and then wonder why they don't get on after 6 months.

With the wide range of benefits now available, there is no need to be certain that you are compatible now before having kids.

jemb

Saturnalia wrote: »

I think it's because nowadays we CAN leave a relationship that isn't right for us. There isn't a shame or stigma to it like there used to be. We aren't going to end up ostracised by the community and our own family, we can't be refused housing as a single parent, and thankfully the idea of parents staying in a toxic relationship being best for the children is long gone.

totally agree with this

foxwales

Who was it in the first place that determined that relationships are between one man and one woman until death do them apart?

Religion.

Without religion controlling peoples lives, people are more free to experience life for what it is, happy and in the knowledge that they are free to make their own decisions without the scorn of some god or religiously zealous community.

TopQuark

BigJockKnew wrote: »

Getting a council house and being a professional single-mother is not financial independence.....

What a ridiculous post!

Because obviously the only options for women are to be kept by a man or kept by the state. God forbid they are able to actually earn decent salaries for themselves these days and not live in fear of financial hardship should they find themselves in an unhappy relationship!

anotheruser

Such a shame that over 30% are moaning or not actually giving anything worthwhile to the thread
Seems you have to explain every soft of detail before someone nit picks.

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

Stop biting the bait, ladies. The post was put there to rile you all. And it's working.

I am still baffled why you call it a "ladies board"?
It was posted in the "Marriage, Families" section, which isn't specific to any gender as far as I am aware.
If it was moved, it was done so without my knowledge.


Added the bit at the bottom as another thread ended up people slagging each other off left right and centre - not exactly what I was aiming at, more a thread with people's opinions.
Yes, a perhaps controversial subject but I've said it before and will say it again, people get far too offended by the littlest of things these days. Don't want to be offended? Don't go out, watch TV, listen to the radio, CDs, cassettes, records... (thought I'd add as many as I could think of for those pedants - cue the oh-so-funny-comedy line adding more I didn't think of, but I am sure you get the idea).

foxwales wrote: »

Religion.
Without religion controlling peoples lives, people are more free to experience life for what it is, happy and in the knowledge that they are free to make their own decisions without the scorn of some god or religiously zealous community.

While I agree with you in part, I find people who say "religion causes wars" are barmy.
It's not the religion but someone's passion about that religion. There is nothing wrong with having some sort of faith but when that spills into something more... that is where the problem is.
Football debauchery has killed before, and I dare-say will again.

But then I also find that most people who think like you do have no idea about faith... you get stuck on the "religion" side of it.
That's another discussion anyway.