Why Are More Couples Splitting Up These Days?

Vejovis

pinkshoes wrote: »

Where there are kids involved, then aside from abuse of any form, couples should put the child first and do what ever it takes to make it work.

I think the "me me me" culture means people can't be bothered to try as hard.

Most do, two happy divorced parents are better than two miserable, making it work, parent.

Bogof_Babe

I'd say it's because nowadays a long sustaining marriage or relationship has become the exception rather than the rule. Read any tabloid newspaper and people are referred to as step-this and step-that, couples have a 'partner' not a husband or wife. There's no sense of permanence, so no role models for couples to aspire to.

It does rather give the impression that relationships are supposed to be dumped after the initial gloss wears off, and you both move on to the next one. Repeat until you become too old (or wise!) to be bothered anymore.

I've even heard the term "starter marriage" - as if it is intended that you give it a try for a few years, then move on to the next one!

I wonder if the fact that many more people rent rather than buy their homes nowadays makes it all the easier to call it a day at the first hint of a problem.

Buzzybee90

whodathunkit wrote: »

That wasn't the sort of relationship that was being discussed.

I don't want to get into the married vs long term relationship argument (strong advocate of marriage) but a ten year courtship/ marriage and a ten year relationship hold the same about of heartbreak when dissolved.

Georgiegirl256

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

But in all honesty, if a relationship fails then it fails.

People take things like this to heart - just concentrate on keeping your own relationship going.

Excuse me? :rotfl: I don't understand what you're meaning? My comment was in reply to professor yaffles post.

SmallL

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I don't want to get into the married vs long term relationship argument (strong argument of marriage) but a ten year courtship/ marriage and a ten year relationship hold the same about of heartbreak when dissolved.

Agreed, the state or format of a relationship doesn't change its importance to those involved

Buzzybee90

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Excuse me? :rotfl: I don't understand what you're meaning? My comment was in reply to professor yaffles post.

Ignore me when I quote (most of the time), I just do it because my iPad doesn't always allow me to post a reply otherwise!

whodathunkit

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

I don't want to get into the married vs long term relationship argument (strong argument of marriage) but a ten year courtship/ marriage and a ten year relationship hold the same about of heartbreak when dissolved.

Heartbreak doesn't matter, children do.

Buzzybee90

whodathunkit wrote: »

Heartbreak doesn't matter, children do.

Which is what I said formally though, well implying children were v important.

I rather think it does, what's the point of a relationship if not for the opposite of heartbreak?

Georgiegirl256

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Ignore me when I quote (most of the time), I just do it because my iPad doesn't always allow me to post a reply otherwise!

Erm ok? Thought you were telling me to keep my own relationship going....

whodathunkit

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Which is what I said formally though, well implying children were v important.

I rather think it does, what's the point of a relationship if not for the opposite of heartbreak?

Heartbreak is purely personal, marriage and stable relationships are the bedrock of society.