Why Are More Couples Splitting Up These Days?

SmallL

Like the above person said, unfortunately we live in a time where it is an absolute necessary to have a career in order to be financially secure enough to have children (unless you wish to rely on dwindling benefits)

iammumtoone

You asked people to be respectful? Respectful to whom? the people who have failed relationships because I have to say as one of those people I do not find your post particularly respectful. You (and others) seem to be implying that those who have managed to stay in their relationships are somehow better than those who haven't. I will admit as someone with a child from a failed relationship I am a bit sensitive about these things so apologise in advance if I has read something that isn't there.

People split up for all kinds of reasons and sometimes it is for the best, better than those that stay together for whatever reason.

I would like to say the reason I split up with ex as he was abusive to me (mentally and physically), but I suppose more truthful than that is I threw him out because I could, there are people that live in relationships worse than mine that stay. Years ago more people would have stayed but as others have pointed out there is no stigma to being on your own or from a failed relationship now, which in my case I am very grateful for.

whodathunkit

marisco wrote: »

To my mind the main cause of relationships breaking up, are when people rush in and go from first date to living together in the blink of an eye, barely knowing who they now share their bed and life with. Then there are the other major deal breakers; infidelity, abuse (emotional, physical, sexual or a combination of all three), past problems or fears interfering in a current relationship, people not making their relationship a priority and lack of honest and open communication.

It doesn't matter that relationships break up, it does matter when marriages do.

BitterAndTwisted

Who said more couples are splitting up these days? I'm nearly sixty and I don't see any more couples I know splitting up now than there were or thirty-odd years ago.

Having said that, I do know far fewer women prepared to put up with a load of rubbish from their partners these days and are certainly less afraid of going it alone if they had to than they used to be

Buzzybee90

whodathunkit wrote: »

It doesn't matter that relationships break up, it does matter when marriages do.

Untrue, what about children?

**professor~yaffle**

..cue another 20 pages of arguing :rotfl:

Stop biting the bait, ladies. The post was put there to rile you all. And it's working.

Georgiegirl256

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

..cue another 20 pages of arguing :rotfl:

Stop biting the bait, ladies. The post was put there to rile you all. And it's working.

Spot on professor.

marisco_2

whodathunkit wrote: »

It doesn't matter that relationships break up, it does matter when marriages do.

Of course it matters. Some people choose to marry and others don't. The importance of whether a relationship will last the distance or not, shouldn't be dependant on vows/rings etc having been exchanged. Especially so when children become part of the equation.

Buzzybee90

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Spot on professor.

But in all honesty, if a relationship fails then it fails.

People take things like this to heart - just concentrate on keeping your own relationship going.

whodathunkit

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Untrue, what abut children?

That wasn't the sort of relationship that was being discussed.