Why Are More Couples Splitting Up These Days?

samtoby

Because of social media for example Facebook.

Hermia

I think the short answer is just because they can. If you look at countries with low divorce rates it is usually because divorce is difficult or socially unacceptable. It's not because those people are amazingly moral and monogamous and blissfully happy!

Whilst I do think parents shouldn't just walk away from a marriage without a bit of work, I don't understand why walking away from an unhappy relationship is a bad thing. Life is short!

cgk1

anotheruser wrote: »

I'd like to hear your thoughts on why more couples are splitting up these days?

Here's some thoughts:

• Kids having kids, father feels he has to stay but doesn't actually LOVE the mother?
  

Teen parents have been on the decline for decades...

Paulaviki

anotheruser wrote: »

[*]Lack of a faith, leading to promiscuity/lack of self-respect

What has 'faith' got to do with promiscuity exactly? Religion and morals are two very different things. Both people who do and don't believe in religion are capable of sleeping around or being unfaithful, it's not exclusive to those without 'faith'.

I agree with others who have said it's because people no longer feel like they have to stay with a partner when they aren't happy. They won't be stigmatized or be an outcast and I think that's a great thing.

delain

samtoby wrote: »

Because of social media for example Facebook.

That certainly doesn't help!

The amount of married men looking for a shag that messaged me when I had FB was insane... and it's not like I'm/was even good looking or single? Maybe they thought I was scary looking enough to be desperate :eek: :eek:

Madness :rotfl:

**professor~yaffle**

Hermia wrote: »

I think the short answer is just because they can. If you look at countries with low divorce rates it is usually because divorce is difficult or socially unacceptable. It's not because those people are amazingly moral and monogamous and blissfully happy!

Whilst I do think parents shouldn't just walk away from a marriage without a bit of work, I don't understand why walking away from an unhappy relationship is a bad thing. Life is short!

I suppose it depends how it's going to affect other people.

Say if you've got kids. What's the better option, - to stay together and try to work things out or to split up, then introduce the children to a string of 'uncles' (who probably have various sprogs of their own via various women). It can all become a complicated mess.

Then again, if the parents are really desperately unhappy when they're together that's going to affect the children, too so maybe they are better off apart.

It's all about taking responsibility for your actions.

I get the impression that these days people want the big wedding day with all the bells and whistles, but they don't cope so well with the reality of being married.

pinkshoes

Where there are kids involved, then aside from abuse of any form, couples should put the child first and do what ever it takes to make it work.

I think the "me me me" culture means people can't be bothered to try as hard.

SmallL

It's quite nice that people have a choice of how they wish their relationship to evolve rather than a 'traditional' (and stereotypical) view of two people courting, no sex before marriage, heterosexual marriage, children and living 'happily' ever after.

This clearly won't suit everyone and I'm all for the evolution of relationships if it makes people happier in the end rather than being forced to conform to a standard.

Brighton_belle

anotheruser wrote: »

• Lack of a faith, leading to promiscuity/lack of self-respect?
• Career driven women who don't start families until late, then feel they can't leave their career?

The suggestion of lack of faith playing a part in couple's splitting up does does rather suggest that those with "faith" hold meaningfully distinct moral values than the rest of us?
That isn't my experience.


By "career driven women", do you mean women who need to earn a living in order to eat, pay bills and are just not fortunately enough to meet their life partner before their mid 30's and then both need to work in order to pay bills and excessive housing costs?

tea_lover

**professor~yaffle** wrote: »

I suspect the reason for them posting it here on the womens board rather than on Discussion Time was to stir up as much bile as possible :rotfl:

I can almost see the steam coming off people's keyboards as they type their replies.

Women's board??