Why Are More Couples Splitting Up These Days?

anotheruser

I'd like to hear your thoughts on why more couples are splitting up these days?

Here's some thoughts:

• Not bothering to get married to begin with?
  
• The hot discussion about having separate bank accounts?
  
• Kids having kids, father feels he has to stay but doesn't actually LOVE the mother?
  
• Lack of a faith, leading to promiscuity/lack of self-respect?
  
• Bank of Mum and Dad providing for their child through University so the student learns less about being responsible?
  
• Career driven women who don't start families until late, then feel they can't leave their career?
  
• Men who don't feel they are as responsible for providing for their family?
  
• Housing problem, leading to couples having children to get a bigger house, then when they are sorted, realising they were having children just to get a bigger house.

While I am sure nobody plans to get divorced or separated from their partner, I am sure a number of little things make it more likely than not.
There is no denying there are clear patterns, but what do you think is the main cause?

PLEASE AT LEAST *TRY* AND BE RESPECTFUL IN RESPONSES.

double_mummy

would this not be better in DT?

Buzzybee90

anotheruser wrote: »

I'd like to hear your thoughts on why more couples are splitting up these days?

Here's some thoughts:

• Not bothering to get married to begin with?
  
• The hot discussion about having separate bank accounts?
  
• Kids having kids, father feels he has to stay but doesn't actually LOVE the mother?
  
• Lack of a faith, leading to promiscuity/lack of self-respect?
  
• Bank of Mum and Dad providing for their child through University so the student learns less about being responsible?
  
• Career driven women who don't start families until late, then feel they can't leave their career?
  
• Men who don't feel they are as responsible for providing for their family?
  
• Housing problem, leading to couples having children to get a bigger house, then when they are sorted, realising they were having children just to get a bigger house.

While I am sure nobody plans to get divorced or separated from their partner, I am sure a number of little things make it more likely than not.
There is no denying there are clear patterns, but what do you think is the main cause?

PLEASE AT LEAST *TRY* AND BE RESPECTFUL IN RESPONSES.

Because it's more acceptable.

geri1965_2

What a weird list of reasons! I love the demand at the end in bold.

jaylee3

Ummmmm, how about they just fall out of love/no longer have anything in common anymore.

Or in the case of my friend who just split with her husband after 27 years (24 married,) she never ever loved him to begin with and doesn't know why she married him. She says she dated him because her friend was dating his mate, and then before she knew it, they were living together and setting the date to get married.

Her 3 older sisters were married and her friends and neighbours, and nobody thought she would get married - she had only had 1 B/F at the age of 24. She fully admits, she married him because she thought nobody else would have her.

Now in her early 50s, and with 2 kids and a grandson, she has left after admitting she had never loved him, and she admits she has never been in love with anyone.

Sad story.

Tigsteroonie

anotheruser wrote: »

There is no denying there are clear patterns, but what do you think is the main cause?

Social evolution.

Bublin1

Because narcissism (sp) is rampant nowadays.....

Saturnalia

I think it's because nowadays we CAN leave a relationship that isn't right for us. There isn't a shame or stigma to it like there used to be. We aren't going to end up ostracised by the community and our own family, we can't be refused housing as a single parent, and thankfully the idea of parents staying in a toxic relationship being best for the children is long gone.

Georgiegirl256

jaylee3 wrote: »

Ummmmm, how about they just fall out of love/no longer have anything in common anymore.

This ^^^^

I don't think it's anything to do with any of the things listed in the OP. More to do with people falling out of love and or having affairs. Times have changed, and people no longer feel that they have to stay in a relationship they aren't happy in.

Hermia

Saturnalia wrote: »

I think it's because nowadays we CAN leave a relationship that isn't right for us. There isn't a shame or stigma to it like there used to be. We aren't going to end up ostracised by the community and our own family, we can't be refused housing as a single parent, and thankfully the idea of parents staying in a toxic relationship being best for the children is long gone.

And women are also more likely to have a career or in the case of SAHM a career they can go back to. I remember my gran telling me about all the unhappy wives she knew when she was young. They couldn't leave the marriage partly because of the stigma, but also partly because they had no qualifications and had never worked outside the home.

**professor~yaffle**

Perhaps some people expect perfection, and up and leave when things don't go as well as they'd like them to?

There's also no stigma attached to having illegitimate children, even by several fathers, these days. Though having said that, single mums do get a bit of a bad press.

I hope this is respectful enough :rotfl: