My [long string of expletives] family.

January20

[QUOTE=Tropez;65312686
Yes, there is a lot wrong with my family but with all due respect it is quite easy to say it should have been dealt with a while ago, it is something else to actually live it. As I say, I can tell people all sorts of things, it is up to them whether they actually listen to me or not. These people don't and as I don't particularly wish to fall out with my mother who, if we're honest, I owe my life to, I get by in other ways.[/QUOTE]

This ^^^. So many posters here say things like "if it was me, I would say this or that" or "I would do this or that". The reality is that it's much easier to imagine what you would do or say in a particular situation than to deal with the actual reality of the situation. Some peeps also delude themselves as to how they would deal with a situation. Take it all with a pinch of salt.

And if people don't enjoy reading a certain type of post - and Tropez you are a well established enough poster for people to know how you are going to write - why don't they just move on to another thread they may enjoy reading more? I do all the time and feel no need to berate people for posting things that do not interest me or in a style that I don't like! There are plenty to choose from on this forum!

paulineb_2

Tropez wrote: »

I've typed out a response to this several times and deleted it. I can't answer that question without taking this thread down a very dark path and especially given people are now openly doubt the authenticity of what I say, I think it's best I drop it.

Who doubted the authenticity of what you said? Someone asked why you the situation that was going on hadnt been resolved earlier given that you posted about it last year.

Even if people dont agree on whether someone should post on the thread and ask you that question, I still dont see anyone doubting what you say is true.

If you post a thread, even if its posted with humour, you always run the risk of someone reading your thread and thinking why hasnt someone done X or Y?
Because its clear underneath all the light hearted stuff there are things that are going on that are upsetting you. You started the thread saying you wanted a rant, if you hadnt posted what you said to your relatives in the fashion that you did, I bet you'd have had very different answers, take the humour out of it and there's some stuff that's going on thats upsetting and yes, writing it down can be cathartic, but Im not sure doing that without discussing it further if someone asks you why its been going on for so long, helps. Not in detail, but the question from Fbaby was simple enough, anyone on here could have asked it.

And for anyone who thinks that people have a choice not to read or comment, how are people going to know if they like a thread by not reading? Even people whose writing style is light hearted might need a bit of support at times when something more serious happens to them.

And as for the *rolls eyes* and people sucking the life out of everything comments, its just like lobbing a verbal hand grenade into the conversation and then standing back and watching, dont see the need for that at all.

Georgiegirl256

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I know that's just your way of expressing yourself and the majority of people seem to like it (you've got 88 thanks for your first post!), but to some, it might seem abit drama queenish making them wonder how much of the post is actually real?

I believe the comment about doubting the authenticity maybe relates to a comment above that I made earlier? Just to clarify, I wasn't meaning that I was doubting wether what you are saying about your family is true, but rather your dramatic way for example regarding what you said to your relative on the doorstep....ie did you really come out with all that stuff about Caligula etc? Or is that just your 'creative writing' technique?

In other words, what I was trying to say is that I got the feeling that that's why FBaby made her comment, as in it was rather dramatic.

January20

paulineb wrote: »

And for anyone who thinks that people have a choice not to read or comment, how are people going to know if they like a thread by not reading? Even people whose writing style is light hearted might need a bit of support at times when something more serious happens to them.
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Simple: if you are a regular of this forum, check the name of the original poster because you will have encountered them before. If you don't know the poster, read the first post, and if you like it fine, carry on / reply etc.

If you don't like it/ believe it move on to another thread. I get so tired of posters claiming to know from reading a post that it's a troll! Lots of things that are posted here have not happened to me or my friends/ relatives, it doesn't mean that I systematically believe others posting about a certain situation are trolls! It feels like we have a self appointed forum police!

Well, that's the way I do it anyway, but I value my time and won't waste it on what I would consider "useless" posts.

pollypenny

Great writing, Tropez! And wonderful dealing with the visitors.

Don't stop posting, your writing is far from a whine.

Tropez

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I believe the comment about doubting the authenticity maybe relates to a comment above that I made earlier? Just to clarify, I wasn't meaning that I was doubting wether what you are saying about your family is true, but rather your dramatic way for example regarding what you said to your relative on the doorstep....ie did you really come out with all that stuff about Caligula etc? Or is that just your 'creative writing' technique?

In other words, what I was trying to say is that I got the feeling that that's why FBaby made her comment, as in it was rather dramatic.

Yes, I did say that stuff. What would be the purpose of saying that I said it if I didn't? There is none. I'm not a troll, I never have trolled on this forum.

Simply because I choose to add a certain style to my posts does not make the content of them untrue.

Edited to add: Just realised I had to use the words "I'm not a troll." Sad really, done now.

Georgiegirl256

Tropez wrote: »

Yes, I did say that stuff. What would be the purpose of saying that I said it if I didn't? There is none. I'm not a troll, I never have trolled on this forum.

Simply because I choose to add a certain style to my posts does not make the content of them untrue.

Edited to add: Just realised I had to use the words "I'm not a troll." Sad really, done now.

I didn't say that you were a troll. :eek: Infact no one has called you that. I was simply trying to explain why I thought FBaby maybe made her original comment and that no harm was intended by it, and that that was the reason why she thought you were maybe a tad dramatic.

ETA: The reason why I asked if you really said those things was just because I was curious....I thought it might have been one of those times you were itching to say it out loud, but kept it as an internal dialogue! :rotfl:

Savvy_Sue

It speaks volumes to me that YOU knew your mother had gone away with a friend for the weekend, and the rest of her family did not, yet they did not even bother to check WITH HER if she would like a visit.

Now, I would not claim to know all my mother's activities, nor would I expect my sibling who lives nearest her to know for certain whether she'd be at home or not at any given time, but I do know when she goes to the supermarket and which day is Whist Drive. I also know that she cannot miss the Whist Drive, and does not like to miss her supermarket trips.

She would also let all of us know if she was going away, and NONE of us would travel any distance to see her without checking first! That's just insane ...

FBaby

Well I think just the way you are reacting here, considering not posting any longer just because I questioned whether you have a tendency to dramatisation does make me wonder whether it is only about your writing, but I agree with other posters, there is nothing more for me to comment, so will pass on for now.

Cottage_Economy

I'm glad Tropez posts in the style they do. It injects a bit of humour into an otherwise fairly humourless board thanks to the nitpickers and criticisers pawing over every detail in boring minutiae.

Don't let the tedious overanalysing turn you into someone you're not or restrict your posting style Tropez.

We need lighthearted in this place after advising people on what to do about rape, domestic violence, fear, separation and divorce for most of the day, as unfortunately many posts are about.