My [long string of expletives] family.

Tropez

FBaby wrote: »

Well that is kind of what I am wondering! If indeed, you are making a fun to read story out of your family life, then fine, but after reading the whole saga about the wedding, it made me wonder.

You mentioned that same issue then, going on about them coming to yours uninvited, so I'm not to clear why it wasn't made clear then that they were not welcome to stay over once and for all. Or if they are ignoring you, then surely it is easy to keep the door close, especially if they know that you are inside and they will get the message then.

Dramatic writing is entertaining and good on you if you want to take it further, but I know people who act like this in real life, and their constant moaning about others and need to be the centre of attention is exhausting.

Well I would be disinclined to call my wedding a saga but with regards to the little... difference of opinion with these particular family members prior to that, I was merely killing some time while having a moan. While I understand this forum is primarily for moneysaving related posts, how many posts on this particular board fit the criteria of non-moneysaving related complaints about family and friends? Half, as a conservative estimate?

I've discovered I can tell people all sorts of things but whether they actually listen to me is another matter entirely. For instance, at the start of the Premier League season I told a friend that betting £250 on Manchester United to win the Premier League was a bad idea but they went ahead and bet that money anyway.

I've noticed in my family a long running trait whereby no one ever apologises for anything; people have their little rows and stew and then over time everything is apparently forgotten. This mentality combined with that of the inflated sense of self-importance that my relatives have lends itself to ignoring whatever I say because I am not at their professional, social or even intellectual level (at least in their own mind).

As for needing to be the centre of attention; not so much. I've been on these here forums roughly 46 months, in that time I've started less than one thread per month and I've posted less than 2 posts per day (averaged, of course). Many of my threads have actually been more of the inquisitive variety because I am not a perfect example of humanity; I am flawed and sometimes I do seek neutral guidance.

Yes, sometimes I complain about things and sometimes I use a certain linguistic flourish to try to provide entertainment while I do so.

And as for real-life, I'd be quite happy to be left alone for the vast majority of the time. I have no inclination toward being the "popular" one, or the life of any parties.

But if you feel that I constantly do nought but moan about others then fair enough, I shall cease posting such threads, though I will still make such comments to my family should they ever show up at my door unannounced again.

paulineb_2

Tropez wrote: »

Well I would be disinclined to call my wedding a saga but with regards to the little... difference of opinion with these particular family members prior to that, I was merely killing some time while having a moan. While I understand this forum is primarily for moneysaving related posts, how many posts on this particular board fit the criteria of non-moneysaving related complaints about family and friends? Half, as a conservative estimate?

I've discovered I can tell people all sorts of things but whether they actually listen to me is another matter entirely. For instance, at the start of the Premier League season I told a friend that betting £250 on Manchester United to win the Premier League was a bad idea but they went ahead and bet that money anyway.

I've noticed in my family a long running trait whereby no one ever apologises for anything; people have their little rows and stew and then over time everything is apparently forgotten. This mentality combined with that of the inflated sense of self-importance that my relatives have lends itself to ignoring whatever I say because I am not at their professional, social or even intellectual level (at least in their own mind).

As for needing to be the centre of attention; not so much. I've been on these here forums roughly 46 months, in that time I've started less than one thread per month and I've posted less than 2 posts per day (averaged, of course). Many of my threads have actually been more of the inquisitive variety because I am not a perfect example of humanity; I am flawed and sometimes I do seek neutral guidance.

Yes, sometimes I complain about things and sometimes I use a certain linguistic flourish to try to provide entertainment while I do so.

And as for real-life, I'd be quite happy to be left alone for the vast majority of the time. I have no inclination toward being the "popular" one, or the life of any parties.

But if you feel that I constantly do nought but moan about others then fair enough, I shall cease posting such threads, though I will still make such comments to my family should they ever show up at my door unannounced again.

I think its entirely up to you if you want to keep posting. Some people obviously like your posting style, others wont care for it much.

Really not much to be gained by taking an I wont post again then stance just because one person on the thread questioned your writing style.

To be honest, it sounds like theres much more going on in the family dynamic and I agree with Fbaby to the extent of, if this has been an ongoing issue for some time, then it may have caused you less stress in the long run to deal with it some time ago.

CH27

Tropez wrote: »

Well I would be disinclined to call my wedding a saga but with regards to the little... difference of opinion with these particular family members prior to that, I was merely killing some time while having a moan. While I understand this forum is primarily for moneysaving related posts, how many posts on this particular board fit the criteria of non-moneysaving related complaints about family and friends? Half, as a conservative estimate?

I've discovered I can tell people all sorts of things but whether they actually listen to me is another matter entirely. For instance, at the start of the Premier League season I told a friend that betting £250 on Manchester United to win the Premier League was a bad idea but they went ahead and bet that money anyway.

I've noticed in my family a long running trait whereby no one ever apologises for anything; people have their little rows and stew and then over time everything is apparently forgotten. This mentality combined with that of the inflated sense of self-importance that my relatives have lends itself to ignoring whatever I say because I am not at their professional, social or even intellectual level (at least in their own mind).

As for needing to be the centre of attention; not so much. I've been on these here forums roughly 46 months, in that time I've started less than one thread per month and I've posted less than 2 posts per day (averaged, of course). Many of my threads have actually been more of the inquisitive variety because I am not a perfect example of humanity; I am flawed and sometimes I do seek neutral guidance.

Yes, sometimes I complain about things and sometimes I use a certain linguistic flourish to try to provide entertainment while I do so.

And as for real-life, I'd be quite happy to be left alone for the vast majority of the time. I have no inclination toward being the "popular" one, or the life of any parties.

But if you feel that I constantly do nought but moan about others then fair enough, I shall cease posting such threads, though I will still make such comments to my family should they ever show up at my door unannounced again.

Please don't.

Tropez

paulineb wrote: »

I think its entirely up to you if you want to keep posting. Some people obviously like your posting style, others wont care for it much.

Really not much to be gained by taking an I wont post again then stance just because one person on the thread questioned your writing style.

To be honest, it sounds like theres much more going on in the family dynamic and I agree with Fbaby to the extent of, if this has been an ongoing issue for some time, then it may have caused you less stress in the long run to deal with it some time ago.

I'm not taking an "I won't post again" stance, I merely won't post to vent about those irksome things in my life because I have no real interest or desire to defend myself for doing so when my primary motivation is merely as a small cathartic exercise while massaging that inner writer. I shall stick to the inquisitive variety of threads and the (hopefully) helpful replies on posts

For the bothersome things, I'll just listen to some hair metal instead.

Yes, there is a lot wrong with my family but with all due respect it is quite easy to say it should have been dealt with a while ago, it is something else to actually live it. As I say, I can tell people all sorts of things, it is up to them whether they actually listen to me or not. These people don't and as I don't particularly wish to fall out with my mother who, if we're honest, I owe my life to, I get by in other ways.

Mojisola

Tropez wrote: »

I'm not taking an "I won't post again" stance, I merely won't post to vent about those irksome things in my life because I have no real interest or desire to defend myself for doing so when my primary motivation is merely as a small cathartic exercise while massaging that inner writer. I shall stick to the inquisitive variety of threads and the (hopefully) helpful replies on posts

Oh no! I don't want your life to have too many irksome moments but I do enjoy the threads you have created about them!

There's a place on MSE for all kinds of threads - people have the option not to read ones that they don't like.

paulineb_2

Tropez wrote: »

I'm not taking an "I won't post again" stance, I merely won't post to vent about those irksome things in my life because I have no real interest or desire to defend myself for doing so when my primary motivation is merely as a small cathartic exercise while massaging that inner writer. I shall stick to the inquisitive variety of threads and the (hopefully) helpful replies on posts

For the bothersome things, I'll just listen to some hair metal instead.

Yes, there is a lot wrong with my family but with all due respect it is quite easy to say it should have been dealt with a while ago, it is something else to actually live it. As I say, I can tell people all sorts of things, it is up to them whether they actually listen to me or not. These people don't and as I don't particularly wish to fall out with my mother who, if we're honest, I owe my life to, I get by in other ways.

The nature of forums is such that not everyone will agree with everything you say, even when people arent the post starter, there is very often debate.

Lots of thread starters are put in a position of having to defend themselves, its what can happen when people have a difference of opinion, Id be very surprised on a fairly lengthy thread if every single poster agreed with you.

Also, many of us on here have had family issues, you can see that from the threads people start, I actually think Fbaby asking the question as to why this occurred again after you being very upset about it before as was your right was a fairly simple question and one you might expect to be asked by someone who had read both threads.

Ive seen many worse threads than this one and also as other people have been on the receiving end of had many nastier things said to me personally on here than anything Fbaby said to you (Im not trying to suggest that you think Fbaby was being nasty, just that in the scheme of things, the exchange between the pair of you was mild and it surprises me that you would choose to stop starting threads just because someone questioned your writing style and the content of some of your posts/previous threads).

Theres nothing wrong with letting off steam, there are other people on this forum who write a blog style thread, if people have suggested you do that on here maybe you should consider it, so that you'll get people who do want to see what you write, see what you post on one thread. Im sure not everyone who has a blog style thread on here posts daily on it either.

CruisingSaver

There are some posters who appear to have got out of the wrong side of the bed today *rolls eyes*.


To be frank Tropez's posts are a welcome light relief from some the pointless drama and earnest hand wringing that appears to infiltrate this board.


If you don't like his writing style, fine but don't feel you have to comment as such to build up your post count!


Rant over!

itsanne

Tropez wrote: »

I merely won't post to vent about those irksome things in my life because I have no real interest or desire to defend myself for doing so when my primary motivation is merely as a small cathartic exercise while massaging that inner writer. I shall stick to the inquisitive variety of threads and the (hopefully) helpful replies on posts

Tropez, you're disappointing me here. That is taking a "throw my toys out of the pram because someone said something I didn't like" stance. The critical posts have not been aggressive or nasty in tone and you're under no obligation to defend yourself. People who don't like what you write should really just ignore it, but as that's not what happens on internet fora you should try to avoid taking it so personally.

Most people enjoy reading what you write. That's as much as you can expect if you manage to get published - why should it be 100% here?

I'm saying this as one who does enjoy your posts!

Buzzybee90

Tropez, don't leave! Your posts are hilarious (though, like others, I don't wish your life to become more troublesome).

Why do some people have to suck the life out of everything and turn it into being about them?

P.s. I love your writing style, it's captivating.

Tiglath

Don't stop posting, Tropez - pfft! to anyone who doesn't like your posts. As a fellow adoptee and the double standards therewith, believe me, I know where you're coming from. I'm just less polite than you and have no problems telling family members point-blank when I've had enough of them taking the proverbial.