My [long string of expletives] family.

Georgiegirl256

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

My goodness, how unbelievably rude!

They were rude or he was rude? If it's the first, then you are correct.

It's like one of DH's brothers, only comes round or phones when he wants something.

Tropez

Mojisola wrote: »

Brilliant! I wouldn't want your life to be continually stressful but I do love reading your posts about it.:T

I do find moaning about things like this quite cathartic.

I was going to start that blog several of you were poking me to do, but then I forgot.

margaretclare wrote: »

I've recently read/listened to a Ruth Rendell novel called 'The Keys of the Street'. One of the characters in that is sooooo nice, well-brought-up, passive, polite, that she gets into an abusive controlling relationship and finds great difficulty in getting out of it. She really wants to tell this man to go, there's the door, but she is too nice, well-brought-up, passive and polite.

In other words, the ability to say 'no, it's not convenient, I don't want you to stay' is an ability that we should all cultivate. I have often wondered what is so special about the 25th December that it assumes such great importance among people to whom the day has no real connotation, whether Christian or pre-Christian.

I haven't a real interest in Christmas but my wife has. She didn't really have Christmas when she was a kid so she saw what her friends and peers were doing and never had it so she feels she missed out on that. So when Christmas rolls around she does like to make a big deal of it; I get that. It's not the same experience she could have had with a stable upbringing but it's still an experience she wants to have.

But a lot of it is purely cultural. It is an ingrained part of the national conscious to celebrate Christmas in this country, even if one is not religious. It is difficult to escape from every aspect of Christmas because of the way it is forcibly pushed on us by the media, shops, friends, family, co-workers etc.

A bit of a tangent but I find it quite funny at Christmas that we waste half a day every year at the office putting up a tree and decorations so that the office can look all festive for a couple of weeks - but who takes those decorations down? The cleaning staff.

peachyprice wrote: »

So, tell us about the kangaroo dream.

Well I can't quite recall it all now because of the silly relatives and the several hours that have passed but as I recall there were several of us in the first place I worked but the people there were various people I knew from different areas of my life (I think the teacher I had a crush on in Y7 was there).

Anyway, they were trying to do... something or other, and these kangaroos were in the office, jumping up and down on everything and making an absolute nuisance of themselves and a mess of the place. Everyone else was terrified or angry but I was sitting in a chair laughing at all the mayhem. One of the kangaroos was even wearing a suit I think.

Absolutely random but very enjoyable. I wanted to know where that dream was going... why is it always the interesting dreams that never get resolved because something wakes you up?

Tropez

DKLS wrote: »

His response wasn't rude it was brilliant, the rudeness was the family memory turning up uninvited and unexpected, expecting to be put up and no doubt fed and watered for free to boot.

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

They were rude or he was rude? If it's the first, then you are correct.

It's like one of DH's brothers, only comes round or phones when he wants something.

Buzzybee did thank my original post so I think she(?) did mean to say they were the rude ones.

Though what I did could be considered quite rude. Not everyone wants to hear about dirty, freaky parties first thing in the morning.

Buzzybee90

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

They were rude or he was rude? If it's the first, then you are correct.

It's like one of DH's brothers, only comes round or phones when he wants something.

They were, not Tropez! I didn't realise that could be misconstrued as Tropez's relative was unbelievable rude, especially as they weren't there to visit him.

Buzzybee90

DKLS wrote: »

His response wasn't rude it was brilliant, the rudeness was the family memory turning up uninvited and unexpected, expecting to be put up and no doubt fed and watered for free to boot.

Quite!.....

Mojisola

Tropez wrote: »

I think it had the desired effect as they called me a few unflattering names while I told them about the hotel they had to drive past to get to my house and soon enough they took their silly little Tango-mobile and vacated the premises.

Do you think this will be the last time they visit or will they forget about your tirade the next time they want a free hotel?

HPoirot

Oh Tropez, how could you? Tango family obviously thought you owed them the xmas stay, what better time to redeem it than at easter? :cool:

Tiglath

Have you told your Mum not to offer your place to stay for the family? Seems to me that's where at least part of the blame lies; she shouldn't see your home as the family hotel.

Brighton_belle

It's actually quite a relief to read someone able to stand up and say no to ghastly relatives. We get so many threads where people let themselves be walked all over , bullied and harassed by relatives, come on here for advice but seem unable to say a firm 'no'.


I'm not unsympathetic, I understand it is very hard to change the dynamic of relationships and the way you have always behaved in response to behaviour that is the norm in your family.
Perhaps even more so for some women, when we have been brought up to be passive, 'nice' etc.


So well done Tropez. I hope the message sinks in. And the kangaroos return tonight...

wapow

Tiglath wrote: »

Have you told your Mum not to offer your place to stay for the family? Seems to me that's where at least part of the blame lies; she shouldn't see your home as the family hotel.

Good point.


Also, well done Tropes for saying NO! Haha!