My [long string of expletives] family.

paulineb_2

toniq wrote: »

Think someones jealous of you being such a lovely fella!

Sad, obviously a reg, which makes it sadder.

We all love you if they don't it's their loss!

Oh and posting for thanks?!?!!? very school playgroundish. I have been Thanked 527,450 Times in 22,656 Post, So am I the next target of your jealousy?

It could be anyone, including a new user. Its a shame that anyone on here feels that other posters are thinking, it must be them, just because they havent gone OTT over the OP's original post.

The new profile who posted to stir things up could be anyone, thats absolutely obvious. There were people trolling a few of us the other week and most people think it is a reg on here, but it could be anyone and that goes for this random post as well.

I do care that someone who is generally as respectful as fbaby is on these boards has been made to feel that they are in the wrong for asking a very simple question about why this issue with the relatives wasnt sorted sooner.

And if that had been said on a post that wasnt clearly for laughs and giggles, more people might have said the same thing.

I think this thread has turned quite nasty actually. Because if you dont go with the majority view, you obviously got out of bed the wrong side, *rolls eyes*, you dont have a sense of humour (but no names mentioned, people just left to work out who it is), you are a moaner. The assumption being !!!!!! off out of our thread if you dont agree with absolutely everything thats been said so far.

My view is, I dont really care whether the OP said what he claimed to say in the opening post. Its clear there are issues that have been going on for some time with this family and how its all handled is entirely up to him. But as soon as someone questioned whether it could have been handled better, he exited the thread as he is entitled to do, saying he wouldnt post any more threads.

Its the nature of forums that you wont get people to agree with you all of the time, even on a subject thats light hearted. If you arent happy just because someone made a pleasant post asking why things couldnt have been sorted earlier, then why start the thread?

But if you do want a blog type thread where people follow your every day musings, then why not start one? Plenty of people have blogs on here. It might stop threads like this descending into name calling and eye rolling.

I think whats sad about this is that the thread turned less pleasant as soon as one person made a perfectly reasonable observation.

Tropez

paulineb wrote: »

It could be anyone, including a new user. Its a shame that anyone on here feels that other posters are thinking, it must be them, just because they havent gone OTT over the OP's original post.

The new profile who posted to stir things up could be anyone, thats absolutely obvious. There were people trolling a few of us the other week and most people think it is a reg on here, but it could be anyone and that goes for this random post as well.

I do care that someone who is generally as respectful as fbaby is on these boards has been made to feel that they are in the wrong for asking a very simple question about why this issue with the relatives wasnt sorted sooner.

And if that had been said on a post that wasnt clearly for laughs and giggles, more people might have said the same thing.

I think this thread has turned quite nasty actually. Because if you dont go with the majority view, you obviously got out of bed the wrong side, *rolls eyes*, you dont have a sense of humour (but no names mentioned, people just left to work out who it is), you are a moaner. The assumption being !!!!!! off out of our thread if you dont agree with absolutely everything thats been said so far.

My view is, I dont really care whether the OP said what he claimed to say in the opening post. Its clear there are issues that have been going on for some time with this family and how its all handled is entirely up to him. But as soon as someone questioned whether it could have been handled better, he exited the thread as he is entitled to do, saying he wouldnt post any more threads.

Its the nature of forums that you wont get people to agree with you all of the time, even on a subject thats light hearted. If you arent happy just because someone made a pleasant post asking why things couldnt have been sorted earlier, then why start the thread?

But if you do want a blog type thread where people follow your every day musings, then why not start one? Plenty of people have blogs on here. It might stop threads like this descending into name calling and eye rolling.

I think whats sad about this is that the thread turned less pleasant as soon as one person made a perfectly reasonable observation.

In a bid to get this to drop once and for all, I shall add this final post.

Firstly, I said I would not post any more light-hearted threads such as this one. That is it. I didn't say I wouldn't post any threads, or that I was leaving, or whatever else my simple words (which I have repeated/clarified several times) have been taken to mean.

I'm sure FBaby is a lovely person (you seem to know her better than I do) but this isn't the first thread of mine she has popped up in and criticised me. It is her right to criticise me, of course, and on previous occasions (including one time when she labelled me selfish) I've politely responded and tried to present the issue from my point of view. As this particular issue I have gone over with her before during the course of several posts, and she still feels that I am the one who "makes" the problem (because I completely control people showing up at my door, unannounced) I'm disinclined to again defend myself over it, so I just figure since it is clearly something she feels strongly about herself and she said as much after the fact, it's just easier for me not to post these types of threads any more, thus I don't get any questions that I don't want to be answering any more! Everyone wins

I admit, this thread is pointless; it serves no real purpose. If you've ever seen a TV show where a character says something they find funny and then laments the fact that nobody was around to hear it, that's what this was. Nothing more. It wasn't an invitation to discuss my family.

Because, regardless of what you may think about how I should deal with these matters, and regardless of how I would like to deal with these matters, it isn't as easy as that. I know what my family are capable of (would you like to see a picture of my back? Twenty years on and those marks are still there, so I'm told - and no, it isn't specifically these family members, though they knew about it and here's that dark place I didn't want this thread to go) and I know what they are like and I know they won't listen to me because they consider me to be little more than a rat turd. I don't need you psychoanalysing me and posting your amateur evaluations because I have a standing appointment with a therapist once a week for that purpose, okay?

My mum is a lovely person, she really is. I don't know what happened to the rest of the family - I have a theory that involves leaded water pipes and asbestos - but I keep the peace for her sake. When she's gone (which I certainly hope isn't any time soon) then I'll never have to see any of them again so gives a crap, right?

As for Socky McPuppeton I'm 99% sure I know who it is based on their posting style. They use similar words, make the same grammatical errors and have a particular way of typing run-on sentences as someone else here.

Just for you Socky - the reason I posted here for book recommendations when my wife was in hospital is twofold. Firstly, someone can recommend you one hundred books, movies, songs, albums - whatever really - and you could dislike all of them. I don't know if you've used Netflix but it likes to recommend things based on what you've watched; well I told it I liked Ghost Busters, it recommended Hostel Part 2 or 3 (one of the other). Amazon has done similar things with bizarre recommendations. So I find asking actual people for recommendations serves a purpose because you can see what they've read and compare it to what is on my wife's Kindle (there was a lot on there so it was unfeasible to write every single one down - it'd be longer than this post!) and then you can see who has similar tastes, weight their recommendations accordingly and then save some money!

The second reason (and by far the biggest reason) is I was going out of my mind worrying about her, going through all these horrific scenarios in my head about what happened, what could have happened etc., couldn't see or speak to her due to hospital restrictions and wanted a distraction to take my mind off the fact my wife could have bloody died that night. As I don't really like crying in front of (or on the phone to) my friends, I came on here and posted because at least the folks on here couldn't see me. I didn't want sympathy for what happened to her, I just wanted something to distract me.

Now that's it - if you anyone really wants to carry on arguing about this, be my guest. I'm going on holiday in a few days so it won't matter anyway.

spirit

Tropez, I really don't see why you feel you must stop your lighthearted posts just because the odd one or two people don't appear to appreciate them as much as dare I say, the majority of us do?

I wouldn't pander to them if it were me.

paulineb_2

Tropez wrote: »

In a bid to get this to drop once and for all, I shall add this final post.

Firstly, I said I would not post any more light-hearted threads such as this one. That is it. I didn't say I wouldn't post any threads, or that I was leaving, or whatever else my simple words (which I have repeated/clarified several times) have been taken to mean.

I'm sure FBaby is a lovely person (you seem to know her better than I do) but this isn't the first thread of mine she has popped up in and criticised me. It is her right to criticise me, of course, and on previous occasions (including one time when she labelled me selfish) I've politely responded and tried to present the issue from my point of view. As this particular issue I have gone over with her before during the course of several posts, and she still feels that I am the one who "makes" the problem (because I completely control people showing up at my door, unannounced) I'm disinclined to again defend myself over it, so I just figure since it is clearly something she feels strongly about herself and she said as much after the fact, it's just easier for me not to post these types of threads any more, thus I don't get any questions that I don't want to be answering any more! Everyone wins

I admit, this thread is pointless; it serves no real purpose. If you've ever seen a TV show where a character says something they find funny and then laments the fact that nobody was around to hear it, that's what this was. Nothing more. It wasn't an invitation to discuss my family.

Because, regardless of what you may think about how I should deal with these matters, and regardless of how I would like to deal with these matters, it isn't as easy as that. I know what my family are capable of (would you like to see a picture of my back? Twenty years on and those marks are still there, so I'm told - and no, it isn't specifically these family members, though they knew about it and here's that dark place I didn't want this thread to go) and I know what they are like and I know they won't listen to me because they consider me to be little more than a rat turd. I don't need you psychoanalysing me and posting your amateur evaluations because I have a standing appointment with a therapist once a week for that purpose, okay?

My mum is a lovely person, she really is. I don't know what happened to the rest of the family - I have a theory that involves leaded water pipes and asbestos - but I keep the peace for her sake. When she's gone (which I certainly hope isn't any time soon) then I'll never have to see any of them again so gives a crap, right?

As for Socky McPuppeton I'm 99% sure I know who it is based on their posting style. They use similar words, make the same grammatical errors and have a particular way of typing run-on sentences as someone else here.

Just for you Socky - the reason I posted here for book recommendations when my wife was in hospital is twofold. Firstly, someone can recommend you one hundred books, movies, songs, albums - whatever really - and you could dislike all of them. I don't know if you've used Netflix but it likes to recommend things based on what you've watched; well I told it I liked Ghost Busters, it recommended Hostel Part 2 or 3 (one of the other). Amazon has done similar things with bizarre recommendations. So I find asking actual people for recommendations serves a purpose because you can see what they've read and compare it to what is on my wife's Kindle (there was a lot on there so it was unfeasible to write every single one down - it'd be longer than this post!) and then you can see who has similar tastes, weight their recommendations accordingly and then save some money!

The second reason (and by far the biggest reason) is I was going out of my mind worrying about her, going through all these horrific scenarios in my head about what happened, what could have happened etc., couldn't see or speak to her due to hospital restrictions and wanted a distraction to take my mind off the fact my wife could have bloody died that night. As I don't really like crying in front of (or on the phone to) my friends, I came on here and posted because at least the folks on here couldn't see me. I didn't want sympathy for what happened to her, I just wanted something to distract me.

Now that's it - if you anyone really wants to carry on arguing about this, be my guest. I'm going on holiday in a few days so it won't matter anyway.

I didnt psychoanalyse you in the slightest and if you feel that way, thats entirely up to you. I also didnt make any "amateur" observations. I responded to a post that someone made about who the sockpuppet was.

As for knowing Fbaby better than you, I know her from posting on this forum, nothing more. I speak to a few people via PM, but havent spoken to her other than in the passing on threads. Sometimes when we've disagreed quite strongly, but she's always been respecful even when we are disagreeing and thats why I said what I said earlier.

But its very clear from the way you responded to my above post that you post very differently to someone when they agree with every word you say and when they don't, bordering on rude. Maybe that's something you might want to chew over when you decide who your target audience is when you post on here again.

Ive not stopped you starting threads on here, neither has Fbaby or anyone else. That was entirely your own decision.

And if you really do think you can post a thread and control whether people discuss your family or not, maybe a good idea would have been, not to start one discussing your family in the first place, because none of us can control the direction a thread takes, not even the person who started it (even if they put in big black letters at the bottom of their post as some people have done).

Oh and if you think me typing a sentence saying issues have been going on with your family for some time is psychoanalysing you. It was simple repeating what Fbaby said earlier on in the thread, that you had started a thread about your relatives and their behaviour previously. Thats not psychoanalysing you, any information youve ever posted about your family on here, the relatives that descended on you every Christmas for example has been posted by yourself and thats what Fbaby picked up on, that it had been going on for some time and it was still going on. Whatever. Im not a mind reader, Id know nothing about you if you hadnt posted previously. And you did exit the thread, saying that someone called you a troll when the poster said they didnt. If you didnt want drama in this thread, perhaps you shouldn't have added to it by your own actions.

But you can read more into I said than I actually intended if you like, that's entirely up to you.

Tropez

Ah, you know what, rather than the long reply that was here, I'll just sum my feelings up again with a Youtube video (a short one this time).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZWmHrjWhCKU

cloudy-day

Tropez - don't stop posting your witty observations please. 108 people have thanked you and therefore found it funny.

3 (or rather 2 if its a duplicate ID ) posters don't share your sense of humour and persist trying to relentlessly grind down anyone who dares to find you amusing.

108 v 2??

Majority rule says more of the same please Tropez. :beer:

SternMusik

Please don't stop posting Tropez. I love your threads. Ignore the kill-joys.

Bennifred

Let's start a petition! :j

We want Tropez to keep us chuckling!

Post "Yeah!" below if you agree.:beer:

Bennifred

"Yeah!"

Oh blast - too short!:mad:

How about "Yeah - keep posting, Tropez!"

Heffi1

paulineb wrote: »

I didnt psychoanalyse you in the slightest and if you feel that way, thats entirely up to you. I also didnt make any "amateur" observations. I responded to a post that someone made about who the sockpuppet was.

As for knowing Fbaby better than you, I know her from posting on this forum, nothing more.

Maybe that's something you might want to chew over when you decide who your target audience is when you post on here again.

Ive not stopped you starting threads on here, neither has Fbaby or anyone else. That was entirely your own decision.

It was simple repeating what Fbaby said earlier on in the thread, that you had started a thread about your relatives and their behaviour previously.


But you can read more into I said than I actually intended if you like, that's entirely up to you.

Pauline, I think FBaby is an adult and can defend herself you know.

Yet again you post another me me me post and look for approval. You have no authority here, this is not your thread and you should do everyone a favour and take your bad temper away with you until you can calm down and see that not everything is about YOU




Tropez, I for one find your posts interesting and amusing and like to read them, please do not let the small minded gang on here drive you away.