Brother wants us to babysit niece but dictates where we can take her

claire16c

emweaver wrote: »

You don't have children of your own, do you?

It is upto the parent where you take their child and what you do with them. You can either respect this or say you can not babysit.

There could be numerous reasons, either way they do not have to explain themselves.

Did you just miss the part where she listed her children's ages?!

Er they are asking the grandmother to baby sit!

claire16c

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Erm - I got sunburned on my face about a month ago in London. In fifteen minutes. And I've just walked home without a coat or jumper because it was too warm, even though it's noticeably cooler today than Wednesday.

Yes, I am pale and freckly, but a baby's skin is far more delicate.

It's around 8c at night - how can you not have a jumper on! Brrr! I have a jumper on in my house!

Spendless

spendingmad wrote: »

After an objective point if view

This weekend we are travelling 100miles to visit family over Easter and we (myself, DH, DD 11 & DS 8) are visiting my mum on Easter Saturday. My brother has asked my mum to babysit his daughter (10months) on Saturday from 1pm until the next day.

emweaver wrote: »

You don't have children of your own, do you?

Eh? The OP says in her opening post that you've quoted that she has a son and daughter and gives the ages. She's been a parent for the last 11 years. Did you mean to quote someone else?

spendingmad wrote: »

I have spoken to brother who is happy for us all to go out just not to the beach,

I'm glad you've spoken to your brother, him and your sis-in-law were the only ones who could tell you why they weren't happy with the idea.

Enjoy your bank hol weekend, whatever you end up doing.

tibawo

Omg... I realise leaving your baby especially the first can be nerve racking but if they didn't trust the grand parents then why are they asking in the first place?

My sis used to have a booster seat in her car for times like this, even now I know if she babysits on a Friday the chances are dd will go with her. The first time she did ask but have the time she uses her as an excuse to get a nice cream from mcdonalds!

Don't know if it's just me but I'd be glad of the me time!

FBaby

They don't have the right to question why the parents don't want the baby going on the trip, they just need to accept it. There will be other days for trips when babysitting has not being arranged"

I expect there won't be because I expect the grand-parents are seeing as they are treated no different to babysitters and next time, they will tell them that the baby would be even happier in their own home and they can pay for an expensive highly experienced babysitter to be at their beck and call. That certainly what I would be telling my children if I one day find myself in OP's mother's boots one day.

Kynthia

I would NEVER let anyone else take my child to the beach or a swimming pool without me and I would not want to take responsibility for someone else's child either. Other people don't watch a child as closely as their parents and it only takes a minute for things to go horribly wrong near water. As a child I had two scares and my sister one scare in water when others were 'looking' after us.

The brother has said he doesn't have a problem with the child being taken out, just not going to the seaside which is not unreasonable. They don't have to give you a reason you consider good enough as it's their child, and it doesn't mean they don't have one either. So now it's up to your parents to decide what to do and you should keep out of that discussion.

balletshoes

the OP has updated the thread late last night to say she's spoken to her brother and the reason he doesn't want his child going to the beach with the family is that they, the parents, want to be the first to take their child to the beach. So thats his reason - nothing to do with not trusting his mum, the one he has asked to babysit for him.

He has a reason and he's given it.

OP its one day, you'll have other days out with your parents, and possibly your brother and his child too. Just not the beach with your niece - yet. Enjoy your Easter weekend, whatever you end up doing .

FBaby

Other people don't watch a child as closely as their parents and it only takes a minute for things to go horribly wrong near water.

I have always find the exact opposite. I am much much more careful when I look after other people's children. That's because my children are naturally well aware of dangers and not dare devils, but I know that it is not the case for all children so would always up the supervision when they invited friends to join us out.

the reason he doesn't want his child going to the beach with the family is that they, the parents, want to be the first to take their child to the beach.

Then surely that's an even better reason to put the shopping off so they could join the family to a day out and for their baby's first day to the beach. They could always go away a bit early if needing to do so to go to the gig.

balletshoes

FBaby wrote: »

Then surely that's an even better reason to put the shopping off so they could join the family to a day out and for their baby's first day to the beach. They could always go away a bit early if needing to do so to go to the gig.

maybe they want their first trip to the beach as a family to be just the 3 of them?

joeblack066

delain wrote: »

I wouldn't be happy for someone to take a 10 month baby to the beach, purely because I've done similar before and total nightmare doesn't even cover it.

what exactly is the plan? Is it sitting on the beach or other stuff as well?

The 10 month old can't be trusted not to eat sand or dog ends/rubbish left behind on the beach
the 10 month old is way too young for typical 'seaside' amusements so will be stuck in a buggy bored rigid if thats your plan
The 10 month old is more than capable of crawling to the water and could drown in seconds... are you really going to watch her like a hawk every single second (and on a beach THAT WOULD be required)
Would the 10 month old be in the sun for excessive amounts of time?

Goo job I didn't think like this when I had 3 under 5 years old or the eldest would have had a rough time of it waiting for the others to grow up! I always managed to ensure that none of mine did any of these things, and my children grew up healthy, happy, and secure in the knowledge that we did things as a family, all taking care of each other.
The bottom line in this case is, does the Dad trust the Grandma & family to make good choices for his child. If not, don't ask them to babysit.