Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

claire16c

CATS wrote: »

Yesterday my son was getting off the train with his friends and they had their bikes with them, before they could all get off, my son was last, this woman with an olderly woman started to push to get on the train rather than wait for them to get off and called my son a stu pid C*** because he continued to get off.

I'd like to see her try that on the tube in London!

What a rude woman

Domayne

claire16c wrote: »

I'd like to see her try that on the tube in London!

What a rude woman

What tube are you taking? Because I'm on the Victoria line everyday and no one seems to wait for you to get off before pushing their way on anymore.
There are rude people from all generations - and some people that have aversions to anyone else having any kind of fun! If someone had a go at me purely for the fact that im LAUGHING whether they are old or young id tell them to do one, if they don't like noise perhaps they should invest in some earphones and drown the rest of the world out.

CATS

claire16, that is exactly what I thought!! In the tube she would have just been pushed out of the way. The thing is, it could even be dangerous for them to get on the train whilst he is still getting off, she could have accidentally been pushed or hit by the bike and then it would have been my son's fault! It's not even just old people because it sounds like this woman wasnt even that old. What annoys me is that if the boys would have been dressed in hoodies and looked rough, I bet they would not have said anything, however as the boys are usually dressed properly and look like nice boys they get abused!! she is lucky I wasnt there cause I would have put her in her place one adult to another.

Pollycat

CATS wrote: »

claire16, that is exactly what I thought!! In the tube she would have just been pushed out of the way. The thing is, it could even be dangerous for them to get on the train whilst he is still getting off, she could have accidentally been pushed or hit by the bike and then it would have been my son's fault! It's not even just old people because it sounds like this woman wasnt even that old. What annoys me is that if the boys would have been dressed in hoodies and looked rough, I bet they would not have said anything, however as the boys are usually dressed properly and look like nice boys they get abused!! she is lucky I wasnt there cause I would have put her in her place one adult to another.

It's a pity you weren't there because then we'd have had the story first-hand.

kafkathecat

I do feel for your son OP.

For some reason at around that age my ds had a hard time with other boys, adults and the police. As I home educate I have often seen with my own eyes people eyeing him and his friends suspiciously until they realise that he is with me, not just during school hours. I have also seen him and a friend being aggressively questioned by the police who became all sweetness and light when I approached.

I think this thread is evidence that many people think that all teenage boys are bad news and nothing they say can be trusted and I think that is a real problem in our society. If you treat people like they are no good that is how they will act.

Fortunately, it is just a phase which passes. Ds is now 16 but looks older and it only rarely happens these days.

pollypenny

Teenagers are noisy, I'd call them exuberant, especially at the end of school.

They weren't messing about, I think! The old guy has forgotten his youth and was extremely rude.

I can't remember catching the bus home from school and being told off for bring noisy. However, the noisiest lot were a group of older women , who had clearly just come from a meeting of something and would be laughing and talking at full volume ?

Teenagers are generally nice, funny youngsters.

CATS

kafkatthecat that is true, I see it in the shops too, sometimes he wonders off looking and I see the shop owners walk towards him, until they see him coming back to me, they then realise he is with a grown up, to be honest he has enough cash on him at any point to be able to buy something from the shop but its just the fact he is a teenager, they become suspicious. I guess its something he just has to get used to, like I say to him also if the police stop you just let them, you dont have anything to hide anyway so its fine

FBaby

Person_one wrote: »

Maybe, maybe...

None of those maybes mean its suddenly ok to be rude and call people hyenas! Do you think he'd have done the same to a group of adults?

Not ok at all, it is just that OP made it sound as if her son and friends are innocent sweet teenagers verbally abused by senior citizen for no reason at all and I somehow doubt it is as black and white in reality.

justme111

Your son is growing and is around without you. He is going to find people being rude to him as we all do time to time. Learning how to react is part of growing. It is useful to understand as well motives of those people and why they may react in a way they do.

kafkathecat

FBaby wrote: »

Not ok at all, it is just that OP made it sound as if her son and friends are innocent sweet teenagers verbally abused by senior citizen for no reason at all and I somehow doubt it is as black and white in reality.

I was once sat next to my son at a train station when an adult on the opposite platform began shouting abuse at him because he thought my son was staring at him (My son says he wasn't but of course that is only his word...). My son was 12 at the time.

This was the beginning of a tricky few years when other teenagers would ask for his phone or money or pizza, when adults would tut or mutter if he wasn't a silent statue and the police were generally less polite to him than they needed to be (he was never doing anything wrong just general questions).

Life just seems to be really hard for teenage boys and you have to see it yourself to believe it.