Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

justme111

Op , can you not honestly see it is a natural reaction for people who are intimidated to go into an attack mode ? I do not mean they are right in being rude , I mean when one feels intimidated one is annoyed with himself for feeling in that way and sees that group of youth as a cause of their discomfort. Before you say "why on earth one would be annoyed with kids that do nothing bad" - I would like to see what emotions you would feel if you happened to find yourself somewhere in Somali on your own and there would be groups of militant men around you.

cloudy-day

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

OMG! Yes, I'm sure he actively looked for a group of laughing young lads just so he could complain about it. Are you for real? What if the next nearest bus stop was quite a walk away?

Your first paragraph is that ludicrous it's :rotfl: What, even if it's causing a disturbance to other people?

Yes, it sounds like he did seek them out.

'Ludicrous?' To me someone being rude to a group of peple because they dared LAUGH is ludicrous, but then I suppose its how you want to live life isn't it?

Person_one

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe he needed to sit down and that was the only place to do so. Maybe he did say something and it wasn't heard. Maybe they ignored him because they thought they were doing nothing wrong and didn't appreciate that they were disturbing.

Maybe, maybe...

None of those maybes mean its suddenly ok to be rude and call people hyenas! Do you think he'd have done the same to a group of adults?

cloudy-day

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Do you really think we're stupid enough to do that?

Well it doesn't look like you read the OP's post Indie Kid becuase thats what she said happened......

cloudy-day

justme111 wrote: »

Op , can you not honestly see it is a natural reaction for people who are intimidated to go into an attack mode ? I do not mean they are right in being rude , I mean when one feels intimidated one is annoyed with himself for feeling in that way and sees that group of youth as a cause of their discomfort. Before you say "why on earth one would be annoyed with kids that do nothing bad" - I would like to see what emotions you would feel if you happened to find yourself somewhere in Somali on your own and there would be groups of militant men around you.

OK thats me done with this thread now. Its about an OAP being rude to a group of laughing teenagers. Its not about being on your own in Somalia with a group of militant men around you.

Utter madness.

koan_2

I'm not even an old person but I avoid buses and shops when the school kids are coming out :rotfl:

Not because they're bad kids, far from it, I just don't like the noise and the jabber-jabber. There was one occasion when the teens decided to have a fruit fight which wasn't so funny when the other passengers got pelted with bits of kiwi fruit :mad: but by and large they're ok, they're just being kids. We did the same, if not worse, when we were teens.


I think the rudeness and aggression towards them is based on fear and prejudice. If there's a group of youngsters they 'must' be up to something.. I'm sure if the teens said something back they'd be blamed.

Pollycat

cloudy-day wrote: »

OK thats me done with this thread now. Its about an OAP being rude to a group of laughing teenagers. Its not about being on your own in Somalia with a group of militant men around you.

Utter madness.

It's actually about an OAP allegedly being rude to a group of laughing teenagers.

Nobody actually saw or heard the exchange.

I'm not disputing that the OP's son is polite but I do believe that behaviours can change when a number of young people get together.

Note that I said 'can change'. I have not said 'did change' - because I wasn't there either.

I don't know if the incident happened exactly as it was told to the OP or if it didn't.
I think my response may be different if the OP had posted that she was there and saw & heard everything.

GwylimT

When we used to live in Aberystwyth the elderly on the bus tended to be rather rude, when my wife got on in her wheelchair they would refuse to sit in the proper seats which were reserved for the elderly and pregnant women, so each morning on the way to work it used to take a good ten minutes for the driver to explain to the same four OAP's that oddly enough the wheelchair bay is for wheelchairs and the OAP chairs are right there for them.

Pollycat

I find some elderly people (not all, not even the majority - just like my opinion of teenagers) can be quite rude when you wait and hold a door open for them.

They just waltz past as though it's their divine right to have the door held open for them.

But I'm damn sure that if I let the door go, they'd be telling all their contemporaries how rude I was.

My nephew - not even close to being a teenager - likes, for some reason, to hold doors open for people when we're out.
I've seen some ignorant people just totally ignore him and other people thank him profusely and say how polite he is.

Maybe it's just that some people are rude & grumpy and have always been.

But - on the subject of public transport and young people, one thing I missed from my post #29 is the astonishing number who get on, sit sideways on the seat with their back to the window and immediately put their feet on the adjoining seat.

Now that is just downright rude and inconsiderate.

Georgiegirl256

cloudy-day wrote: »

Yes, it sounds like he did seek them out.

'Ludicrous?' To me someone being rude to a group of peple because they dared LAUGH is ludicrous, but then I suppose its how you want to live life isn't it?

It was the "infact I'd actively encourage it" part I found ludicrous.