Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

tillyenna

I totally agree with you - I get so irritated by older people who are rude to 'youths' and prejudiced against them just because of their age.


The worst example I had to put up with was 10 years ago, I was 14, and sat down on a full bus. There were a few older people on the bus, and usually I would always stand to offer my seat, but for reasons that will become apparent, I hadn't on this occasion. The woman in front of me turned around, and spoke to the woman who was sat beside me asking her 'Is that your granddaughter' and when the woman beside me said no, she didn't know who I was, the other woman responded with 'well, someone ought to tell her to move and offer her seat to those who need it more'


I was, slightly incensed by her passive aggression, she could have confronted me directly, in a polite tone, instead of talking to another complete stranger in a snappy and irritated tone. Also I hate people who judge by appearances, so I did what any sane person would do... I bent down... picked up my crutches... hopped up onto my crutches offering the seat to an older man, and then went and stood beside the woman who had complained, my full leg cast in view.


I get equally dirty looks these days, due to having a non-visible disability, if the disable seat on a train is available, I will use that one, as it's closer to the door, so easier for me to get to, and means I can stretch out my legs a bit, but sat down, I look just like any healthy person - and I've had quite a bit of bother over that, mostly from the older generations I have to say.

supersaver2

Unfortunately you get rude people from all walks off life and all ages. I don't think the 'respect your elders' saying helps much!

I was in the Doctor this morning and a young mum with a little baby was also waiting. An elderly couple came in and sat next to young Mum and pram and were huffing and puffing and starting talking loudly about how prams shouldn't be allowed in Doctors waiting rooms, how it was inconsiderate to others and the lady said back when she used a pram you had to leave them outside, the poor girl went bright red. There was plenty of room, yet the elderly couple chose to sit next to this young mum! Could practically see the relief of her face when she was called in. I hope they felt good about themselves upsetting a person who could be at the Doctors for any number of reasons, totally uncalled for and rude.

FBaby

Person_one wrote: »

Moving away from the laughing is probably the best solution for that. He could also explain politely that the laughter is causing him pain and the vast majority of people (of any age) would then be considerate and tone it down.

I wonder if he would have called a group of laughing adult men 'hyenas'. I suspect not.

Maybe he needed to sit down and that was the only place to do so. Maybe he did say something and it wasn't heard. Maybe they ignored him because they thought they were doing nothing wrong and didn't appreciate that they were disturbing.

FBaby

cloudy-day wrote: »

So its OK to go to the buss stop outside a school just when the kids are coming out, sit down right next to a group that are chatting and laughing THEN complain rudely that they are making too much noise??

What strange thought processes you must have. :A

No, I'm respectful of older's people need. Maybe he lives right next to the school, maybe before the school was even there. Maybe he was there waiting and the kids came afterwards.

Whatever it is, I teach my kids not to be loud and noisy when there are people around just as I was taught by my parents, but clearly this is something that has gone, just have to go by the noise my neighbours' kids make. Shouting and screaming during the day, then the parents having loud noisy parties in the evenings, but the expectation is that we should be the one moving if we are not happy even though they moved after we were there.

Georgiegirl256

FBaby wrote: »

Loud laughing right next to your ears can be extremely stressful, even more for someone with a hearing aid.

Yes, this us very true. My Dad has two hearing aids and finds noisy situations quite stressful and finds it hard to hear what people who are talking to him are saying because of excess background noise, and he sometimes has to turn them off.

To the OP, the old man had as much right to be at that bus stop as your son and his friends did. Why should he have to move stops? I'm sure your son and his friends are a lovely polite bunch of young lads, but remember, you're only getting one side of the story, and it does seem very unlucky that 3 older people had a go at them doesn't it?

You get rude people at any age. Yes, a lot of old people can be rude, but so can a lot of young people, and so can a lot of people in between, I don't think you can really pin point any particular age group as being ruder than another, I've witnessed the most awful behaviour for both age groups.

FBaby

cloudy-day wrote: »

There we must disagree, I belive people (teens or anyone else) are allowed to laugh as loudly as they like. In fact I would positively encourage it.

I would also encourage anyone with hearing problems NOT to actively seek out and sit right next to a loud, laughing group and then complain about it. Common Sense they call it.

What a depressing post...really? I wonder if the response would be the same if these teenagers were woken up at 6am by those early riser pensioners deciding it is the best time to cut their grass. After all they can just wear ear plugs if they don't like it, pensioners are entitled to cut their grass when they are most fit

Buzzybee90

At risk of making a mass generalisation, elderly people grew up in a different time, similar to making comparisons between English teens and Spanish, completely different mindsets.

Georgiegirl256

Person_one wrote: »

I wonder if he would have called a group of laughing adult men 'hyenas'. I suspect not.

I suspect that if he was that way inclined, then he would. Although it's probably more a group of adult women who would be classed as hyenas tbh.

Georgiegirl256

cloudy-day wrote: »

There we must disagree, I belive people (teens or anyone else) are allowed to laugh as loudly as they like. In fact I would positively encourage it.

I would also encourage anyone with hearing problems NOT to actively seek out and sit right next to a loud, laughing group and then complain about it. Common Sense they call it.

OMG! Yes, I'm sure he actively looked for a group of laughing young lads just so he could complain about it. Are you for real? What if the next nearest bus stop was quite a walk away?

Your first paragraph is that ludicrous it's :rotfl: What, even if it's causing a disturbance to other people?

Indie_Kid

cloudy-day wrote: »

I would also encourage anyone with hearing problems NOT to actively seek out and sit right next to a loud, laughing group and then complain about it. Common Sense they call it.

Do you really think we're stupid enough to do that?