Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

whodathunkit

CATS wrote: »

Hi Duchy,

Yes they were being loud and laughing but because the bus stop is right outside their school and there were a lot of other kids about all having come out of school going home, can you imagine how loud everything must have been! but that is exactly my point, if you see a group, or groups of teenagers, the last thing I would do would be to approach a group and be abusive for no reason, if he didn't like it he could have gone to another bus stop. Can you imagine if the boys were not as nice and decided to retaliate, then it would be seen as a group of yobs picked on a poor elderly man who was minding his own business, blah blah blah

whodathunkit - exactly my point, a group of teenagers is intimidating so why would you purposely go and start being abusive? if they are not doing anything to you just let them be.

I am not blind to how teenagers act and I can imagine that they are loud, but that doesnt mean you have the right to pick on them when they haven't even looked at you, by abusing them you have put yourself in their radar and then would complain if they were to say something back.

Why on earth should an elderly person have to walk to another bus stop just to avoid a group of youths? Perhaps he felt it right to try to correct their behaviour, even if he felt threatened? A shame more adults don't act like this (as they used to) rather than being too cowed to say anything.

CATS

All I am saying is that seeing a huge amount of kids after school waiting for the bus he had a choice, if he did not want to see them laughing he had a choice to move away, as he chose to sit next to them, he didnt have to be abusive, he could have always been polite and said, am sorry lads but the noise is bothering me, would you mind keeping it down. He didn't have to be abusive about it, I am amazed that you find it a shame that more adults are not abusive to the kids! you just have to use the right words, I am a believer that you have to give respect to earn respect

BitterAndTwisted

If I wasn't present when any of these events took place I'd be taking it all with a pinch of salt. Knowing how to deal with rude people is character-building, whether they're the same age or much older.



"Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?"

Because they are idiots, that's why.

FBaby

Sorry but I'm not with you about the bus stop. That man is entitled to wait at the bus closest to him and to sit down without having his ear blown off from loud noise. Calling them hyenas was nice, but maybe that came after him asking them to tone it down and them totally ignoring it.

Same with the cup, why would he put a on the ground? Maybe this woman made a comment whether he was finishing it and the boy responded arrogantly prompting the rudeness. It is not excusable in any way, but teenagers together can have attitude issues they are unaware and that makes them less innocent then they like to see themselves. I do agree that AOP can be rude in a similar self-centred way just as I agree that teenagers can be lovely. I always remember the two teenage boys who knock on my door all apologetic to let me know that I had dropped my wallet next to my car in my front drive by the pavement.

CATS

BitterAndTwisted, I know what you mean. I am actually very proud of him for just ignoring them, he reacted better than I would have to be honest. Like I always tell him, people like that, you just need to ignore and not waste your time being rude back. I guess you are right, you get idiots at any age

cloudy-day

whodathunkit wrote: »

Why on earth should an elderly person have to walk to another bus stop just to avoid a group of youths? Perhaps he felt it right to try to correct their behaviour, even if he felt threatened? A shame more adults don't act like this (as they used to) rather than being too cowed to say anything.

'Correct their behaviour'???? Really? They were LAUGHING.

Yes, they are younger than you. Yes they are having a good time. But neither of these 2 things are a reason to think that you (or anyone else) can try to control their behaviour.

As a Mum of a well behaved 14 year old, I am astounded by the number of 'adults' who think he should walk in the road rather than they move from their 3 or 4 abreast formation. And don't get me started on people who ignore someone holding an open door for them. :mad:

whodathunkit

Person_one wrote: »

That's their problem though, there's no reason to find a group of 14 year old boys threatening other than prejudice.

Yes, teenagers can be boisterous and a bit loud, so what? We've all been teenagers, we know they're going to grow out of it soon enough, why not let them enjoy being young while they can?

When a man walks close behind a single female in a quiet area at night and scares her, is that her problem (based on prejudice) or should he be more thoughtful and think about how it might appear to her?

FBaby

'Correct their behaviour'???? Really? They were LAUGHING.

Loud laughing right next to your ears can be extremely stressful, even more for someone with a hearing aid.

Person_one

FBaby wrote: »

Loud laughing right next to your ears can be extremely stressful, even more for someone with a hearing aid.

Moving away from the laughing is probably the best solution for that. He could also explain politely that the laughter is causing him pain and the vast majority of people (of any age) would then be considerate and tone it down.

I wonder if he would have called a group of laughing adult men 'hyenas'. I suspect not.

Indie_Kid

FBaby wrote: »

Loud laughing right next to your ears can be extremely stressful, even more for someone with a hearing aid.

Indeed. I have problems with my ears and someone laughing loudly can be physically painful.