Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

cloudy-day

FBaby wrote: »

Loud laughing right next to your ears can be extremely stressful, even more for someone with a hearing aid.

So its OK to go to the buss stop outside a school just when the kids are coming out, sit down right next to a group that are chatting and laughing THEN complain rudely that they are making too much noise??

What strange thought processes you must have. :A

Indie_Kid

He may have had to come that way and there may not be a bus nearby.

cloudy-day

Indie_Kid wrote: »

He may have had to come that way and there may not be a bus nearby.

But you still think its OK for him to be rude though?

CATS

FBaby, the boys were not even sitting down, they were standing at the side and he chose to walk past a few groups of teenagers to go sit next to where they were standing and then proceeded to give them dirty looks and call them bloody hyenas. My point is, if all the noise is so close to you and it is bothering you move away a little. Usually in this bus stop you get around 50 kids waiting for the bus at one time and it happens every day! It is beyond the point I was just ranting about how rude adults can be to kids.
Honestly I get into an argument at least once a week because of the way some idiot treats a kid. I have actually seen adults put their hands on kids. The other day this boy about 11 runs into the train and holds the door, some idiot behind him decides to pull him as he is holding the door, only to see his mum and brother running to get on. I had to say something and told him to take his hands off the boy, once he saw his mum and brother he felt like an idiot as he thought the kid was only holding the doors to be a nuisance

Indie_Kid

cloudy-day wrote: »

But you still think its OK for him to be rude though?

No. And it's not ok for the kids to be making that much noise either.

cloudy-day

Indie_Kid wrote: »

No. And it's not ok for the kids to be making that much noise either.

There we must disagree, I belive people (teens or anyone else) are allowed to laugh as loudly as they like. In fact I would positively encourage it.

I would also encourage anyone with hearing problems NOT to actively seek out and sit right next to a loud, laughing group and then complain about it. Common Sense they call it.

Counter

cloudy-day wrote: »

As a Mum of a well behaved 14 year old, I am astounded by the number of 'adults' who think he should walk in the road rather than they move from their 3 or 4 abreast formation.

To be honest, I suspect that this isn't an "adults looking down on children" thing as I see this (and similar situations) everyday when it is an adult walking past. So many people have such little awareness of their surroundings that it is unbelieveable!

Pollycat

whodathunkit wrote: »

You're only hearing one side of the story.

Yep - and of course it's weighted towards the OP's son & friends. I wouldn't expect any different, even though the OP is posting from a second-hand viewpoint.
But I wonder what the other people would have posted on here about the same experience?

Having (unfortunately) to catch public buses that are filled with schoolchildren at certain times, I know how bad some of their behaviour can be. Not all of them, not even the majority of them, but the few that are abusive, rude and obnoxious can spoilt older people's perception of the whole peer group.
No, it's not right, but I can understand how it happens.

I have also been subject to personal harassment on public transport by teens on several occasions. Unlucky for them that I wasn't the 'little old lady' that I appeared to be. They had already caused an elderly lady to move seats because of their behaviour.

Having been on a bus with numerous half-empty & empty cans & bottles rolling round the floor, I can understand the reaction of the woman.



There's also those people who think everyone wants to share their choice in music, despite signs asking passengers not to play music loud enough for other people to hear. I'd say they were mostly teenagers and young adults.

On the other side of the coin, I think people who can't wait until
other passengers have alighted to try to board are very rude.
In my experience, this is not just elderly people. It's people of all ages (including teens) and all sexes.

Regarding the reply about the wheelchair user and the shopping trolley:
it's very clear on the public transport I use that a wheelchair user trumps everybody else (and quite right too). That person deserved being told (and I hope it was very loudly indeed to cause maximum embarrassment to them).

victory

I agree teenagers (not all) can be noisy, with their voices, laughter, music but even so that does not give the OAP any right whatsoever to name call them, if he cannot tolerate the noise for the few minutes the bus takes to arrive he had various options, knowing full well that at that time of day there was going to be as OP said 50 or so teenagers from school trying to get on the bus, he could have easily delayed for a few minutes his trip/need for a bus as his day would have not been defined by school leaving timings.... or he could have not gone past them, sat amongst the noise (there is plenty of room within the shelter, on the sides).

As for the wheelchair I have seen that before on the bus when the wheelchair man got on positioned himself and then a pushchair came on... she huffed and puffed and refused to take her child out of the easily folding push chair and put herself and her child on the bus without a fuss ( the man in the wheelchair would have been unable to get out, fold up his wheelchair) she was venemous with her words, completely unnecesary.

Buzzybee90

Nope, as a girl in my early twenties I've found middle aged and elderly people (of course with exceptions) to be the most caring, especially older men, but you have to give respect to receive it and personally I'd find it rude if a group of teens were laughing loudly on public transport.