Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

victory

CATS wrote: »

FBaby, I love how you now seem to know what my response to him telling me about the incident was. I dont recall having writen down anywhere that I said how dare he being rude. In fact the reason I know what happened was because I continued to ask questions about what happened. My son came home and laughing said "mummy I was called a bloody hyena today by a man" I then proceeded to ask why, how where, when, what was the situation, what did he say, what did the man say etc etc. From that I found out exactly what had happened. And no, I did not tell my son I was outraged that the man had been so rude, I actually said sometimes people are having a bad day and its better not to respond and get into a confrontation, it is better to just let it go if its not harming you. This is why it isn't wise to assume what others have said and done, it is isually better to get the facts. My son is an only child and believe me I spend a lot of time educating him on his behaviour and actions, hence why I have a well rounded teenager who causes me no issues, I am well aware that is far from perfect but trust me he knows how to behave in public and at home, in fact I have always had nothing but good compliments about him, however I am not going to expect him to be the only quiet one in a group of 50 kids all laughing and talking outside their school!!

I believe the incident, I have seen incidents as you describe first hand, the youngsters being loud and laughing and the elders complaining and demanding they stop, I have seen it, as well as name calling from both sides, I have heard an elder being called 'a cripple' which is unforgiveable as much as I have heard an elder call a child ' an ignorant $%^& who must have made her mother cry with shame that something like you was dragged up' equally unforgiveable, I have seen youngsters knock to the floor the elders walking stick, giggle, get on the bus and not even look back and I have also seen a youngster with a leg cast been told he could not sit there (at the front of the bus) and to go and find himself another seat....

Whichever generation, name calling, antagonizing, reacting, the lack of respect or tolerance, it is all wrong

adouglasmhor

wapow wrote: »

never knew we had so many innocent teenagers out and about and all these mothers who feel their kids do no harm.

Where did you get that from? Are you replying on the right thread?

victory

The absolute worse one I have ever had the misfortune to witness was the young girl with her child in the pushchair who refused point blank to take child out of pushchair and get on the bus because the disabled spot was full with a lovely middle aged man in his wheelchair (he has MS, I have seen him often on the bus)

she screamed and shouted at the bus driver (did not want to wait for another bus) the man in the wheelchair was beyond humiliated, he just wanted the floor to open up and swallow him, no one spoke up, everyone looked to the floor , it was the worst act of ignorance, untolerance, disrespect I have ever had to experience, to this day I still berate myself for not having the guts to have said something, she needed putting back in her place and no one did it.:o

Fortunately she made such a fuss that the bus driver said unless she alights he would call the police, her potty mouth and her little one eventually got off, not until she kicked the bus doors and kept on...

Georgiegirl256

victory wrote: »

They are usually putting everyone down around them, everyone they know, their grandkids, their daughters, their sons, the man in the shop that just served them, the bus driver for not being happy enough..

OAP have endless chatter worth of what life has done wrong for them from their useless family who do not care for them to the NHS to the shop assistant to the doctor to the weather to the delivery driver...

And all of the above is a problem because? How rude and disrespectful. You don't know what you're going to be like when you're older.

I think it's now been concluded that you get rude people at any age....pre teens, teens, people in their 20's, 30's, 40's and so on and so on, you get the drift.

All this this pointless thread has turned into is an OAP bashing mission and to a certain extent a teen bashing mission, and I for one think it's disgusting.

victory

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

And all of the above is a problem because? How rude and disrespectful. You don't know what you're going to be like when you're older.

I think it's now been concluded that you get rude people at any age....pre teens, teens, people in their 20's, 30's, 40's and so on and so on, you get the drift.

All this this pointless thread has turned into is an OAP bashing mission, and I for one think it's disgusting.

Not sure what you are meaning?

CATS

Victory that is awful, I know I keep getting told one day I will get hurt, but I would have told her where to go - thank goodness my DS does not take after me I cant tolerate injustices and people behaving like that towards another human being. I often get in between fights and stop to help people because as a society we cannot allow behaviour and disrespect like this. The way I see it is one day that could be my child, mother, brother, husband I would like someone to say something. Hence I get annoyed that people are rude to kids just because they are kids! but I guess we get rudeness at any age by the looks of it

Georgiegirl256

victory wrote: »

Not sure what you are meaning?

I thought it was pretty self explanatory myself.

Pollycat

I agree that rudeness & inconsideration for others is not confined to age, gender or class.

victory

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I thought it was pretty self explanatory myself.

Well then thanks for the explanation:p

FBaby

I actually said sometimes people are having a bad day and its better not to respond and get into a confrontation, it is better to just let it go if its not harming you.

Ok, so you didn't say exactly what I assumed, but you said in your first post you wished your son had said something back. The response above still implies that all the fault was on the elderly man with no consideration that maybe your son's actions were not faultless, hence back to the point I was trying to make that my response would have been different despite agreeing with you about the man's rudeness. As a matter of fact, I probably would have told my daughter that her and her friends did probably sound like hyenas but that it didn't justify anyone cursing at them.

however I am not going to expect him to be the only quiet one in a group of 50 kids all laughing and talking outside their school!!

There is a difference between expecting to be quiet and appreciating that 50 kids laughing together can be stressful for those who are not part of the group.