Why are adults rude to kids and then expect respect?

justme111

People who hold the doors and then if one have.not noticed it and offended them with not noticing get into lecturing a stranger on good manners are incredibly rude in my opinion.

adouglasmhor

A funny one happened to me (after the sturm and drang of my last story) I was caught in a sudden downpour in a pedestrianised street in Glasgow city centre and by chance I was wearing shorts. I went into a large bookshop which also had a coffee shop to sit it out, and a “lady” came through the door behind me and blithely unaware shook her wet umbrella onto my bare calves. I would have said something if I could have drawn breath at that point. AHHHHHHHHH!

Pollycat

justme111 wrote: »

People who hold the doors and then if one have.not noticed it and offended them with not noticing get into lecturing a stranger on good manners are incredibly rude in my opinion.

Maybe 'incredibly rude' in your opinion, but actually just particular about politeness.

And what do you think constitutes a 'lecture'?

Do you really think that people like me & aileth & Gobbldygook & her daughter spend hours outside M&S remonstrating with rude, mannerless people? :rotfl:

I guess you must be one of those people who don't consider it necessary to say 'thank you'.

Indie_Kid

victory wrote: »

They try to intimidate you not to even conceive to sit in the seat they think is their God given right to sit in...

They often ask/insist to sit in that seat and loudly suggest for yout to move elsewhere, trying often to trump you on what they have/the reasons why they have to have that seat over why you cannot possibly sit there...

This happened to me. He asked me if I could read the sign which says priority seats for disabled / elderly. I then said that I am disabled too. He then tried to shake my hand, which I ignored. Call me rude; but why would I want to shake the hand of someone who has just decided that I maybe shouldn't sit in a seat that I am perfectly entitled to sit in?

On the subject of doors - I was at London Excel and had to walk through a pair of double doors. I also had my mobility cane with me. The people in front of me just decided to slam the door in my face.

Person_one

GobbledyGook wrote: »

There are rude people of all ages, but I have to admit adults being rude to children is my pet peeve. How can we expect/insist on good manners from children if adults don't set them the example?

One of the downsides to having a child who has quite a logical train of thought is having to think of answers on this very subject! I expect my children to be polite all the time, but I had to to admit it was understandable when DD1 pointed out she was fed up of holding doors when 28 people in one weekend's shopping (I didn't realise she was keeping count!) didn't say thank you and in fact one caught her with her handbag and didn't acknowledge that either.

A while back I posted on here about an elderly person who shouted at me for having a rude child because my daughter said 'You're welcome'. Now while she maybe was a bit cheeky I could see her point entirely as she'd stood for ages holding the door while a whole group of elderly people from the bowling club went through and not a single one said thank you.

Maybe it's just where I live, but I'm on crutches at the moment so when I get on the bus I've got crutches plus 3 year old and there are far more teenage boys who have offered to help/give up a seat/carry a bag than any other age group. It's also the same in shops where it's mostly teenage boys who've held doors.

Teenage girls (the ones with the orange foundation) and elderly folks are the rudest in my experience.

If I could thank the whole post except the final sentence I would have done!

Its not fair to generalise about teenage girls with too much makeup on or elderly people anymore than it is about children or teenage boys.

ska_lover

wapow wrote: »

never knew we had so many innocent teenagers out and about and all these mothers who feel their kids do no harm.

Never known such prejudice against teenagers. Most of them are genuinely a good bunch... and you were once once

It really does amaze me that people are so nervous around teenagers and it makes me wonder why, were the people who are so scared now, so bad themselves as teenagers? - what is there to be nervous of? they aren't all bad by a long shot.

ska_lover

victory wrote: »

OAP's do not believe in queing, they tut loudly if the bus is a millisecond late and will push and prod anyone in their way, old or young to get on the pass and get a seat for themselves, they could not give two hoots about anything or anyone so long as they sit together (not all I know not all)

This, was the very reason an OAP pushed my son into the road

paulineb_2

Well my mum is an oap, she's 65. I've never known her to be rude to anyone on public transport in her life. She's active and fit, wouldn't expect to get on a bus first if other people were in a queue before her just because she has a bus pass. Definitely not all.

Some people are probably rude their entire lives.

wapow

Doctorwho wrote: »

:rotfl::T

Great post. OAPs are by a country mile, the rudest and most obnoxious generation of all. The ones who claim to be hard-done-by. Yet are the most well off by far.

I have no more respect for them than any other generation ... You earn respect! You don't just get it because you're over 60!

As for the poster above - unless you are always with your mother, every single second of every single day, you cannot say that she is 'never rude.' Puts me in mind of parents who think their ghastly little offspring cannot put a foot wrong.

They went through the World War. So they were hard done by.
They are well off because they worked hard and earned.

aimeemum

wapow wrote: »

They went through the World War. So they were hard done by.
They are well off because they worked hard and earned.

The majority of them did not 'go through' a world war. Average life expectancy nowadays is mid 80s. The 2nd WW ended nearly 70 years ago. The majority of OAPs were either very young and don't really remember, or weren't even around for the war years! This is what gets me.....My father passed away last year. He was born in 1927 and had briefly been in the RAF for the final 6m of the war once he was old enough. He even said he wasn't really 'in the war' as he didn't really have to put up with much....he was living at home, still going to school and had a paper round. He was fed and clothed albeit to a budget thanks to his mum. Hardly what I would call 'hard done by'. Consequently this whole 'holier than though', the world owes us for it's freedom thing, is mis-placed. That was the previous generation in most cases, not this. This generation is the baby-boomers.