Is there any way to motivate the missus to lose weight? Running out of ideas...

Gigervamp

FBaby wrote: »

It's not about male vs female more likely overweight and self conscious vs not!

I think it's a bit of both.

PenguinOfDeath

Mirno wrote: »

I don't have any advice to give unfortunately OP. But I did want to point out this thread:
https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4912452

It seems like it's OK for a wife to try to get her husband to lose weight, but not the other way around...

Mirno

My very first thought when reading the OP. The mind boggles.

Gigervamp

Tink2 wrote: »

I'm not surprised she's hiding food from OP, his attitude towards her is appalling

He doesn't address it, she's the one who has to address it not OP

I agree that it's down to her, but other posters are asking OP why there's junk food in the house as if it's his fault for it being there to tempt her.

He can't take her money and cards away. He can't pick her up from work and make sure she doesn't stop off to replenish her snacks.

So, the question to those who are asking why there's junk food in the house is, how's he meant to stop there being junk food around?

Tink2

Gigervamp wrote: »

I agree that it's down to her, but other posters are asking OP why there's junk food in the house as if it's his fault for it being there to tempt her.

He can't take her money and cards away. He can't pick her up from work and make sure she doesn't stop off to replenish her snacks.

So, the question to those who are asking why there's junk food in the house is, how's he meant to stop there being junk food around?

Oh right I see what you mean and yeah I agree

paulineb_2

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

My very first thought when reading the OP. The mind boggles.

I posted on that thread and there were some quite strong differences of opinion there.

paulineb_2

Gra76 wrote: »

If I'd have known I'd be spending half my day trying to justify why I'm trying to help the missus out I'd not have bothered. For the record I've called her 'the missus' that ever since we got married, she calls me 'bloke', neither are 'derogatory terms' so I don't know where that's come from.

Next time I feel the need to post anything like this I'll post is as a female and bask in unequivocal support, limitless positive suggestions and multiple posters who will quite happily turn the tables on the male populace... I've no doubt that had I posted this as a woman saying it was my husband then there would have been plenty of namecalling aimed at the husband and zero at the wife. Turn it the other way and all of a sudden I'm the bad man for trying to help her when she asks for it. The double standards displayed dependant upon the sex of the OP is astounding. :rotfl:

I posted on that thread thats been quoted. Not everyone agreed with the person who started the thread. There was some quite strong differences of opinion in parts. The man in question was also very overweight, more than 5 or 6 stones overweight and his weight was having an effect on his health and their marriage.

You cant compare the threads. Youve actually had some people on here who agree with you. Youve also had advice and suggestions from people who may not but still want to try and offer advice.

Yet you just want to focus on the negative parts.

Tink2

Gra76 wrote: »

If I'd have known I'd be spending half my day trying to justify why I'm trying to help the missus out I'd not have bothered. For the record I've called her 'the missus' that ever since we got married, she calls me 'bloke', neither are 'derogatory terms' so I don't know where that's come from.

Next time I feel the need to post anything like this I'll post is as a female and bask in unequivocal support, limitless positive suggestions and multiple posters who will quite happily turn the tables on the male populace... I've no doubt that had I posted this as a woman saying it was my husband then there would have been plenty of namecalling aimed at the husband and zero at the wife. Turn it the other way and all of a sudden I'm the bad man for trying to help her when she asks for it. The double standards displayed dependant upon the sex of the OP is astounding. :rotfl:

If you were a female doing the things you said you did in the OP I would still think your attitude towards your partner was appalling, my opinion has nothing to do with you being a man

quidsy

Stop being a victim, you posted in the interweb, people will disagree with you but tbh I've seem some really viscious threads & this isn't one of them. You have been offered some advice, some people have agreed with you that it is difficult to get a partner to help themselves, what exactly do you want? A magic solution to your wifes problem? Isn't going to happen.

System

Look its simple. You don't understand.

We all want to be slim.... we just don't like the process of dieting.

Nothing you can do or say will make a jot of difference. Its all down to self worth.

stripey1969

I've found calorie counting a lot simpler using MyFitnessPal - it records it all for you, even works out how much you need to drop your calorie intake by in order to lose e.g. a pound a week. You can also record your exercise and how many calories you've burned (so you can then spend them on burritos instead of salad - or is that just me? - anyway, it's a great way to motivate yourself to exercise!)

Not sure this'll work on your wife though, she does seem determined to find reasons to avoid this stuff.

The minute she DOES do some dieting you've got to heap the praise and encouragement on her, and tell her you can already see a difference (even if you can't!)