Arguing over money!

Tink2

Mojisola wrote: »

What happens when one of the couple is ill, unemployed, staying at home to look after children, etc?

I can only speak for my relationship and cutting out the kid thing but if I was covering his side of the bills because he was unemployed I would expect he pay me back when he get a job

poet123

Tink2 wrote: »

I can only speak for my relationship and cutting out the kid thing but if I was covering his side of the bills because he was unemployed I would expect he pay me back when he get a job

That seems really odd to me in a long term relationship. Surely, his not having a job is a shared issue not one that is his problem alone?

Mojisola

Tink2 wrote: »

I can only speak for my relationship and cutting out the kid thing but if I was covering his side of the bills because he was unemployed I would expect he pay me back when he get a job

It is just money that's 50/50 or do you keep track of who does what chores, and so on?

My OH and I have chosen to share our lives and finances are a big part of life. Sometimes we've earned the same, sometimes one has earned more than the other but what money comes into the household is joint money.

Person_one

Tink2 wrote: »

I can only speak for my relationship and cutting out the kid thing but if I was covering his side of the bills because he was unemployed I would expect he pay me back when he get a job

Nice to have you and your black and white thinking back on the boards Think!

Tink2

poet123 wrote: »

That seems really odd to me in a long term relationship. Surely, his not having a job is a shared issue not one that is his problem alone?

It's both our problem in terms of money but I shouldn't have to support him with no payback and it would be the same if I was unemployed

Tink2

Mojisola wrote: »

It is just money that's 50/50 or do you keep track of who does what chores, and so on?

My OH and I have chosen to share our lives and finances are a big part of life. Sometimes we've earned the same, sometimes one has earned more than the other but what money comes into the household is joint money.

He does the chores as I am unwell

Indie_Kid

Tink2 wrote: »

Maybe the opinion I have on this is caused by my own relationship but I will always be in the it should be 50/50 camp

Even if one earns significantly more than the other one?

Mojisola

Tink2 wrote: »

It's both our problem in terms of money but I shouldn't have to support him with no payback and it would be the same if I was unemployed

But isn't that what a couple do - support each other emotionally, financially, etc?

Would you leave him if he became longterm sick and wasn't able to work again?

Tink2

Indie_Kid wrote: »

Even if one earns significantly more than the other one?

Yes

Mojisola wrote: »

But isn't that what a couple do - support each other emotionally, financially, etc?

Would you leave him if he became longterm sick and wasn't able to work again?

No I wouldn't leave him

Mojisola

Tink2 wrote: »

No I wouldn't leave him

But he'd never be able to pay his way or pay back what he owes you.