Arguing over money!

System

I have never "presumed" he would pay most of the bills/let me off with the money I owe him. We had already discussed this before I moved in.

Currently we both pay in half of our earnings for the "household" which we agreed on when I moved to Bristol.

Now I have a budget plan/being paid correctly by my employer, I will be able to start paying him back what I borrowed.

So whats the problem apart from you never having any money?

After 6 years of a LDR there is only so much not being together you can take. Why do people get married? That puts them in thousands of pounds worth of debt, yet they still do it!

More fool them.

dandelionclock30

I'd not marry him Bunnie if I were you, leapoards and misers dont change their spots in my experience.
Hes tried to isolate and control you from what you have said.

egoode

BunnieJ wrote: »

We do have separate friends, but I left all mine when I moved to Bristol, so I have kind of been tagging along with his friendship group since I moved.

I think it's a bit crazy he got upset with you adding his friends to facebook but maybe you should also start doing some of your own things so you can find some friends of your own. Do you have any interests he's not that into that you could look for a local group? If you like sports maybe try and join a sports team.

The hardest part of moving to a new place is finding/starting new friendships and you are probably not feeling an urgent need to get out there and find new friends when you can just hang out with him.

Brighton_belle

BunnieJ wrote: »

After 6 years of a LDR there is only so much not being together you can take. Why do people get married? That puts them in thousands of pounds worth of debt, yet they still do it!

Slightly off topic, but it is very easy to get married and not get into debt... just have the wedding you can afford.

tayforth

BunnieJ wrote: »

After 6 years of a LDR there is only so much not being together you can take. Why do people get married? That puts them in thousands of pounds worth of debt, yet they still do it!

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Slightly off topic, but it is very easy to get married and not get into debt... just have the wedding you can afford.

You took the words out of my mouth, Brighton belle! Why some people borrow to pay for a wedding is beyond me. :eek: