Neighbour problems

carefullycautious

I cannot see anything wrong with the op stating what is happening and how it is impacting on her children and herself.

The mother of this disabled child sounds either depressed or has been tackled before and now is not interested in what the neighbours say.

I would be very concerned about the rock throwing and would seek help from a mediator to try to resolve these issues.

I know that I could not cope with this going on for hours on end, I would be very concerned as to why this child is not in some sort of educational establishment. Surely children are not just left at home with nothing to do all day.

Is the garden backing onto yours or by the side. I wonder how their immediate neighbours cope with this going on.

It is a very sad situation especially for the child who appears desperate for some sort of interaction with other, that would concern me the most.

Morrismorris

carefullycautious wrote: »

I cannot see anything wrong with the op stating what is happening and how it is impacting on her children and herself.

The mother of this disabled child sounds either depressed or has been tackled before and now is not interested in what the neighbours say.

I would be very concerned about the rock throwing and would seek help from a mediator to try to resolve these issues.

I know that I could not cope with this going on for hours on end, I would be very concerned as to why this child is not in some sort of educational establishment. Surely children are not just left at home with nothing to do all day.

Is the garden backing onto yours or by the side. I wonder how their immediate neighbours cope with this going on.

It is a very sad situation especially for the child who appears desperate for some sort of interaction with other, that would concern me the most.

Their garden backs onto mine, the neighbours either side have, like them, a tiny garden and they only use it for drying washing ( might be differnet in the summer but I doubt it) there not room to swing a cat.

He definitely doesn't go to a mainstream school but I think he does go somewhere for a few hours a day.

I don't think speaking to his parents is going to make any difference. Maybe they can't help him shouting but I think the banging on the window and rock throwing could be addressed.

dandelionclock30

I think the rock throwing needs sorting out but to be honest you do sound a bit intolerant. I mean you have little kids yourself and they will be shouting and screaming themselves in the garden all the time.

thorsoak

Unless you too have a tiny garden, I fail to see how a 10 year old can throw "rocks" with enough force to land on your decking. But anyway, if you are installing a 6ft high fence, he isn't going to get enough trajectory on any throw to land anywhere but the end of the garden where you are planting bushes & trees.

That problem will be solved.

Morrismorris

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I think the rock throwing needs sorting out but to be honest you do sound a bit intolerant. I mean you have little kids yourself and they will be shouting and screaming themselves in the garden all the time.

I hardly think I'm intolerant. For the past 2 months, since we have been using the garden. Every single day without fail I have rocks thrown at us, someone shouting at the top of their lungs for hours on end hello hello and then banging on windows..for hours a t a time.

I have said nothing I have spoken to the child and told my children to be nice and speak. It makes no difference. Today I have gone round and practically had the door closed in my face and told to watch my children better because she can't move some rocks or discuss anything it would seem

If that's being intolerant I would hate to think what your idea of tolerant is.

Mojisola

thorsoak wrote: »

Unless you too have a tiny garden, I fail to see how a 10 year old can throw "rocks" with enough force to land on your decking. But anyway, if you are installing a 6ft high fence, he isn't going to get enough trajectory on any throw to land anywhere but the end of the garden where you are planting bushes & trees.

That problem will be solved.

The problem would also be solved if the child's parents removed whatever he's throwing from their garden and supervising him and teaching him that it's wrong.

Morrismorris

thorsoak wrote: »

Unless you too have a tiny garden, I fail to see how a 10 year old can throw "rocks" with enough force to land on your decking. But anyway, if you are installing a 6ft high fence, he isn't going to get enough trajectory on any throw to land anywhere but the end of the garden where you are planting bushes & trees.

That problem will be solved.

We have an odd shaped garden, but obviously you have the ability to know the size and shape of both gardens without having seen them. Trust me he can throw rocks very well and with some force, but if that's the only little flaw you can find with the post you weren't going to legitimize earlier, I will let you have it

Morrismorris

Mojisola wrote: »

The problem would also be solved if the child's parents removed whatever he's throwing from their garden and supervising him and teaching him that it's wrong.

No, I should probably go round and move them for the woman. This is all entirely my fault for daring to want to enjoy my garden and asking for suggestions on how to solve the issue.

FatVonD

If you have a solid fence then he won't be able to see you (though will still be able to hear when you're in the garden) and, if you have the depth on your garden, then the suggestion of a summer house along the back sounds lovely (or if you don't have the depth/it's too expensive maybe a row of small sheds painted like beach huts?)

We had a neighbour with a disabled son who made noises in the garden. It was disconcerting the first time but (like the trains) we grew not to notice it but admittedly in our case he wasn't directly addressing us.

FatVonD

Could you plant a strategically-placed tree in the sight line of the window to your garden?