What can I do .... Dog differences

victory

paulineb wrote: »

My mum had 3 of my cats for 17 nights when I was getting a new kitchen in, plus I had to wait a week for the job to be signed off, just made life easier. My cats wouldnt go in a cattery, they were fine with my mum as they know her, but one of my cats in particular is really funny with strangers, he hid the first time my brother visited my mum, hasnt seen my brother in a few years and only came out the second time when my brother patted him and went over to see him where he was hiding.

Im lucky

victory

Person_one wrote: »

It could have cost that, a lot of dog beds look very alike despite huge differences in price:

http://www.petspyjamas.com/product/Donut-Bed-Balmoral-Slate/MAH-00077/?cat_id=2

http://www.worldstores.co.uk/p/Doggie_Solutions_Oval_Premium_Faux_Suede_Memory_Foam_Softee_Dog_Bed_Size_6.htm?utm_source=PLA&utm_medium=pets&utm_campaign=DSOL:MFPSOFT6-TAN&srccode=cii_18615224&cpncode=34-158554599-2

Uhm could have done, I will have to come across as quite catty now then to say that if it cost that amount, it was a very very long time ago:o

Person_one

victory wrote: »

Uhm could have done, I will have to come across as quite catty now then to say that if it cost that amount, it was a very very long time ago:o

Dogs can get very attached to their beds, especially if its a dog that's prone to anxiety/stress.

You've basically told your friend that you don't think she's caring for her dog adequately. There are bound to be consequences to the friendship for that, whether you're right or not.

victory

Person_one wrote: »

Dogs can get very attached to their beds, especially if its a dog that's prone to anxiety/stress.

You've basically told your friend that you don't think she's caring for her dog adequately. There are bound to be consequences to the friendship for that, whether you're right or not.[/

Person_one

victory wrote: »

The dog is 8, enough said.

Um, ok...

So you clearly think that they aren't caring for their dog adequately. You're allowed to think that, you're even allowed to tell them that, but you can't then be surprised that they don't want to talk to you and aren't very happy with you! That was inevitable, surely?

Georgiegirl256

Yes it was very good of you to look after your friends dog, but unless the dog is looking seriously uncared for, then tbh it really was none of your business to poke your nose in where it wasn't wanted. From the sounds of it, your friend totally overreacted, but you can't blame her for being abit annoyed, as basically you are insinuating that she isn't caring/doesn't care for/about the dog....not as good as you would. It's her dog, not yours, and as long as it's healthy then you really shouldn't have said anything.

As others have said, the dog was probably just displaying signs of anxiety at being away from his home, and therefore the restlessness and loose bowels. The dog maybe really loves that bed, animals can become attached to things too.

By mentioning that you would buy a new bed, you've probably offended her in that way too, by insinuating that she can't afford to look after her own dog properly. Yes, she totally over-reacted, but I don't think she's the one in the wrong here.

victory

Person_one wrote: »

Um, ok...

So you clearly think that they aren't caring for their dog adequately. You're allowed to think that, you're even allowed to tell them that, but you can't then be surprised that they don't want to talk to you and aren't very happy with you! That was inevitable, surely?

If you were to see with your eyes the dog bed you would agree the dog bed has lost its quality, as for the rest uhm it's about a dog bed and post 1 surprised? Wouldn't anyone be?:o

victory

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yes it was very good of you to look after your friends dog, but unless the dog is looking seriously uncared for, then tbh it really was none of your business to poke your nose in where it wasn't wanted. From the sounds of it, your friend totally overreacted, but you can't blame her for being abit annoyed, as basically you are insinuating that she isn't caring/doesn't care for/about the dog....not as good as you would. It's her dog, not yours, and as long as it's healthy then you really shouldn't have said anything.

As others have said, the dog was probably just displaying signs of anxiety at being away from his home, and therefore the restlessness and loose bowels. The dog maybe really loves that bed, animals can become attached to things too.

By mentioning that you would buy a new bed, you've probably offended her in that way too, by insinuating that she can't afford to look after her own dog properly. Yes, she totally over-reacted, but I don't think she's the one in the wrong here.

Dog was anxious, nervous, bad Bowels but as others have explained that maybe due to missing owner, unfamiliar surroundings? All bowel troubles happily cleaned up by me. I don't know anything about psychology of dogs but I would guess the poor thing was distressed in unfamiliar surroundings?

*max*

I essentially agree with above posters. They maybe reacted badly, but they must have felt very offended. Basically you told them they were 1/incapable of noticing the bed was worn and 2/incapable of paying for it, which equals to them not caring properly for their dog. Maybe you can't see it this way, but it doesn't make it less true.

So even if they were OTT in their reaction ("incandescent with rage" Really?), you were in the wrong in this case too.

Added to this, dogs get very attached to their "things". The bed, no matter how tatty it looks to you, will be very special to this dog. It's comforting and reminds it of home - especially in a situation where he is cared for at a stranger's house, which will have been very stressful (hence the loose bowels!).

victory

*max* wrote: »

I essentially agree with above posters. They maybe reacted badly, but they must have felt very offended. Basically you told them they were 1/incapable of noticing the bed was worn and 2/incapable of paying for it, which equals to them not caring properly for their dog. Maybe you can't see it this way, but it doesn't make it less true.

So even if they were OTT in their reaction ("incandescent with rage" Really?), you were in the wrong in this case too.

Added to this, dogs get very attached to their "things". The bed, no matter how tatty it looks to you, will be very special to this dog. It's comforting and reminds it of home - especially in a situation where he is cared for at a stranger's house, which will have been very stressful (hence the loose bowels!).

If dog is attached then so be it, I would have thought a dog could have another bed? Weaned off old bed into another one? Yes they were incandescent.... a most unexpected OTT response, yes the dog bed could have been a comfort to her .