help skint need some quick money making tips

helzbelz_57

nataliedee this is a horrible time for you.

I can understand your reluctance to go to the foodbank but if I can say one thing to you it's that I think feeding yourself well is just about the most important thing you need to do right now. you know on airplanes when they tell you that in the case of an emergency you MUST put on your own oxygen mask before trying to help someone else? well this is your emergency situation and you must give yourself oxygen before you will be any use at all to your son. i'll take an educated guess and suggest that you wont be sleeping very well either right now so it is even more vital that you maintain your energy levels with food so you have the mental and physical strength to cope with this situation until things get a bit easier. please go to the foodbank and get some basic essentials, including the toiletries as a shower and clean teeth every day are number 2 (after good food) in the battle against depression which it is so easy to slip into in your situation. I have been there and it has taken me years to finally realise that it is these simple things, good nutritious food, daily washing and good night's sleep every night that are the foundations of good mental health. don't neglect yourself. this is the time when it is most important to look after yourself so please get all the help that is available to you. it's your defence armour against the battle ahead of you.

nataliedee

hi everyone sorry havent been on here for a few days .Well i have now put a claim in for jsa but that could take 6 weeks and im not entitled to hardship as my childben and child tax will still be paid in to my account.i rang them as it always went in to his bank and asked them to change it to mine so thats done and its due next thursday as its always been paid monthly but i have requested it now to go in weekly
Spoke to my Aunt again to see if she could help she sent me down some soup,bread,butter,milk,beans ,oven chips and teabags and coffee so that will last a bit
Still havent been brave enough to go the food bank i really cant face it atm i feel like i dont want to leave the house .Police are driving past my house every so often as ive been receiving threats of my ex .
Its my sons birthday next week im so fed up with myself feel like i cant give him anything just feel like the worst mum in the world but i no im not i mean when i was with my x we had started buying but he wont have much i no i will get through this though but i really cant face food banks etc but im sure ill manage well im going to have to tried to get loans but just keep getting declined and i dont no any pther money lenders
been looking at freebies online and sending of for samples etc
just thought id update everyone as ive had so much good advice xx

Gigervamp

It might be worth contacting the food bank and explaining the situation. Somebody might be able to drop off a food parcel at your house. It's worth a try, and if they say no, then you're no worse off than you are now, but if they can do it, then you'll be a bit better off.

nataliedee

Gigervamp wrote: »

It might be worth contacting the food bank and explaining the situation. Somebody might be able to drop off a food parcel at your house. It's worth a try, and if they say no, then you're no worse off than you are now, but if they can do it, then you'll be a bit better off.

Hi yes i was thinking of emailing and asking if they could but didnt no how to word it wil have a little think now and try and get an email address for them
thanks

Out,_Vile_Jelly

nataliedee wrote: »

Hi yes i was thinking of emailing and asking if they could but didnt no how to word it wil have a little think now and try and get an email address for them
thanks

Natalie,

How about something like;

Dear Food Bank Team,

I have just left an abusive relationship and am in financial limbo whilst awaiting the first wages from a new job. I am suffering from severe anxiety and am finding it difficult to leave the house. Please could you let me know whether it's possible for your team to deliver an emergency package to my home address.

Details:
Your address
Number of occupants (age of child)
Anything you especially need (eg toiletries, fresh produce)
Name and address of your GP

I hope to be able to contribute to your efforts in future when I am back on my feet.

Regards

Natalie

Floss

Have you spoken to someone at Womens Aid? They will be able to give you support and advice over the phone: http://www.womensaid.org.uk/

nataliedee

hi sorry for not replying sooner i bit the bullet and did it i went to the food bank
feel so much better for going if im honest .I rang before hand explained everything and i didnt have a voucher but they helped me with food and toiletries
feel a lot brighter now
thanks everyone xx

Butterfly_Brain

Good for you nataliedee :T if you need any help with some recipes let us know and we will put our collective heads together x

Willowpop

nataliedee wrote: »

hi sorry for not replying sooner i bit the bullet and did it i went to the food bank
feel so much better for going if im honest .I rang before hand explained everything and i didnt have a voucher but they helped me with food and toiletries
feel a lot brighter now
thanks everyone xx

Bloody well done you! I know that will have taken a lot….but just sometimes the thinking about doing something is worse than the actual doing, so I am really glad you feel better about it now you've been. Well done, you should be proud of yourself.
Just incase anyone else is reading this thread and is in a similar position to you, how was the food bank? Were the people there nice?


OK, so your son's birthday….I think you'll be surprised at what he will be happy with. All our kids want is love, they don't really care how many boxes they have to open. How old is he? Perhaps we can think up some ways to give him a few extra treats at no cost?

Floss

Well done hun! That's one challenge off your list that you've beaten