Have I played it to hard to get??

totallybored

Prothet_of_Doom wrote: »

Back in the real world, phone him up, apologise, invite him around for tea, explain yourself.

As she's not met him yet it might be better to not invite him round!

sulphate

I don't think it's weird that he tried to add you on FB, people use FB in different ways and obviously he has a different threshold than you. Which isn't necessarily a bad thing. I have FB friends that have more than 1000 people on their friends list, I think that's weirder than adding someone you only started talking to a couple of weeks ago :rotfl:

As for online dating, it's quite difficult for some to meet new people. I don't meet suitably aged men on a daily basis anymore since I finished uni, I work with mainly women, and the chances of me meeting someone whilst out and about are pretty slim - even when I do go out with friends (which isn't as much as I used to because a lot of them are married/with children/have other things to spend their money on) the chances of meeting someone would be pretty slim... Maybe I'm just biased though cos I met my now-husband online

prowla

What's the point of texting for 2 weeks and not arranging to meet?

Meet in a neutral place (a coffee shop, or restaurant for a bite of lunch), and see if you actually get on.

Then you can decide where you are going to take things.

prowla

P.S. I think FB has a dating service, doesn't it?

rachiibell

Tbh I think it's a bit creepy he added you, if I was google-ing someone I'd never met just to check they weren't a weirdo or whatever I certainly wouldn't add them and let them know I'd been doing it! You might have over reacted a little bit at the time but his reaction isn't exactly positive either!

If you sort stuff out and manage to go on your date then good luck and I hope you enjoy it, if not then you've had a lucky escape!

Life's to short to sweat over a guy you haven't even met!

All the best x

lantanna

prowla wrote: »

What's the point of texting for 2 weeks and not arranging to meet?

Meet in a neutral place (a coffee shop, or restaurant for a bite of lunch), and see if you actually get on.

Then you can decide where you are going to take things.

We had arranged to meet this weekend!!!!!!!!!!

lantanna

rachiibell wrote: »

Tbh I think it's a bit creepy he added you, if I was google-ing someone I'd never met just to check they weren't a weirdo or whatever I certainly wouldn't add them and let them know I'd been doing it! You might have over reacted a little bit at the time but his reaction isn't exactly positive either!

If you sort stuff out and manage to go on your date then good luck and I hope you enjoy it, if not then you've had a lucky escape!

Life's to short to sweat over a guy you haven't even met!

All the best x

Thank you - wise words

prowla

lantanna wrote: »

We had arranged to meet this weekend!!!!!!!!!!

Ah.

Well, my opinion is that you didn't need to add them as an FB friend.

Ozzuk

StuC75 wrote: »

He's sounding the Odd one here admitting to looking you up on facebook.. Especially before you have even met - So No you're not Dating him at the moment.

You can bet he's probably looked through your timeline and pics. I had something similar happen last year where they even added as being in a relationship very early on....

Why is that odd? If you are meeting what is effectively a complete stranger you met online wouldn't you do some kind of research, either to find out if they are genuine, or just because you are interested?

The OP didn't have to accept, its hardly crime of the century. She also could have accepted but granted only light access.

Time to apologise, explain you overreacted but you'd prefer not to link up on facebook right now but you'd be happy to continue talking/meet up. Or forget it and move on. And games...I online date and its sometime hard to judge how fast to move but game playing is a big turn off, life is too short.

Anyway, good luck!

Georgiegirl256

I'm not on Facebook, can't stand it, but from what I did see of it when I was on it briefly, is that a lot of people just add everyone and their mothers....and their mothers dog etc etc!

So yes, I think it is a total overreaction. Of course he's going to want to add you on Facebook, Social media is the way a lot of people interact nowadays, he could obviously see no wrong in it, and for you to react as you did, he's probably now thinking 'woah, what's going on here?'