People Judge Me for my Wedding, but I Love It

tatabubbly

Thats very true! Its the marriage that counts!!


As I seen a quote 'I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding'

74jax

tatabubbly wrote: »

As I seen a quote 'I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding'

ooo I like - almost makes me want to change my signature :-)

angelic_enigma

We're getting married at Discovery Cove in florida as we were going on holiday anyway and thought we would take the plunge there as well to save some money lol my mums happy about it but my MIL is not because

1. no church just a registrar
2. no flowers
3. no bridesmaids
4. no best man
5. no ushers
6. we have only invited 9 people the other 3 are me, htb and our son
7. the people who want to come will need to pay for the dolphin swim if they want to do it themselves(we are paying entrance to Discovery Cove for them which isn't cheap)
8. the food is the normal Discovery Cove food(burgers, fish, chicken strips and chips)
9. no cake
10. no proper suits for little boy and groom-they are just wearing pants, shirt and possibly a waistcoat
11. no favors
12. no dancing so no first dance
13. no speeches
14. a day in Discovery Cove!! Apparantly will be too hot!!!!
15. neither myself or groom are wearing shoes
16. I'm not wearing a veil either
17.no readings
18. 39 minutes ceremony max!!
19. no official invitations
20. no cars just a taxi to Discovery Cove

the only traditional things i'm having is a dress and a photographer is provided in with the DC wedding package, she is not happy at all about it. My mother thinks it will be lovely and stress free lol xx

Si_Clist

angelic_enigma wrote: »

... she is not happy at all about it.

She should get over herself. It's you who's getting married, not her.

**sparkles**

Loving this thread

My day is pretty traditional to be honest, I love bling and my venue is a purpose build wedding venue on a resovoir. Its very beautiful but comes with all the standard wedding set up

However I'm getting the 'judgy face' and disappointed tone from family over my decision to not invite any children. Personally I feel that there isn't anything for children at a wedding, they get bored quickly and begin to cause mischief etc. Every wedding I've been too they've screamed\cried\talked through the vows, ran riot during the meal and them my personal favourite, insist on being on the dance floor during the first dance!!! :mad:

I do understand that its nice to have all the family there, but the way I see it someone then has to leave early and be on 'baby sitting' duty throughout the day if children are involved.

My OH family are not impressed with our decision

What's others opinion/experiences with children at weddings?

tatabubbly

Sparkles, me and OH are hand picking the kids that are coming to ours!

TBH, our families have little say on our guest list, mainly because we live so far away that they have little influence on what we would want. I ran the 'no kids' thing past my mum and she just said whatever we wanted. Just OH nieces and nephews as they can be trusted!

Its hard, people are always going to have an opinion.. best way to deal with it is to get some very discreet ear plugs! LOL!

TheScarletPixie

We're getting married in August and are having a statutory ceremony at the local register office, me, my oh and 2 witnesses. A couple of days later we are having a handfasting in our garden, vegetarian picnic and everyone can sit on the grass and if they want paddle in our stream :-)

My partner is wearing jeans and a silk shirt - jeans are his only new item.

Me I'm not sure what I'm going to wear but I will make it myself.

We've told people that it's a relaxed, informal wedding and they can wear whatever they want.

We decided on what is important to us and what we want for our day and sod anyone that doesn't like it!

Dark_Star

It was some years ago but ....ours was a chilled out day


we had


a bouncy castle for the adults
a buffet in the church hall & sat where you liked with people you knew instead of having to sit with dribbling 90 year old distant uncles
party bags for all (wedding cake/bubbles etc).


didn't have


top table
evening do
DJ/Band
speeches from best man etc.
obligatory umpteen small nieces as bridesmaids


It's still the most talked about wedding for the right reasons, many years on 'cos everyone had a good time.


Seriously as long as the bride/groom/vicar turn up & say the words, NOTHING else matters.


If it matters to you about rubbish like the bridesmaids knickers matching the napkins etc then I'd be querying WHY you actually want to get married & suggest a big party instead...

redfragglebiker

Hi Darkstar- how did the bouncy castle for grown ups go down? I'm really trying to convince my OH that it's a good idea but he's a bit skeptical. I know my lot will be all over it like a rash so wondered how much use yours got on the day!?

animalhouse

I'm lurking and really enjoying this thread.

I tried to please DH's family by letting MIL dictate who was to be invited (loads of people we hadn't met before, and haven't seen since), and to go with her requirements to have a very traditional wedding, reception and evening do. It cost an absolute fortune and was a train wreck of a day.

DH and family (apart from MIL, who told friends of ours it was the worst wedding she had ever been to) remember a great day, but every time I remember our wedding day I just remember the stress.

Still we've been married for 22 years now, so it really is what comes after that's counts.

The great thing about this thread is that you are all standing up for what you want and will inspire others to do the same. It's lovely to read about so many beautiful days past and future.