People Judge Me for my Wedding, but I Love It

tigzem

I'd like a very simple wedding, a select few people at the registry office followed by a meal with a few more select people at our favourite italian restaurant. Nice and simple.

tillyenna

So, showed the reception venue (aka park and cafe) to the mother and MIL at the weekend. My mother is actually more convinced than she was before, having spoken to the manager (who is simply great). His mother on the other hand remains utterly unconvinced, although bless her - is trying really hard not to show it.


Although now my mother's told me that I NEED a dress code (I was planning on just letting people know that it's casual, and letting them wear whatever - it really doesn't matter as long as they're there!) - still, one step at a time!

quidsy

That's an easy win for you.

Dress code: Casual or caya (come as you are). lol

tillyenna

quidsy wrote: »

That's an easy win for you.

Dress code: Casual or caya (come as you are). lol

I'm told 'casual' is too open to interpretation, and would therefore cause my guests unnecessary stress...


I'm failing to see the logic there, but I'm hoping that if I just ignore it, it'll go away.

Si_Clist

tillyenna wrote: »

I'm told 'casual' is too open to interpretation, and would therefore cause my guests unnecessary stress...


I'm failing to see the logic there

Me too. If your guests are likely to get stressed by wondering what to wear to your wedding, (a) that's their problem, not yours and (b) they should get over themselves

janny77

I love the sound of these weddings!!!

We haven't told anyone we're getting married yet, we've been engaged 8 years but for a few reasons not got married yet and I think everyone assumes we never will, we decided last night to finally get married and we want:
An intimate registry office ceremony, parents and siblings only
My dp doesn't want his brother at the ceremony
No wedding car
No posed photos
No meringue type dress, I'll buy something nice I can wear again
No flowers, no buttonholes, no bouquet. I might buy a bunch of flowers and tie some ribbon round them if I feel like it.
No sit down meal
No speeches
No best man and no giving away the bride.
No dress code, we want people to be comfortable.

Al the above will no doubt cause world war three :rotfl:

After our little ceremony we'll have a knees up somewhere for wider family and friends. Games for the kids, booze for the grown ups. Massive buffet as I hate being hungry at weddings. Dancing and drinking till late.


Will be announcing our plans in the next few days and waiting for the fall out....

burnoutbabe

sounds good though, the only thing that should rationally cause fallout would be "all siblings but ONE".

Everything else follows from just small ceremony with just immediate family.

janny77

He has relented and is inviting his brother! :T Other than that it all stands. So far the reaction has been absolute surprise, partly because of our plans and partly because we've been engaged 9 years, I think everyone had given up :rotfl:

Tashatutuw

Stephb1986 wrote: »

He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer tbh so maybe it's a good thing. My OH isn't having a stag do his BM wanted to go Amsterdam but that's because he's into smoking pot (my OH use to when he was much much younger but hasn't in over 7 years) so he's said he doesn't want a stag do. I'm not having a hen night either because I only have 2 young bridesmaids and don't fancy spending a night with people I'm not that bothered about.

Steph xx

That's exactly where H2B's BM wanted them to go - and for exactly the same reasons!! H2B is not interested and would much prefer a night in a pub somewhere chilled out. I'm having a hen but it will be me, my Mum, my Grandma, my Aunt and my bridesmaid going to a spa, out for tea and then comedy club and cocktails before back to my Aunts for a 'sleep over'. I feel the same in not wanting to spend a boozy night out keeping track of people I'm not particularly bothered about in the first place lol!

**sparkles** wrote: »

Loving this thread
What's others opinion/experiences with children at weddings?

I don't like it personally - I have children at my wedding, my nieces and nephews, 2 of H2B's nieces and nephews but we have told one of his brothers (he has 7 children) categorically not to bring any of his as he can't control them and they will run riot. He has been told he can bring the eldest who is quite sensible but as its likely all his brother will do is drink I don't think thats a wise choice either.. I want the day to be about my us and our guests to enjoy themselves - not be distracted by screaming kids..

(note: the youngest child attending will be 5)

tatabubbly wrote: »

Sparkles, me and OH are hand picking the kids that are coming to ours!

TBH, our families have little say on our guest list, mainly because we live so far away that they have little influence on what we would want. I ran the 'no kids' thing past my mum and she just said whatever we wanted. Just OH nieces and nephews as they can be trusted!

We are the same tatabubbly - we have invited children we can trust to behave and stuff the rest of them. H2Bs cousin seemed very upset we aren't inviting her 4 children as 'cousin Sarah did...' well thats nice for her... we aren't!

I really want a bouncy castle but the last party I had where we had one someone went home with a broken ankle after a drunken spat started about one boucing into another... I'd rather not risk it now but very jealous of those who are!!

Tillenna I want to see pictures of how you want your lollipop bouquet to look as it sounds AMAZING!!! Also, your welcome for flapjack - I have used it since myself lol :j

Helen224488

Love the bouncy castle idea. We got married in Las Vegas outside Bellagio fountains on 2nd April 2015. 10 nights just the two of us. Wedding cost $129 (Wedding Wagon), dress from ebay £50 and afterwards we walked to cheesecake factory for cheesecake instead of wedding cake. Amazing time.