People Judge Me for my Wedding, but I Love It

heartbreak_star

Steph - kick him into touch and give him some duties!

When I was a best man, there were 2 ushers. One had to lay out the orders of service on the pews and ensure everyone had a hymn book, the other had to help people to their seats (some guests were a little infirm) and shut the doors at the back of the church after the bride's entrance.

Now, hymn-book chap is rather imposing - he's built like a tank and works in security - and took his duties very seriously...so much so that he terrified people by planting himself in front of them and insisting they take a hymn book...people who had popped to the loo ended up with two or three! It makes me laugh to this day thinking about it!

HBS x

Tashatutuw

tillyenna wrote: »

We are having ushers - but that's because what we are actually having is trusted male friends to entertain family members who aren't speaking to each other and to smooth out the family politics so WE don't have to worry about it on the day, and we're calling them 'ushers' (they are aware that these are their duties LOL)

So less Ushers and more 'UN representatives'? lol!!

OH has picked his (frankly useless) best friend to be BM and I am less than impressed.. I can see speech disaster looming! We have also got 3 ushers (boo) as I wanted my brothers to be involved as we are quite a small, close family (one is an usher, the other is my witness), OH asked another friend and I realised my now 14 year old nephew is too old to be a page boy so he is an usher as well...

HBS you made me chuckle with your description of hymn book chap!

heartbreak_star

Oh he was fab - imagine a 6ft 1in 17st bloke with a slicked-back ponytail in a suit glaring at you and going "Do you have a hymn book? I think you should take one." in an INCREDIBLY serious voice

HBS x

tillyenna

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Oh he was fab - imagine a 6ft 1in 17st bloke with a slicked-back ponytail in a suit glaring at you and going "Do you have a hymn book? I think you should take one." in an INCREDIBLY serious voice

HBS x

We actually changed one of our witnesses to an usher for a related reason. My wintess is my MoH husband (his whole family apart from him were going to be involved) and he's tall and sturdy, and then The Boss was going to choose one of his best friends, equally tall and sturdy - but we realised we'd look like we were having bouncers while we signed the papers LOL, so instead The Boss's friend will be an usher, and his wife (an equally good friend, and petit and blonde) will be our witness :-D


Personally I was completely for having our 'bouncer' witnesses

Stephb1986_2

Tashatutuw wrote: »

So less Ushers and more 'UN representatives'? lol!!

OH has picked his (frankly useless) best friend to be BM and I am less than impressed.. I can see speech disaster looming! We have also got 3 ushers (boo) as I wanted my brothers to be involved as we are quite a small, close family (one is an usher, the other is my witness), OH asked another friend and I realised my now 14 year old nephew is too old to be a page boy so he is an usher as well...

HBS you made me chuckle with your description of hymn book chap!

At least yours is doing a speech ours has refused too. I am too less than impressed with him. :mad:

redfragglebiker

Ours is doing a speech and whilst I love our Best Man to bits he has been known to be a PITA at times and arather immature. I'm actually dreading what he WILL say with assorted grandparents in the room and would prefer him not too. OH says he'll be okay and wouldn't have chosen him as Best Man if he was seriously worried that he'd !!!! it up but I still have reservations!

tillyenna

redfragglebiker wrote: »

Ours is doing a speech and whilst I love our Best Man to bits he has been known to be a PITA at times and arather immature. I'm actually dreading what he WILL say with assorted grandparents in the room and would prefer him not too. OH says he'll be okay and wouldn't have chosen him as Best Man if he was seriously worried that he'd !!!! it up but I still have reservations!

We're actually having the Best Man speech and the 'Brother of the Bride' (as my big bro is giving me away) speech LATE in the evening, with the assumption that the oldies will have gone home by that point, therefore they're much less likely to offend :-D

megc_2

Thanks for your comments, you've made me feel a bit better about the idea of not having a best man! In actual fact, given the most obvious choice for BM it could be a relief in terms of the speech duties, as the thought is quite frankly scary! We will need a couple of ushers so maybe we will just have those instead.

hall987

really enjoyed reading everyon'e posts. We have just started planning, but we basically have found a church, anyone who wants to come can and then we are walking onto the beach for the day with a picnic. The kids can have and dress up in dress up dresses and then have a great time on the beach

WeirdoMagnet

I am loving this thread!

We're at the very early stages of planning, and just bandying some ideas have already had my Mum telling me I should have a hotel wedding, which is just not at all us. An identikit wedding in a different colour - no thanks! _pale_

I want the local castle, hog roast* & relaxed party in our village hall. :beer:

This thread has given me the confidence to do what we want. Love Tillyenna's phrase "My wedding is going to be ACE" - that is going to be my motto! :T

*Don't worry, I'll look after the veggies too! Nut Cutlet anyone?