If I don't move, he will leave me....

Buzzybee90

lostinrates wrote: »

. Maybe you are acclimatised? .

I don't think its idyllic, its just right for us, the right compromises ....for now .





We also live near MOD firing ranges :rotfl:

Nope, I think it's just because we are so far from others. The farms are all quite far from the village so it's not like they're at your backdoor. Maybe I'm a bit deaf!? :rotfl:

The firing range might have something to do with it hahah!

thorsoak

......don't forget the rook scarers, that can go off every 12 minutes from dawn to dusk........ ;-)

MrsE_2

freeisgood wrote: »

I would never leave my husband, I know I will move, because it is inevitable, though I feel sick to the stomach with just the idea of leaving the area I was brought up in, and that I am so fond of, with all my friends.

I know my husband is miserable here.

I'm from inner city south London. My first home was off the front line in Brixton, I went to school in peckham.
I moved out about 9 years ago, I live in a small (tiny even) village in surrey, on the most southern boarders of Surrey, the furthest side from london
The nearest train station is in the town a couple of miles away, we have a scant bus service through the village mon to sat, morn to early eve, last bus on sat is about 6pm:rotfl:
But I drive, so none of that bothers me.
There is a large town about 9 miles away if I was the cinema, shops & restaurants.
All in all, I love it, its perfect & I would never go back to the khasi that is london:)

Buzzybee90

thorsoak wrote: »

......don't forget the rook scarers, that can go off every 12 minutes from dawn to dusk........ ;-)

Now I must have become accustomed to the bangers because I rarely hear them!

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

The Lovely Fella tells me lots about growing up in a tiny village - most of it involved underage drinking, getting stranded miles from home because the buses stopped running due to bad weather, the noise from jets thundering across the moors being like standing on the runways at an air fair, the military movements at dead of night, the noise from the Danger Zones, the traffic jams throughout summer due to tourists, the long trips to go and buy a record or see a film, the local hunt catching a neighbour's cat - and creating small explosive devices and filming the results.

Sounds positively idyllic, this rural life.




*****

By the way, most of the staff at my school have been there years and years. It's only when sweeping changes, like a New Head or being put into Special Measures come around that staff tend to move on. New teachers always have a fairly high dropout rate - and perhaps the teaching staff in rural areas don't actually have much of a choice but to stay where they are because there's nowhere else to work in the area?



I live just outside the town centre - to walk the ten minutes to work (and I never want to have to work anywhere I can't do that again - I never realised how much it improves your life until I did it) takes me past a large park with ancient trees. When it's not the sea of mud everywhere seems to be at the moment, I can go there for lunch. Where I used to live about a mile and a half away from here, I overlooked more ancient woodland on one side, fields to the north and farmland to the east - to the south was all just trees and fields.


However, it also took a good hour to go and get milk on a Sunday, I could be stranded at the bus stop trying to get into work at any time, and the aircraft going overhead all day and through the night to use a local small airfield was incredibly irritating when it invariably woke me up. I didn't enjoy hearing a plane in difficulties rumbling just above my flat and then watching it crash a scarily short distance away, either. Or the early morning shooting of various creatures, woodland maintenance (chainsaws at 7am, anybody?) or the burning of cars that joyriders had taken there precisely because it was quiet and isolated. Or finding fly tippers had visited - or coming across people digging for badgers when walking through the woods (but seeing as the badgers are being exterminated in the countryside, I suppose that's not going to be a problem for anyone now).



I like the countryside. I like being able to see stars in the sky. I like getting blustered around by the wind howling off the sea. But that's by choice. I also like never having to wait more than five minutes for a bus, being able to walk to meet friends any day of the week, to not have to worry about missing buses or trains too much (I got stranded in Camden one night after a gig due to maintenance work closing the lines and roadworks stopping all bus services - it took four hours in the blistering cold to get home).




I genuinely like the countryside for short periods (scraping livestock faeces off my shoes can be done for a couple of weeks in the year before the novelty wears off) and the rainstorms sounded like you were living in a set of kettle drums, which could be entertaining - but I'm not convinced I would be in favour of moving somewhere like that permanently on somebody else's say-so.

Buzzybee90

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

The Lovely Fella tells me lots about growing up in a tiny village - most of it involved underage drinking, getting stranded miles from home because the buses stopped running due to bad weather, the noise from jets thundering across the moors being like standing on the runways at an air fair, the military movements at dead of night, the noise from the Danger Zones, the traffic jams throughout summer due to tourists, the long trips to go and buy a record or see a film, the local hunt catching a neighbour's cat - and creating small explosive devices and filming the results.

Sounds positively idyllic, this rural life.




*****

By the way, most of the staff at my school have been there years and years. It's only when sweeping changes, like a New Head or being put into Special Measures come around that staff tend to move on. New teachers always have a fairly high dropout rate - and perhaps the teaching staff in rural areas don't actually have much of a choice but to stay where they are because there's nowhere else to work in the area?



I live just outside the town centre - to walk the ten minutes to work (and I never want to have to work anywhere I can't do that again - I never realised how much it improves your life until I did it) takes me past a large park with ancient trees. When it's not the sea of mud everywhere seems to be at the moment, I can go there for lunch. Where I used to live about a mile and a half away from here, I overlooked more ancient woodland on one side, fields to the north and farmland to the east - to the south was all just trees and fields.


However, it also took a good hour to go and get milk on a Sunday, I could be stranded at the bus stop trying to get into work at any time, and the aircraft going overhead all day and through the night to use a local small airfield was incredibly irritating when it invariably woke me up. I didn't enjoy hearing a plane in difficulties rumbling just above my flat and then watching it crash a scarily short distance away, either. Or the early morning shooting of various creatures, woodland maintenance (chainsaws at 7am, anybody?) or the burning of cars that joyriders had taken there precisely because it was quiet and isolated. Or finding fly tippers had visited - or coming across people digging for badgers when walking through the woods (but seeing as the badgers are being exterminated in the countryside, I suppose that's not going to be a problem for anyone now).



I like the countryside. I like being able to see stars in the sky. I like getting blustered around by the wind howling off the sea. But that's by choice. I also like never having to wait more than five minutes for a bus, being able to walk to meet friends any day of the week, to not have to worry about missing buses or trains too much (I got stranded in Camden one night after a gig due to maintenance work closing the lines and roadworks stopping all bus services - it took four hours in the blistering cold to get home).




I genuinely like the countryside for short periods (scraping livestock faeces off my shoes can be done for a couple of weeks in the year before the novelty wears off) and the rainstorms sounded like you were living in a set of kettle drums, which could be entertaining - but I'm not convinced I would be in favour of moving somewhere like that permanently on somebody else's say-so.

Buses? Yeah no buses :rotfl:

lostinrates

Buzzybee90 wrote: »

Now I must have become accustomed to the bangers because I rarely hear them!

And we don't have them nmuch where I am!

coolcait

I suppose there are very few truly unique situations in the world.

Another thread, just over a year ago, had a similar situation - the OP's partner had wanted to move to another area for a long time; the OP was resistant to that move because she was living in her 'home' area and was comfortable there.

There might be information in the thread which the OP on this thread finds helpful:

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4322867=

Horace

I live in Birmingham and used to commute to London on a daily basis - driving there and back. I then moved to London for a while and my job changed and I commuted from London to Birmingham - again travelling by car. It would take about 2hrs to get to where I wanted to be.

A 30-45 minute trip is nothing and if you were unemployed for instance the jobcentre could make you take a job that has a longer commute than the one that you are complaining about.

Living in London is not that great, it is overly expensive, dirty and dangerous. You go on about art galleries and museums - well they have these in other parts of the country too. Not wanting to be rude, I think that you have the same mentality as many other Londoners who get scared if they have to drive farther than the M25 (trying to get a Londoner to go on a weekend away outside of the M25 is quite difficult - I used to run weekend events away and found it difficult and folks always asked if it was outside the London conurbation). I think that you should at least go and look at properties with your husband because you never know you might just like them.

If you are partially self employed and partially employed - you can still run your self employed business from home and maybe negotiate with your employer if you can work from home a few days each week and that way you don't have to travel to work every day.

Kid will thrive in schools outside of London - in London there is the temptation/coercion to join gangs and carry knives and the like - do you want your kids to grow up in this atmosphere? Kids are adaptable you know and remember kids do what adults tell them.

Go and look - there is no harm in looking.

Brallaqueen

Can you make the compromise to move in a set period - 5 years or whatever? Maybe at a natural break in your childrens' education?