Am I being silly?

debsue

Well quite a mixed respomse. I am not an interfering mother and I certainly wouldnt compete for my grandchild against the other grandparents, I am of the opinion that a child that has both sets of grand parents has lots of love around it, who wouldnt want that for a child?

I will not say anything, but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out! I cannot help the way I feel and I certainly will not allow it to spoil the very special relationship I have with my daughter and the excitment of a new baby.

thorsoak

You didn't answer my question: did you involve your parents/parents in law in naming either of your daughters?

peachyprice

debsue wrote: »

I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out! I cannot help the way I feel and I certainly will not allow it to spoil the very special relationship I have with my daughter and the excitment of a new baby.

So you do want the baby named after you?

Or, even worse, you don't want the baby to be named after you and because of that you don't think her parents should name her after her father's mother either?

Seriously warped.

FBaby

You did say in your first post that you were planning on opening your mouth about it... thankfully you won't.

I have to say I don't understand at all why their decision would upset you when you clearly wouldn't want them to give her your name. Surely, chosing his mum's name is the obvious option if yours isn't. It reminds me of siblings who tell their parents they don't want something but if it is then given to the other child, they go into a sulk. You have a lot more to give a grand child then their middle name.

Person_one

debsue wrote: »

Well quite a mixed respomse. I am not an interfering mother and I certainly wouldnt compete for my grandchild against the other grandparents, I am of the opinion that a child that has both sets of grand parents has lots of love around it, who wouldnt want that for a child?

I will not say anything, but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out! I cannot help the way I feel and I certainly will not allow it to spoil the very special relationship I have with my daughter and the excitment of a new baby.

If she'd announced the baby was getting your name as her middle name, would you be worrying about how put out and snubbed the other grandmother would be feeling, or would you have been ok with it?

debsue

thorsoak wrote: »

You didn't answer my question: did you involve your parents/parents in law in naming either of your daughters?

No I didnt, but I would never have named either of my girla after one grandmother but not the other.

debsue

Person_one wrote: »

If she'd announced the baby was getting your name as her middle name, would you be worrying about how put out and snubbed the other grandmother would be feeling, or would you have been ok with it?

I would have advised against it out of consideration to the other grandmother. I think my own personal problem is that I try to please everyone

marisco_2

debsue wrote: »

I will not say anything, but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out! I cannot help the way I feel and I certainly will not allow it to spoil the very special relationship I have with my daughter and the excitment of a new baby.

Very few people would even give a second thought to who a baby was named after. Most parents thoughts when their daughter is pregnant centre on hers and the baby's wellbeing, making the most of this unique and special time and looking forward to its safe arrival. Feeling put out and snubbed because they are jealous is hopefully very much a rarity. If you shared such a special relationship with your adult daughter as you claim to, then you wouldn't suspect her of having any motives when it comes down to what she calls her baby, or be questioning them on a public forum.

MrsE_2

debsue wrote: »

Well quite a mixed respomse. I am not an interfering mother and I certainly wouldnt compete for my grandchild against the other grandparents, I am of the opinion that a child that has both sets of grand parents has lots of love around it, who wouldnt want that for a child?

I will not say anything, but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out! I cannot help the way I feel and I certainly will not allow it to spoil the very special relationship I have with my daughter and the excitment of a new baby.

You can't pose a question like this on MSE & get the response you would expect from chatting with your girlfriends, sadly.
What happens is you get people who get brave & forget the human behind the keyboard & speak (or post) things they would never be so rude to say in real life.
We're all human, we all have sensitivities, my guess really is your dd picked one name her partner the other.
For what its worth, as a grandmother, it would probably put my nose out of joint to!!!!

Georgiegirl256

debsue wrote: »

but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out!.

No, most people really wouldn't be....

Get over it, unless you know something you're not telling us, then I really don't think it was done out of spite. Maybe they just like the other grandmothers name better than yours?