Am I being silly?

marisco_2

debsue wrote: »

Whatever they call the child is up to them and I will just keep my mouth shut. I dont think it is childish, I think it is part of being human, I dont suppose you have ever felt any type of emotion in your robot life

You think that getting upset over something so trivial, and behaving in a jealous and suspecting manner, is not childish but just all part of being human. Oh dear, how sad! As for the way you choose to address people on here, who have simply tried to give you an alternative perspective on your situation, well words fail me.

balletshoes

debsue wrote: »

I would have advised against it out of consideration to the other grandmother. I think my own personal problem is that I try to please everyone

obviously i don't know you - but in the respect of the names your daughter has chosen for her baby, i don't think the problem is you trying to please everyone. Maybe, in this respect, you're just overthinking things and seeing a snub where there is none?

poet123

balletshoes wrote: »

obviously i don't know you - but in the respect of the names your daughter has chosen for her baby, i don't think the problem is you trying to please everyone. Maybe, in this respect, you're just overthinking things and seeing a snub where there is none?

I think the OP means that she wouldn't have done it because of that and we often expect the same type of behaviour in return, particularly, perhaps, from those we have brought up, as they are likely to know how we might feel about a certain issue.

I agree the op doesn't have any right to a say in the name of the child, but she might have more of a right to expect consideration of her feelings or an anticipation that she might feel that way iyswim?

Yorkie1

debsue wrote: »

Whatever they call the child is up to them and I will just keep my mouth shut. I dont think it is childish, I think it is part of being human, I dont suppose you have ever felt any type of emotion in your robot life

So, you ask for opinions on here - on a public forum.

You get answers which don't agree with the view you wanted validating.

So you personally abuse those who have taken the time to contribute to the thread you started.

Nice.

balletshoes

poet123 wrote: »

I think the OP means that she wouldn't have done it because of that and we often expect the same type of behaviour in return, particularly, perhaps, from those we have brought up, as they are likely to know how we might feel about a certain issue.

I agree the op doesn't have any right to a say in the name of the child, but she might have more of a right to expect consideration of her feelings or an anticipation that she might feel that way iyswim?

fair enough - but as someone else has already said - where does that stop?

Person_one

I'd love to know the OP's name (if not Deb or Sue) and the other gran's name, I bet it would shed some light.

Let's face it, names go in and out of fashion and you can usually guess a person's age fairly accurately by their name, more so for women than men too. A lot of my friends and peers have been having children in the last few years and none of them have used their mother's names, because they're old fashioned and associated with women in their forties and fifties, not as a snub!

belfastgirl23

I reckon you should be proud that you brought your daughter up well enough that she's able to do something nice for her mother in law. Not everyone does.

I saw this with a family wedding a while back, the two families had a bit of a falling out before the wedding. At the wedding, the groom when he went to his family was told 'you have to go to your wife's family' and was encouraged to do the right thing, which he was happy to do. The bride clearly was told no such thing and barely showed her face with the groom's family for fear of upsetting her own crowd.

Your daughter is trying to build a good relationship with her MIL. I think you need to reframe how you're thinking about things and be proud of her for this. She knows you'll be there for her anyway and you have a bigger nature than to hold this as a grudge. My take on this is that she believes in you. I hope you can see it like that too.

MrsE_2

Yorkie1 wrote: »

So, you ask for opinions on here - on a public forum.

You get answers which don't agree with the view you wanted validating.

So you personally abuse those who have taken the time to contribute to the thread you started.

Nice.

Contribute? Do you mean have a snipe?

Maybe the OP doesn't have anyone in her real life she feels she can share this with?

Maybe on the families forum she thought she might get a friendly ear!!!!!!!!

shegirl

Person_one wrote: »

I'd love to know the OP's name (if not Deb or Sue) and the other gran's name, I bet it would shed some light.

Let's face it, names go in and out of fashion and you can usually guess a person's age fairly accurately by their name, more so for women than men too. A lot of my friends and peers have been having children in the last few years and none of them have used their mother's names, because they're old fashioned and associated with women in their forties and fifties, not as a snub!

And people go for names they like.

I honestly do not know anyone who is named after their mother or grandmother,whether a first name or middle name...aside from little people who have a deceased grandparents name as middle name.And that's only two!

I don't understand why anyone would ever expect it let alone be upset by not doing it.

MrsE_2

OP - trust me & call it quits.
Some of them are getting the sniff of blood & there's no holding them back.......