Am I being silly?

duchy

I think the Jewish faith has the right idea.... Tradition states you don't name a baby after a relative-unless they are dead . I'm starting to see how this tradition started reading this thread !!

(and I'm named after my Grandmother who died before I was born -it wasn't a particularly fashionable name when I was born but came back into favour a few years later . I come from the Debbie, Tracy and Karen era -I know loads of all three all around my age) )

fabforty

debsue wrote: »

I will not say anything, but I think that put in my position, very few people wouldnt be a little bit put out!

No, I think that the responses on this thread show otherwise. My son has my fathers name as a middle name - at no point did we consider that we were being unfair to his other grandfather, we just picked names that we liked.

paulineb_2

shegirl wrote: »

And people go for names they like.

I honestly do not know anyone who is named after their mother or grandmother,whether a first name or middle name...aside from little people who have a deceased grandparents name as middle name.And that's only two!

I don't understand why anyone would ever expect it let alone be upset by not doing it.

One of my middle names is after my gran on my dads side, she died just before I was born. I actually dont have any kind of relationship with his side of the family but my mum thought a lot of her and wanted to name me after her. My other gran who was very much part of my life until she died 3 years ago did not care that her name wasnt part of my name. My mum and gran had the same first name, but my mum has always been known by a nickname, only in work is she called by the name on her birth certificate.

My brothers middle name is after my grans husband, my mums mum, he died 3 months before she was born, quite suddenly and originally my mum called him by my grandpas name but then thought it would be too tough on my gran, hearing the name all the time even if it was for the best intentions, so she changed his first name and his middle name is my grandpas name.

My other middle name is the female version of my uncles name, hes was Alan and one of my middle names is Alana and she thought he was a bit cheesed off she didnt call me Alana, but he got over it, no biggie.

I actually think that the back story in this scenario posted by the OP is probably quite important. People can and should be able to call their kids any name they like. I worked with a girl last year whose family were a bit upset that she didnt call her son her dads name, then her fiance wanted to call him his name but she didnt want that so she went for something entirely different and had his name as the middle name.

I actually think its more important that a kid has a name that suits them than whether its after a member of the family.

paulineb_2

As for being silly, we feel how we feel even if thats not rational, am pretty sure some stuff in the past has upset me way longer than it should have, over ridiculous issues

Its more important that the child is healthy and loved than whether its named after a grandparent. Or not as the case may be.

pleasedelete

My mother and mother in law have awful names- pretty much dates them. My name is traditional but its use goes in peaks and it is now a bit old fashioned. No way would I burden a child with any of these.

My son has a traditional family name as a 2nd name. At lest 4 men on my side have it and my OH as a second and his sibling as a 1st. We didnt name him after anyone- it was family name and i liked it (very neutral name)

Maybe you just have an awful or dated name?

balletshoes

shegirl wrote: »

And people go for names they like.

I honestly do not know anyone who is named after their mother or grandmother,whether a first name or middle name...aside from little people who have a deceased grandparents name as middle name.And that's only two!

I don't understand why anyone would ever expect it let alone be upset by not doing it.

its different for everyone, and it can be a tradition that keeps going down the generations.

all my nieces and nephews have middle names, and all of them are relatives' first names. My siblings and I have the same deal with our names (although I know my mum didn't really want to give any of us middle names, but her mum thought it would be the right thing to do, so we all have family names as our middle names).

I didn't even consider it when my daughter was born (as in, it didn't cross my mind that i should give her a middle name that was a relative's name). She has a middle name, but its not a family one.

poet123

I have my maternal grandmother's name as my middle name, my husband has his maternal grandad's name. One of our sons has my husbands name as a middle name (which happily is also my brother's name, and was my maternal grandfathers name) and our youngest has my dad's name as a middle name. So, it is still done, probably not so much for first names but to keep up the family connection.

Of course, I also liked the names and they are traditional, timeless names. Had they been Barry or Jason, or Trevor I might have taken a different tack!! No offence to anyone called the above intented!

j.e.j.

MrsE wrote: »

Maybe on the families forum she thought she might get a friendly ear!!!!!!!!

Pfft, some chance!
Even DT is less judgemental than the bitching that goes on on here.

Jinx

My daughter has her 'own' first name and doesn't have a middle name. I didn't do it because of any issues with grandparents but with hindsight maybe it is the easiest thing to do!

paulineb_2

poet123 wrote: »

I have my maternal grandmother's name as my middle name, my husband has his maternal grandad's name. One of our sons has my husbands name as a middle name (which happily is also my brother's name, and was my maternal grandfathers name) and our youngest has my dad's name as a middle name. So, it is still done, probably not so much for first names but to keep up the family connection.

Of course, I also liked the names and they are traditional, timeless names. Had they been Barry or Jason, or Trevor I might have taken a different tack!! No offence to anyone called the above intented!

I used to go out with a Jason and I remember him telling me his mum chose it because it was unusual. Then neighbours came along, Kylies and Jasons everywhere.

I went to school with a lot of people called Sharon, Tracy, Debbie, I know loads of Karens and Lindas.

I also went to school with a few Barrys and a lot of people called Graham.

I dont even know what names are popular or not, because in Scotland the popular names seem to be quite a lot different than down south.