Am I being silly?

Kayalana99

So fed up with my MIL and mother competing against each other.

This thread is ridiculous they can name the baby what they like.

pelirocco

I can understand OP , I'm sure many would feel the same. Kids eh ? Sent to try us

One good thing , at least it's only the middle name . Try and rise above it , reading between the lines you see to suspect it was a deliberate snub

Look forward to the relationship you can have with your granddaughter

LEJC

I cant really see whats upsetting you....surely the name choice is down to your daughter and her OH.
I have to admit when we chose names for our first child my husband and I chose what we wanted and actually never considered in the slightest what anyone else would think ...we never set out to offend anyone or indeed please them but we did choose a name for a boy that had a significance to one side of the family over the other....and a girls name that complemented the other side....
Clearly as we were only expecting one baby we were opening up to the possibility that one set might see we favoured over the other...but that wasnt the case.
As it turned out whilst we had a lovely girls name planned...we were never able to use it ....
How do you know that something similar isnt valid in your case too...if your daughter was expecting a boy perhaps they were going to namr it after a male relation or maybe its grandfather?


I actually think its nice to recycle names through families but in reality the new life is a new person and will develop their own personality accordingly.


Enjoy your time as a grandparent and perhaps spend a little more time mulling over what you would like to be known as (nanna,nanny gran etc) ....

Buzzybee90

My OH has a family name as his middle name - it's an old fashioned name which no one would use nowadays, unless used in a shorter form. My dad and brother both have nice names and I'd consider using either a middle name but wouldn't entertain the idea of using others family name as its just so old fashioned.

But I think it's much more likely they chose one each, especially as it's the mother that's your relation.

mountainofdebt

Actually I can see where you are coming from.

When I was expecting Junior we had agreed that he would be named after OH's grandfather and I wanted his father's and my grandfather's name as middle names (no way was he having my father's name!)

Anyway OH said it was a silly idea and that we should have just his father's name as a middle name which DID upset me.

However after he was born, OH said that he looked like a (grandfather's name) (my grandfather's name) (his dad's name)

I know its the parent's decision and you can't say anything but when the baby is born, here's hoping that the fact that you feel upset now will all be forgotten about

mountainofdebt

Is this the daughter that is already a mum?

Could it be that the OP does a lot of childcare for the couple or have helped them out in other ways yet the couple seem to favour the husband's family?

If so it may seem like the ultimate snub but in that case the OP needs to address that as a separate issue rather than look for acknowledgement by giving the baby her name

Kayalana99

mountainofdebt wrote: »

Is this the daughter that is already a mum?

Could it be that the OP does a lot of childcare for the couple or have helped them out in other ways yet the couple seem to favour the husband's family?

If so it may seem like the ultimate snub but in that case the OP needs to address that as a separate issue rather than look for acknowledgement by giving the baby her name

Or they could just like the name. Who* would name a child to spite someone? It's not done with ill intentions it needs to be let go.

juliethemuse

I really wanted to give our daughter the name of my late MIL. as I loved the name Eve. but my Mum would have gone ballistic, she was already upsetting me any way she could by saying awful things, so I didn't do it. please please don't say anything to her, she will already be feeling hormonal and it wont do any good whatsoever.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

I don't get this naming after thing. Surely it's better that a kid has their own name, rather than being permanently linked to somebody they might like, might hate or might never know?



Having said that, my nephew's middle name is the same as my father's - but not my brother's father. It's coincidence - they just liked the name (my brother didn't really have much involvement with my father, so it certainly isn't because of him that they chose it).

And I do pity the person who ended up with her first name after a family friend she hated, second name after a grandmother she never knew - Emmeline - and her third one after the other grandmother - Gladys - who hated her.

She gave her children individual names.

keep_flyin

I agree with what's been said, naming children is contentious. I ended up point blank refusing to use any family names after various family members tried to put pressure on me to use them, I now regret it as there is a family name from mys side I would have liked to see continue.