MSE Pregnancy Club 28

FreddieFrugal

We got OH a pair of nursing bras from Matalan yesterday.

Bags are all packed, and we did a birth plan this evening - used the NHS choices one. She's gone back to wanting a water birth now.

He's doing huge movements, like every limb being thrown out at different angles. Happening all the time during the day. He's definitely trying to get out!

Got 36 week appointment tomorrow so we should find out the results of her last blood test - see what's happening with platelets.

ThinkPink

Just looked on matalan, unfortunately they don't go big enough for me. I think I may go get measured today or tomorrow and see what they measure me as (I think I know roughly) and then see what I can get in my size and maybe just get one for now from mothercare. I'm just a bit reluctant to spend lots on bras at the moment until I know that breastfeeding is for me.

I used the birthing plan they gave us at antenatal, May have a quick look for other ones to make sure I've covered everything.

Tinks05

Hi everyone!

Can I join you please? Feels a bit scary to be leaving the smaller threads on here but I'm looking forward to chatting with you all, and learning lots from those who are much further along.

Reached the 24 week mark today, the due date is 28th December. We're having a little girl! I've been lucky enough to have a pretty smooth pregnancy so far, so hoping that continues.

We're currently busy tackling the nursery, trying to get it finished nice and early as we're then getting a new kitchen which is going to involve major work (walls coming down, walls going up!). It's taking much longer than we had hoped as we're having problems with the furniture but hoping to get that resolved this week.

FreddieFrugal

Welcome tinks!

You sound like me 12 weeks ago!

Also trying to get nursery done as redoing kitchen same time. Also adding an extension.


This was such stupid timing - never again! Next baby I refuse to do anything beyond setting up nursery!

Tinks05

Wow, that does sound like hard work Freddie! Has it been really stressful?

I am absolutely dreading the kitchen work. If it was just a case of doing the kitchen I could just about bare it, but it's going to end up been the kitchen, conservatory, living room, stairs and hallway! We've put it off since moving in as there's always been something else to do, but the kitchen is falling apart now and really needs sorting. I did consider putting it off until baby arrives but I think dealing with the work and a newborn would be even more stressful than doing it now.

FreddieFrugal

I know - baby seems to have been the catalyst for everything - even though doing all this with a baby on the way has been stressful.

The extension should have been finished 7 weeks ago. It's still not done. But it's getting there - only floor to finish and radiator to go on. Then I can decorate it and get a floor covering


We are pleased with what we've done with the kitchen though. We had a garage conversion. As I was really only using it to store largely pointless stuff in - was wasted space.

We knocked through to make a kitchen diner. But that meant a lot of stuff needed doing in the kitchen as a result, like new worktop to go through into the new bit and redecorating.

That's mostly done though and we're happy with it.

the extension has just been a money and time pit!

Beckyy

Welcome Tinks!

I hope you and Freddie are both getting through your work okay.

I'm glad baby is putting on weight well jtr.

I still need to finish packing my hospital bag. I need to put clothes in for baby and some for me, I seem to be either wearing or washing everything I have that fits just now though! So far I've got disposable knickers, maternity & breast pads, comfy PJs and a cheap nightie, nappies, toiletries for me, TENS machine, glucose tablets, lucozade sport-top drinks, snacks. It's almost there I think.

I haven't done a birthing plan yet but have a midwife appointment this week which I think is to discuss it. I'm gonna try and keep it flexible and ask to use the birthing pool for a bit of pain relief (depending on how I find the TENs machine). Thinking that I might try physiological 3rd stage labour, unless I've just had enough or have problems in which case I'll have the injection.

ThinkPink

I've kept mine quite flexible beckyy as you just never know how it's going to be and how your going to cope. With regards to the placenta delivery I've put that I will seek advice from the midwife and my decision will also depend on the type of labour of ive had, how long I've been on Labour etc.

Rinks, Weber done some work on our house too, not full extensions or anything to that scale, but enough for it to seem like my poor oh Did nothing else apart from working full time and then diy (putting up stud walls, door frames etc) for ages. I had said we could do it once baby was here, but due to the mess and noise I'm so glad we did it before his arrival.

What are you all doing about telling people when you are in labour and when you will have visitors etc?

psychopathbabble

ThinkPink wrote: »

What are you all doing about telling people when you are in labour and when you will have visitors etc?

DH upset his parents this week regarding this. We live in Essex and they live in Scotland. He had told his dad to give us a couple of days and then they can book flights to come down... all fine. When he had same conversation with his mum, she gets offended and upset. Then his gran tells him that they are actually quite upset as it's their first grandchild and they want to be involved and excited.

I am not close to any of my family (I don't even speak to my mum) and while I appreciate they are excited, I know it's going to be overwhelming, exhausting, etc etc and what if the birth isn't straightforward? I don't fancy my FIL being there while i'm struggling to BF and have sore boobs etc etc. It's difficult when they live so far away, it's not like they can just pop over at the last minute!

I've already told DH I don't want him being on the phone to his family when I do go into labour... he is an absolute nightmare for it (spent most of our 2 week holiday in USA last year facetiming them all to show them the sights, HAD to facetime them on our honeymoon etc, it drives me absolutely nuts!!!). He doesn't want to upset me or make me feel bad but he also doesn't want to upset his family (which I do appreciate). So currently it's an ongoing issue. I've said we just all need to talk about it openly rather than them getting offended and not having an open discussion about it.


ETA: This may be their first grandchild, but my SIL is due at Christmas so there will be another one along very soon and my MIL is going to be her birth partner so she will definitely be very involved in that situation.

FreddieFrugal

I'm worried about her folks a bit. Like now that I'm going back to work, they've said that they won't go out and will either be at home or with OH on days when I'm working - they've cancelled plans with people on those days etc.

She's worried they're not going to leave her alone, when she's actually been quite looking forward to just doing some things herself. Obviously if she wanted to see them then she'd organise that.

We had this problem when she had her termination - they kept calling and wanting to come to see her and I kept having to tell them no. Obviously she didn't want people coming to see her while she was in hospital in those circumstances. She'd have found it really stressful and just wanted me there.

I'm worried that if she did start going into labour when I wasn't there and they somehow found out first (probably because they were waiting outside the window!) then they'll bundle her into the car, take her to the hospital themselves and I won't get a look in!

They're just excited and concerned for her - but they can be a bit overbearing with it at times.


I'm tempted to not tell anyone about the birth until it's already happened!