MSE Pregnancy Club 28

mysecretalias

Woohoo so many new babies!!!

Gosh I think I must be the only person here without a dog or a cat! We've just got two goldfish! We want dogs but we've decided to wait until the baby (well possibly babies at that point) are a few years old. You hear of these stories in the papers of dogs viscously attacking young babies and I just don't want to take that risk, even being a huge dog lover as OH and I are.

I am really concerned about my OHs grans dog though. He is a little jack Russell and spiteful as hell. Me and OH are the only ones he's never bitten. He bit my best friend at a car boot sale last summer just because she got within a foot of him and she's still got the scar. He's very old (15 ish I think) but OHs gran treats him like a baby gives him everything he needs (literally hand feeds him cups of tea and cooks him several different things everyday depending on 'what he fancies') and it has turned him into a nasty little piece of work - sounds awful to say that, but he is a very manipulative dog.

Problem is, she won't go anywhere without him, and I've already tried to say to OH that the dog isn't coming into our new house with the baby only for him to turn round and go 'she won't come in the house without the dog and I'm not having her not come into the house' so basically I'm faced with the problem of having to have young baby and dog in close vicinity and I wouldn't trust the dog with a biro, let alone being around a baby. He is VERY possessive and if he saw OHs gran holding the baby and not giving him any attention I am fairly sure he would go for someone.

It's really worrying me!! She's already (half) jokingly said she's looking forward to pushing the pram around with the baby in the top and the dog underneath and I'm like seriously.......never going to f***king happen...but I just know once baby is here I'll get bullied into letting things happen that I'm not entirely comfortable with because she's so excited about the baby (grandad died last year and it tore everyone up, OH and his mum are VERY close to gran and she's pretty much got nothing else in her life apart from the blasted dog and the upcoming baby which she can't stop talking about)

Am I being really overly paranoid? OHs mum and OH both agree with me about not trusting the dog around the baby but I know once she is here it'll be a different story (I can just hear it now 'oh she can't leave the dog in the car it's unfair, don't worry he won't come near the baby')

mysecretalias

VickyVics wrote: »

Well, I'm feeling slightly silly.

Last night at about 11pm I started getting a pain between my breasts and across the top of my bump. At this point it was painful but I was able to manage with it. However by 2am I was really hurting and I just didn't know what it was or what to do about it. There was no position I could get in to make myself comfortable to sleep it off.

In the end I got myself worked up with crying and tiredness that decided I was just going to ring the midwife and ask her about it. She took down my notes over the phone and said she didn't really know what it was and that I should ring Labour Suite at the hospital. Did and they asked me to go in to get checked out. Long story short and all types of tests and 4 hours later and we get told it is just a particularly painful case of heartburn. They also discovered I have a low platelet count (something to do with clotting) in my blood so need to be monitored with that.

So feeling extremely tired today and rather embarrassed. Husband is now also convinced I am going to end up going completely to pot during labour lol.

Aww Vickyvics I'm glad it wasn't anything more serious, you shouldn't feel embarrassed I'm sure they always would prefer you to be overly cautious rather than not act when something might be going wrong. And just think, if you hadn't gone in, you wouldn't have known about your low platelet count so at least they can keep an eye on that now!

Tell husband to be quiet

jen_1985_04

mysecretalias wrote: »

Woohoo so many new babies!!!

Gosh I think I must be the only person here without a dog or a cat! We've just got two goldfish! We want dogs but we've decided to wait until the baby (well possibly babies at that point) are a few years old. You hear of these stories in the papers of dogs viscously attacking young babies and I just don't want to take that risk, even being a huge dog lover as OH and I are.

I am really concerned about my OHs grans dog though. He is a little jack Russell and spiteful as hell. Me and OH are the only ones he's never bitten. He bit my best friend at a car boot sale last summer just because she got within a foot of him and she's still got the scar. He's very old (15 ish I think) but OHs gran treats him like a baby gives him everything he needs (literally hand feeds him cups of tea and cooks him several different things everyday depending on 'what he fancies') and it has turned him into a nasty little piece of work - sounds awful to say that, but he is a very manipulative dog.

Problem is, she won't go anywhere without him, and I've already tried to say to OH that the dog isn't coming into our new house with the baby only for him to turn round and go 'she won't come in the house without the dog and I'm not having her not come into the house' so basically I'm faced with the problem of having to have young baby and dog in close vicinity and I wouldn't trust the dog with a biro, let alone being around a baby. He is VERY possessive and if he saw OHs gran holding the baby and not giving him any attention I am fairly sure he would go for someone.

It's really worrying me!! She's already (half) jokingly said she's looking forward to pushing the pram around with the baby in the top and the dog underneath and I'm like seriously.......never going to f***king happen...but I just know once baby is here I'll get bullied into letting things happen that I'm not entirely comfortable with because she's so excited about the baby (grandad died last year and it tore everyone up, OH and his mum are VERY close to gran and she's pretty much got nothing else in her life apart from the blasted dog and the upcoming baby which she can't stop talking about)

Am I being really overly paranoid? OHs mum and OH both agree with me about not trusting the dog around the baby but I know once she is here it'll be a different story (I can just hear it now 'oh she can't leave the dog in the car it's unfair, don't worry he won't come near the baby')

Always go with your instinct, It's not worth the risk, you would never forgive yourself if anything happened.

My OH's parents live in a bungalow with 4 dogs - 2 of them being collies, I don't trust them one bit. I have put my foot down that the baby is not to go around the house - I don't care who agrees or disagrees or how this makes me look - my instinct tells me not to trust them so my say is final

mysecretalias

Thanks Jen glad I'm not just being overly stupid!!

I'm going with the tactic of simply putting my foot down but I've just found it's pointless trying to lay down rules now before baby is here because my concerns just get half heartedly agreed with, whereas I know when baby comes it'll be a totally different story.

I shall just have to wait until baby is actually here, and then start putting my foot down as and when people try to take the mick. To be honest at the moment OHs gran lives down on the south coast so she won't see baby very much but the plan is for her to move closer at some point and if the dog passes away she would be back up here straight away I think, as OHs mum wouldn't want her being down there all on her own.

I do love OHs gran to bits, it's just the dog that's the problem the other issue is we will be expected to go down there and visit for a weekend when baby is here so she can show baby off to the couple of friends she has down there, and the dog has free roam of the house and the thought of us staying there makes me feel nervous already.

I do sometimes think I'm being overly paranoid about stuff though/overly protective of my unborn baby and sometimes I think I should just be more chilled out. The other day our friends came over to visit with their 6 month old son, and my OHs dad was sat with him and started sticking his finger in the baby's mouth for the baby to suck on.....i was bloody mortified...the mum was sat there smiling away and I just thought if that was my baby I would soon be telling him off and saying excuse me please don't stick your finger in my baby's mouth because I don't know where it's been?!!!

Maybe it's just me being OCD clean and too protective of my baby

Is anyone else like this? I would be interested to hear how others have dealt with parents/in-laws/grandparents just thinking they can do whatever the hell they want with your baby?!

Sometimes I think it's just me, but because I don't have family of my own it's difficult for me to relate!!!

con1888

mysecretalias wrote: »

Woohoo so many new babies!!!

Gosh I think I must be the only person here without a dog or a cat! We've just got two goldfish! We want dogs but we've decided to wait until the baby (well possibly babies at that point) are a few years old. You hear of these stories in the papers of dogs viscously attacking young babies and I just don't want to take that risk, even being a huge dog lover as OH and I are.

I am really concerned about my OHs grans dog though. He is a little jack Russell and spiteful as hell. Me and OH are the only ones he's never bitten. He bit my best friend at a car boot sale last summer just because she got within a foot of him and she's still got the scar. He's very old (15 ish I think) but OHs gran treats him like a baby gives him everything he needs (literally hand feeds him cups of tea and cooks him several different things everyday depending on 'what he fancies') and it has turned him into a nasty little piece of work - sounds awful to say that, but he is a very manipulative dog.

Problem is, she won't go anywhere without him, and I've already tried to say to OH that the dog isn't coming into our new house with the baby only for him to turn round and go 'she won't come in the house without the dog and I'm not having her not come into the house' so basically I'm faced with the problem of having to have young baby and dog in close vicinity and I wouldn't trust the dog with a biro, let alone being around a baby. He is VERY possessive and if he saw OHs gran holding the baby and not giving him any attention I am fairly sure he would go for someone.

It's really worrying me!! She's already (half) jokingly said she's looking forward to pushing the pram around with the baby in the top and the dog underneath and I'm like seriously.......never going to f***king happen...but I just know once baby is here I'll get bullied into letting things happen that I'm not entirely comfortable with because she's so excited about the baby (grandad died last year and it tore everyone up, OH and his mum are VERY close to gran and she's pretty much got nothing else in her life apart from the blasted dog and the upcoming baby which she can't stop talking about)

Am I being really overly paranoid? OHs mum and OH both agree with me about not trusting the dog around the baby but I know once she is here it'll be a different story (I can just hear it now 'oh she can't leave the dog in the car it's unfair, don't worry he won't come near the baby')

I wouldn't want baby around that dog, if he has bitten people before and is jealous then a baby is going to make him even worse. If you still want OHs gran to visit and she absolutely won't come without the dog then can the dog remain in the garden or in another room behind a baby gate? It's pretty selfish of her if she refuses to visit without the dog, I love my dog to bits but wouldn't take him to someone elses house if I was only out for a bit ! Took him to my parents at Christmas but we took his huge cage so that if he was getting in the way he could go there and lie down out the way of everyone - it wasn't needed but being a responsible dog owner it was something I felt would make things easier for us all.

sjlou

We don't have any pets (would love a Beagle but know how much work they can be!) and luckily there's no dogs in the family.
I don't think you're being over protective, you need to put your foot down!

I'm not sure who I was discussing mattresses with before.... but kiddicare have got 50% off on some of their mattresses. So I've gone for it and ordered one. £40 instead of £80 for a spring mattress seems to good to miss, especially when you see the prices m&p are trying to charge!:eek:

Risk assessment at the Midwife unit tomorrow. Keeping everything crossed!
Talking to someone else whose just had theirs all they do is check your blood pressure, urine, babies heartbeat and talk you through the facts/ limitations of it being an MLU. Apparently 1 in 5 mums will get transferred over to another hospital - usually due to high temperature, or meconium in waters.
Looking forward to having a look round the rooms if we get the all clear.

vicky good to hear theres nothing serious wrong. As someone else said better to go and get checked out than be worrying at home.

faith good luck with your section tomorrow. I think that'll put me in the top 10!! :eek:

smartcat I too cant believe they told you off!!

Managed to get OH to watch OBEM, he's never sat through an entire episode before. I got so emotional!!

con1888

When did everyone start to discuss the actual birth with MW ?
I'm 36 weeks and haven't discussed anything other than which hospital I want to go to ( hardly a choice as the next nearest one is 40 mins away as opposed to 10).

I have a growth scan a week today.

sjlou

con1888 wrote: »

When did everyone start to discuss the actual birth with MW ?
I'm 36 weeks and haven't discussed anything other than which hospital I want to go to ( hardly a choice as the next nearest one is 40 mins away as opposed to 10).

I have a growth scan a week today.

I'm 36 weeks too, and at my next appointment (37 weeks) we're going through a birthplan. I've already been through one at the nct classes though, so not too bothered. We were told not to write an essay!! as the midwives wont often have time to read something big. So something like this might be useful and worth a look at first so you've got some idea/questions ready to ask the midwife about.
https://www.hipp.co.uk/uploads/documents/expert%20advice/pregnancy/my-birth-plan.pdf
The only thing our nct teacher added was whether you wanted delayed cord clamping or not.

con1888

sjlou wrote: »

I'm 36 weeks too, and at my next appointment (37 weeks) we're going through a birthplan. I've already been through one at the nct classes though, so not too bothered. We were told not to write an essay!! as the midwives wont often have time to read something big. So something like this might be useful and worth a look at first so you've got some idea/questions ready to ask the midwife about.
https://www.hipp.co.uk/uploads/documents/expert%20advice/pregnancy/my-birth-plan.pdf
The only thing our nct teacher added was whether you wanted delayed cord clamping or not.

I was told two appointments ago to fill out the birth plan part in my blue book which I done but it's all very ' go with the flow' as i've never done it before so not sure what I will want. I'd like to discuss a water birth or at least water pool for labouring though and see what the chances are of being able to do that.

sjlou

Are you able to get a tour at the hospital? Maybe they'll be able to answer these types of questions?