MSE Pregnancy Club 28

RobotsinDisguse

Just a quick post... Need to try to sleep. Walked miles, didn't seem to help. Broke down crying in car home. So very desperately unhappy.:(

Realised that at least part of my fear of induction is due to my mums experience (me "nearly killing her" is what she's always told me = emergency c section & not seeing me for 3 days so we never bonded & have never got on.) that was an obvious revelation really. But hit me hard. Husband just hugged me & put me in a bath to relax. Bless him.

I was on the verge of refusing induction / not wanting to go in. But I'll go in for monitoring at least & see where we are.

skintchick wrote: »

Oh yeah, the lollipop lady at school has started trying to guess my due date because I won;t tell anyone and instead am just saying I am in thedue window. I find it really rude! If I wanted people to know then I would tell them!
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I've told very few people. Now at 41+1(tues) people are guessing I'm " overdue"

skintchick wrote: »

I wanted to be specific so it was very clear what kind of birth I wanted. The MW was very respectful of it last time and I got everything I wanted.
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I had researched extemsively andknew exactly what i wanted - it would take an emergency to make me deviate from this so I felt it was best to set that out clearly.

Me too. Perhaps that's part of my problem. I just don't trust the hospital, after all the small mistakes & cockups how can I tryst them to be honest/accurate with me at a critical time? Plus as the hospital leaflet says less than I know!
I'm v glad they were respectful to your wishes.

Night night everyone. If you have a little positive energy to share with me tomorrow I'd really appreciate it x

monty-doggy

Lots to think about then!

What's the benefit of delayed cord clamping?

AquamarineMonkey

PommeVerte I also think my baby doesn't want to come out. I have no idea how you're weeding and cleaning the house though as I can walk easily but can't bend, and I'm not too steady if I crouch down!

Hope all goes well at your scan tomorrow purcy.

LemonTree good to hear things are progressing well with your nursery.

Yay for being full term skintchick. Sorry your OH is being more of a hinderence than a help. Hope your SPD session is useful. It was really interesting reading your birth plan.

T2D glad that baby is staying put, each extra week much be such a relief for you.

vicstick I don't blame you for sitting down, at least you took the dogs to the park. I haven't taken my poor DS to the park for weeks. Luckily we have a slide, trampoline and various ride on toys in the garden.

Good to hear you got to see a nice doctor TCOD. Hope you manage to get the later weekend for your induction, and not that I'd wish you a long labour, but induction can sometimes take a couple of days so you may still get a September baby!

Much be such a relief that the house move is back on Laila and that your Lazy Daisy class has relaxed you.

monty-doggy it's up to you how detailed your birth plan is depending on how strongly you feel. I haven't actually written out a birth plan, but I do have pages and pages of notes in my green booklet that all the same thing- doesn't want to be induced, will only consider a c-section in an emergency, wants to give birth in water, would like pain relief early on if not going in the water. I also have a yellow birth plan attached which relates to the gestational diabetes side of things that the hospital filled out for me but that's standard for anyone with GD.
If you feel very strongly about doing things a certain way then it's probably a good idea to be as specific as skintchick has been as sometimes in an emergency situation they don't always have time to read all your plan so it's a good idea to make OH familiar with it too. When I had DS they asked me everything verbally when decisions had to be made quickly as it was an emergency, luckily I was still able to think clearly at that point!

Hugs robots, I fully understand your fear of induction as part of the reason I'm so anti-induction is that I had one with DS and that ended in an emergency c-section (although in all honesty we knew in advance his birth was likely to end in a c-section due to complications but I'd insisted on at least trying to give birth naurally).
If it helps you feel better, I was very poorly after having DS but it never affected our bond, he's 3 now and we're very affectionate with each other, so not everyone's experience of an emergency c-section is the same as your mum's. I was upset at the time that I couldn't get out of bed without assistance so I couldn't pick him up when he cried, and OH did all his nappies for the first few days, but I wasn't afraid to press my buzzer when I was left alone overnight so the hospital staff could come in and pass DS to me, so we had lots of cuddles and I did manage to breast feed.
Once we got home either my mum or OH's mum came over everyday to help for the first few weeks until I felt well enough to be home alone. I had them doing all my housework etc so all my time could be focussed on DS. It also helped me get some rest as they'd look after DS inbetween feeds so I could sleep. Lots of friends also volunteered to come over and help too so I would have had support if our mum's couldn't have been there.
Glad your husband is looking after you, and hope you are feeling a bit better this morning.
Also, bear in mind the hospital cannot force you to do anything you don't agree with so don't be afraid to be very clear about your wishes, or get OH to express them for you if you don't feel up to it. I've made sure OH is fully aware of what I do/do not want, and in the event I'm unconcious what I would/would not consent to.

LailaP_2

Skintchick thanks so much for this info, it's given me a lot to think about and research for myself.

Bluebell1000

Skintchick, thanks, very useful. I was intending to put together something quite similar, but as you've already done the hard work I will just adapt yours

Good to hear that your house move is still going ahead Laila! We're still waiting for things to move on with the sale of DH's flat, but at least we're not living in it. We'll just have to sort out a van and empty it (it was let furnished) when we finally get a sale date. No idea where we're going to put the stuff though, I think most of it will have to be sold as we really don't need that much furniture!

I'm not keen on the idea of induction either (if nothing else, it means going into hospital) but I'm not sure how fed up of pg I'll be by the time I'm 41 weeks ish! Hopefully baby won't keep me waiting that long though.

TCOD - the slight disadvantage of a September baby is that the free 15 hours childcare kicks in on the term after their 3rd birthday (at the moment anyway). So a late Aug baby would mean some free childcare from the September, whereas with a September baby it'll be full price childcare until the following January...

vicstick86

Hope everyone is having a good day!
I managed to walk the two football fields of the park, and do asda.... so been a productive day! Ha! To think I used to work 10 hour shifts and 50 hour weeks... five weeks off and walking the dogs and shopping in asda is now my idea of productive...

I dont know how other full term ladies feel but im convinced im growing a concrete block and not a baby, my bump is so heavy....

time2deal

Vicstick - I spent less than an hour moving books off the shelf into a box, and a bit of bedroom tidying and I'm back on the sofa!

As an aside, those sites that buy books etc don't buy very much! About 100 books and they accept 7 of them. Dh will be busy taking stuff to oxfam this weekend!

Whattodonow

hi all

thanks for all the birth plan info, very helpful, although the VE description has terrified me!

Tcod i cant believe you might be having your baby then - that's just round the corner! Ahhh!!!

Whattodonow

monty - there was delayed cord clamping discussion further up the thread if you want to find out more

Lemon_Tree

all furniture has now been built in the nursery, and we got our crib today Just need to put a shelf up on the wall and some stickers up as decoration and we should be done. well except if I try and adapt the curtains which came in with my bedding set so that we can actually use them, tempted to find them out tomorrow and figure out what needs to be done to make them fit properly and if I can Jazz them up in any way.