MSE Pregnancy Club 28

Lemon_Tree

I had a talk with my manager today about my exhaustion and not being able to cope with the workloads etc at the moment. Realistically there's not much help I can get as there's no one else capable to do the job, but she did suggest working from home, which initially was a non starter because of ICT issues, so we were looking at me working from my local station if they could find a desk. But I've leant on ICT a bit and hopefully they may have a solution which will mean I can work from home 2 days a week, which will save 3 hours of driving. And if it works then makes it more realistic to work from home after baby is born.
fingers crossed this works and our stupid security protocols and department don't step in to scupper everything.

RobotsinDisguse

Thank you Wangdoodle, esp for helping even though you've not felt like posting (totally understand, I went AWOL myself for 3/4wks). You've no need to apologise. I hope you feel better soon xx

I don't suppose you know the eBay seller name do you? I'm glad it was better quality than the near-fit.

So I tried the mother care mattress & it doesn't fit. Too narrow & too long it's 1/2 way up the end before I tie in the cloth bits.

I can't lie. It's made me really unhappy. I know my moods have been rather see-saw lately, but this has actually made me feel v low & actually depressed today (not words I use lightly as I am medicated for depression). I'm so upset with husband for not looking at the websites & left open for weeks / assuming it'd be ok. And perhaps more so of the fuss he made about us going to mother care & babies r us in the first place. He'd messed up his timings yesterday, made us late for the birthing class, made a huge fuss that we didn't have time after to go shopping ( on the route home), (but we did have time to visit his dad apparently?! Which wasn't on the way home?!) So it turns out we'd gone there needlessly we've had the basket since, I don't know, march? Months... I've sorted all the things (clothes, nappies, bedding, hospital appointments, medical stuff & choices, Moses basket & crib, carrier, pram), I asked him to source 2 mattresses & check the car seat in my car. He hasn't. He has painted his office, built a new shed roof, painted a wall in our bedroom & worked a ton of unpaid overtime (to make up for paternity leave he says). He's shattered & overworked. I worry about him.

But I'm 38wks pgnt, therefore baby could be anytime in next 3 wks, with no where to put baby to sleep. And have just sat & balled my eyes out after typing that. Sorry.

LailaP_2

In regards to nips, I've been getting the crusty stuff too and wondered what it was :rotfl: so glamourous. My boobs and nips hurt all the time, even before I preg and no one has ever been able to give me an explanation for it, this is the reason I won't be BF, they are painful enough!

I haven't been on for while, I have just been so tired and grumpy. I literally can't be bothered to do anything as I feel so exhausted. I'm only 25 weeks but feel like the 2nd trimester has long gone now and can imagine the next 3 months becoming a struggle.

I worked from home today, luckily my boss is very understanding but sadly I didn't get to have a relaxing day due to house move related phone calls/paperwork. Ergh, there is always something else that needs sorting, I will be glad when it's all done and dusted and we are in the new place.

lilmissreading

RobotsinDisguse wrote: »

Thank you Wangdoodle, esp for helping even though you've not felt like posting (totally understand, I went AWOL myself for 3/4wks). You've no need to apologise. I hope you feel better soon xx

I don't suppose you know the eBay seller name do you? I'm glad it was better quality than the near-fit.

So I tried the mother care mattress & it doesn't fit. Too narrow & too long it's 1/2 way up the end before I tie in the cloth bits.

I can't lie. It's made me really unhappy. I know my moods have been rather see-saw lately, but this has actually made me feel v low & actually depressed today (not words I use lightly as I am medicated for depression). I'm so upset with husband for not looking at the websites & left open for weeks / assuming it'd be ok. And perhaps more so of the fuss he made about us going to mother care & babies r us in the first place. He'd messed up his timings yesterday, made us late for the birthing class, made a huge fuss that we didn't have time after to go shopping ( on the route home), (but we did have time to visit his dad apparently?! Which wasn't on the way home?!) So it turns out we'd gone there needlessly we've had the basket since, I don't know, march? Months... I've sorted all the things (clothes, nappies, bedding, hospital appointments, medical stuff & choices, Moses basket & crib, carrier, pram), I asked him to source 2 mattresses & check the car seat in my car. He hasn't. He has painted his office, built a new shed roof, painted a wall in our bedroom & worked a ton of unpaid overtime (to make up for paternity leave he says). He's shattered & overworked. I worry about him.

But I'm 38wks pgnt, therefore baby could be anytime in next 3 wks, with no where to put baby to sleep. And have just sat & balled my eyes out after typing that. Sorry.

Hello just here for a bit of a lurk (23 weeks so coming here soon officially) and I saw this.

Robots I don't know if I feel more upset or cross when I hear this. Poor, POOR you and don't feel you need to apologise hun. Of course you're tearful. If the pg wasn't enough, the situation certainly is.

Have you talked to DH about how you feel and your different priorities? I think many men completely underestimate a) stress b) the fact that this unpredicatable and it would help to enjoy the pg if things were done on time. My own DH has just finished a 3 year undergrad english degree to re-train as a teacher. We agreed he could have from 15th May until 30th June off to 'write his book ya' and get materials ready for the teacher training. When I said I was going to slow down in August and take 3 full weeks a/l pre EDC and 1 week over 2 weeks before that he was shocked that I 'needed all that time.' CHeeky so and so. I put him right and also pointed out that of the 3 people we knew who gave birth recently, one was 10 days early, one 7 days early and one 2 weeks early so he could take his tutting and stuff it. He did but obviously we are different people with a different relationship.

If you get over upset talking can you write it down? Might sound unusual but maybe he'll read where he isn't listening? :grouphug:

ema_o

Robots I would be tempted to say at this stage just look for a cheap Moses basket with mattress included. Or ask around friends to see if anyone has one you could borrow, that might be easier to get mattress to fit.

You could even order one as backup & return it if you do manage to get a matress to fit. I think it's one stress you don't need at this point in time.

Did you say your OH is working unpaid overtime to make up for paternity leave? You know he doesn't have to make up for it right?

Do you have anyone else you could ask to fit the car seat? As a last resort I'd probably try turning up at mother care or somewhere at a quiet time & ask for help. Or if you have it from somewhere local try them.

wangdoodle

Big hugs to you robots sorry your OH isn't being more helpful. I was really upset too when the first Moses basket mattress we got didn't fit. I just felt like I'd let our baby down before she's even got here. The mattress we got was from junior-mattresses and they had a much bigger range of sizes than I'd seen in the shop. Our Moses basket is long and thin and I don't think they even make them in that size any more but we found one in the end. Hope you get sorted x

fireyfirenze

big hugs robots! I think I have to agree with ema_o, why don't you buy a moses basket that comes with a mattress so that you won't have to worry about the baby not having anywhere to sleep. my Moses basket is a lollipop lane one, it was only £25 and it's lovely. even if it's only as a backup for if baby arrives early.

I know that's not the point with regards to your OH. could you sit down and have a big chat with him? I must admit my oh has been similar recently, iv been asking him to clean the shower cubicle for 3 weeks now and it's only yesterday he did it because I nearly cried and shouted at him! so I'm not surprised you've just sat down and cried your eyes out, I cry at anything never mind something that's actually happened!

I'm similar stage to you and for the last few days my emotions have been horrendous, iv been crying for no reason, feeling low then stupidly silly, and being downright irritable, and I can't pinpoint any reason for any of them! I think it's par for the course towards the end of pregnancy, even though it sucks

38+5

vicstick86

Hi, ive been a long time lurker on all the boards, ive posted a few times but not really introduced myself.
mostly because I never really have anything to say.... im 34 weeks with my first!.
Left it quite late to join in.
so hi everyone!

I just wanted to say ref mattresses.... I got mine on amazon and it fits my moses basket that must be at least 65 years old.....if not older. Family heirloom. Amazon have a variety of odd sizes......

skintchick

Hi Vicstick

Huge hugs for Robots - that sounds very stressful and not what you need at 38 weeks. Could you look into buying a piece of foam you could cut to size and then cover? Even as a temporary measure? I agree with suggestions to taalk to your OH - sounds like he is stressed and coping in his own way (badly!) and maybe you just need a heart to heart xxx

LailaP wrote: »

In regards to nips, I've been getting the crusty stuff too and wondered what it was :rotfl: so glamourous. My boobs and nips hurt all the time, even before I preg and no one has ever been able to give me an explanation for it, this is the reason I won't be BF, they are painful enough!

BF doesn;t hurt if it's done right - you may surprise yourself when the time comes It always lovely to let them latch on after birth even if you're not planning to BF, because it calms them and helps the placenta come out, and colostrum is such great stuff even one colostrum feed will really make a difference.

I think boobs are often more painful in pregnancy because of all teh hormones. Those do settle down once baby comes out which can really help, whichever feeding method you choose.

I've got a growth scan tomorrow. Just routine because of my blood clotting disorder. Will be nice to see baby again.

Iv'e been busy the last few days helping with the Mumsnet miscarriage care campaign, doing TV interviews. Was on good Morning Britain today but my word my face looked fat!! :rotfl: I blame pregnancy.

glimmerofhope

Skintchick......we have a celeb amongst us