Daughter's friend

valk_scot

lostinrates wrote: »

She could say ' this weekend x is staying, he'll be on the sofa , the girls upstairs,' or however she decides to deal with it' so they can make their choice for their children. I am not suggesting she ask their permission, just that she doesn't go against the group rule.



For all she knows all the other parents feel the same as her and no one wants to look like the dodgy parent who is prepared to have a boy over first

Yes, this. I like this. It's rational and well balanced. I think the other parents should be made aware but it doesn't have to be a great drama, just tell your DD to tell her friends to mention it to their parents.

claire16c

If the kid is gay, his girl friends know that and his parents then I see no issue in you letting him sleep over.

You say you are worried about people thinking youve let a boy stay round - but surely these other girls would have told their parents that this boy is gay - or would do if they brought it up about them not being happy that he is there?

If he just wants to get in his onesie and watch a chick flick whats the problem!

peachyprice

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I do trust her. But it is normal to experiment. Have you never been 14?! And why would she be excluded?

Really? You think your daughter may experiment with a gay boy? If you think she's going to do that she's just as likely to experiment with her girl friends.

paulineb_2

peachyprice wrote: »

Really? You think your daughter may experiment with a gay boy? If you think she's going to do that she's just as likely to experiment with her girl friends.

I almost typed something similar to this earlier on.

thatgirlsam

peachyprice wrote: »

Really? You think your daughter may experiment with a gay boy? If you think she's going to do that she's just as likely to experiment with her girl friends.

Why? If she is straight she will be attracted to the male form. He has that. I don't really get what you're saying


I think it is normal to experiment with both sexes anyway as a teen. Not for everyone obvs, but plenty do

poet123

I don't think it is an issue him staying over in a group situation but as a parent I would want to know if my under age daughter was at a sleepover where boys were staying too.

His sexuality need not be brought into it. I would just tell the parents that x will be here too and will be sleeping downstairs.

paulineb_2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Why? If she is straight she will be attracted to the male form. He has that. I don't really get what you're saying


I think it is normal to experiment with both sexes anyway as a teen. Not for everyone obvs, but plenty do

You fancy who you fancy though. Just because someone is of the opposite sex doesnt mean you are automatically be attracted to them.

thatgirlsam

paulineb wrote: »

You fancy who you fancy though. Just because someone is of the opposite sex doesnt mean you are automatically be attracted to them.

Right.. I agree. I don't fancy every man I meet either LOL


What has that got to do with it though? I mean the point peachyprice made

peachyprice

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Why? If she is straight she will be attracted to the male form. He has that. I don't really get what you're saying

I'm saying, if you think your daughter is the kind of 14yo girl who is going to experiment with a gay boy under your roof with you in the next room she is likely to be the kind if girl who is going to experiment with her girl friends under your roof with you in the next room. Untrustworthy.

I find it quite sad that you think she would try it on with a boy she knows is gay, you don't seem to think very much of her.

poet123

peachyprice wrote: »

I'm saying, if you think your daughter is the kind of 14yo girl who is going to experiment with a gay boy under your roof with you in the next room she is likely to be the kind if girl who is going to experiment with her girl friends under your roof with you in the next room. Untrustworthy.

I find it quite sad that you think she would try it on with a boy she knows is gay, you don't seem to think very much of her.

Tbh I wouldn't be as concerned about that as I would be about being responsible for the other girls who may not be as backward at coming forward......;)