Daughter's friend

thatgirlsam

peachyprice wrote: »

I'm saying, if you think your daughter is the kind of 14yo girl who is going to experiment with a gay boy under your roof with you in the next room she is likely to be the kind if girl who is going to experiment with her girl friends under your roof with you in the next room. Untrustworthy.

I find it quite sad that you think she would try it on with a boy she knows is gay, you don't seem to think very much of her.

I think a lot of her. I really do. She is an amazing girl.


Its not that I think she would try it on, just that things can happen and I think its perfectly normal for teenagers to experiment.


I don't get why you think that just because she may choose to experiment with a boy (gay, straight or bisexual) that she is some kind of lust fuelled being ready to jump on anything that moves!


They have an incredibly close relationship and I can't rule out the fact that they may try stuff together.. It doesn't make her untrustworthy. It makes her normal.

daisiegg

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I think a lot of her. I really do. She is an amazing girl.


Its not that I think she would try it on, just that things can happen and I think its perfectly normal for teenagers to experiment.


I don't get why you think that just because she may choose to experiment with a boy (gay, straight or bisexual) that she is some kind of lust fuelled being ready to jump on anything that moves!


They have an incredibly close relationship and I can't rule out the fact that they may try stuff together.. It doesn't make her untrustworthy. It makes her normal.

Well said!

peachyprice

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I think a lot of her. I really do. She is an amazing girl.


Its not that I think she would try it on, just that things can happen and I think its perfectly normal for teenagers to experiment.


I don't get why you think that just because she may choose to experiment with a boy (gay, straight or bisexual) that she is some kind of lust fuelled being ready to jump on anything that moves!


They have an incredibly close relationship and I can't rule out the fact that they may try stuff together.. It doesn't make her untrustworthy. It makes her normal.

You really can't see why, if she was willing to try to experiment with a GAY boy, who would so not be into her, she would also try to experiment with her girl friends?

If you can't trust her with a gay boy in the house, you can't trust her with ANY of her friends in the house.

So, you either accept that she may experiment with him and girls but let them stay over anyway or you don't let any of them stay over. Letting only the girls stay over is double standards.

Person_one

thatgirlsam wrote: »

Why? If she is straight she will be attracted to the male form. He has that. I don't really get what you're saying


I think it is normal to experiment with both sexes anyway as a teen. Not for everyone obvs, but plenty do

Gay teenage boys rarely want to experiment with girls, girls rarely want to experiment with their gay male friends. It's all a bit 'eugh'. They're far more likely to gossip about which of the other boys at school they both fancy.

thatgirlsam

peachyprice wrote: »

You really can't see why, if she was willing to try to experiment with a GAY boy, who would so not be into her, she would also try to experiment with her girl friends?

If you can't trust her with a gay boy in the house, you can't trust her with ANY of her friends in the house.

So, you either accept that she may experiment with him and girls but let them stay over anyway or you don't let any of them stay over. Letting only the girls stay over is double standards.

I find that ridiculous.


Im presuming she is attracted to boys (she has never said anything otherwise)
Her friend is a boy. How does this lead on to her being attracted to girls again?

thatgirlsam

Person_one wrote: »

Gay teenage boys rarely want to experiment with girls, girls rarely want to experiment with their gay male friends. It's all a bit 'eugh'. They're far more likely to gossip about which of the other boys at school they both fancy.

I agree, mostly


I have a couple of gay mates who definitely experimented with girls when they were young. Kind of like a 'test' one has told me?!


LOL at the last bit, they argue over Tom Daly haha

peachyprice

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I find that ridiculous.


Im presuming she is attracted to boys (she has never said anything otherwise)
Her friend is a boy. How does this lead on to her being attracted to girls again?

Because he is a GAY boy. She is not going to be attracted to him, that's the point. Even if she was she wouldn't do anything because he is her best friend and presumably she respects the fact that he is gay.

So there is no more 'risk'in letting him stay over than there is letting the girls stay over. The 'risk' is only in your imagination, you are being ridiculous thinking that she would experiment with him just because he happens to be a boy!

Do you get it yet?

Person_one

thatgirlsam wrote: »

I agree, mostly


I have a couple of gay mates who definitely experimented with girls when they were young. Kind of like a 'test' one has told me?!

I know gay people of both sexes who've had relationships and even marriages with the opposite sex. Not generally after they come out though.

It really seems as though this lad is 'one of the girls', I really think you're worrying over something that is very very unlikely.

thatgirlsam

peachyprice wrote: »

Because he is a GAY boy. She is not going to be attracted to him, that's the point. Even if she was she wouldn't do anything because he is her best friend and presumably she respects the fact that he is gay.

So there is no more 'risk'in letting him stay over than there is letting the girls stay over. The 'risk' is only in your imagination.

Do you get it yet?

No. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean someone who is straight can't/doesn't fancy them. I think George Michael is hot.


Doesn't mean anything will ever happen, that bit I understand. Just because he is gay doesn't mean he may never ever try anything with a girl either.

paulineb_2

thatgirlsam wrote: »

No. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean someone who is straight can't/doesn't fancy them. I think George Michael is hot.


Doesn't mean anything will ever happen, that bit I understand. Just because he is gay doesn't mean he may never ever try anything with a girl either.

But by all accounts their friendship is platonic. Im straight, I certainly dont fancy every straight male Ive ever set eyes on, the thought of that is ridiculous.