Hen night: am I being tight?

Georgiegirl256

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Seriously?? I have exactly the same relationship with my friends as I did before I got married.

So do I. Comment explained above, it wasn't meant to be taken literally.

Pollycat

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

For those comment on my 'last weekend of freedom' comment, yes I admit, that didn't come out the best way it could! (Have now edited so I don't get more people jumping on that comment!)

It's a saying, and I think you all know what I meant....

I didn't mean she'd never have a night out/weekend away again! Seriously, some people find anything they can to pick on in these forums.

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

So do I. Comment explained above, it wasn't meant to be taken literally.

I didn't take it literally.

Do you understand this;?

Pollycat wrote: »

Tongue-in-cheek, Georgiegirl (I don't have 4 kids and don't have a friend who is getting married in Fiji)

It's not exactly a serious thread, is it? :cool:

paulineb_2

I think for me it would depend what the hen party were going to be doing. If it were sitting in the pub and going out for dinner and I had to pay £300 plus for it, I might be having second thoughts. If it were something a bit different I might be a bit more inclined to part with the cash.

Any hen night Ive been on has been a few drinks in someones home or out in the town we live in for a few drinks. I appreciate that a lot of people have stag/hen weekends or even week long holidays, but I do think its polite to ask everyone can they afford it and if not, then theres no reason why someone couldnt have a local night out as well.

I know the OP can afford it, but just because she can afford to part with the £300 doesnt mean theres not something else the money could be spent on.

balletshoes

orangeslimes wrote: »

Yes -no it is fair enough. I have been invited - but its just a bit difficult because I have different ideas about what's important in a holiday (and also live in a different part of the country meaning flights are more expensive).
Also whenever I went on holiday with a child it was nearly always going to stay with a relative, as hotels were always too expensive. I think this has rubbed off on me and I feel guilty spending money on hotels and things that would have been too expensive when I was 12 - which is silly.

you're right - thats silly - especially when, as you say, you can afford it, you do want to go, and you're a good friend of the bride.

In your shoes, I'd go.

I wouldn't go if I couldn't afford it though.

Its just different perspectives isn't it - the bride has approved this, its what she wants, and its her hen.
I'm another one who is used to spending a certain amount on holidays etc, I don't go for luxury, clean and functional is fine for me (location is more important than luxury to me). But my OH feels differently, he likes a bit of luxury when he's on holiday, so we compromise - I pick the location, he picks the standard of hotel (and then I try and find it for the least money possible ).

Georgiegirl256

Pollycat wrote: »

I didn't take it literally.

Do you understand this;?


It's not exactly a serious thread, is it? :cool:

Yes I understand tongue in cheek! But your 'seriously :eek: ' comment was below that and below my last weekend of freedom comment if you'd care to look ^^^ So, I was just explaining myself, just I case some people hadn't realised that I hadn't meant it to be taken literally! Ok?

I give up! :rotfl:

Pollycat

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yes I understand tongue in cheek! But your 'seriously :eek: ' comment was below that and below my last weekend of freedom comment if you'd care to look ^^^ So, I was just explaining myself, just I case some people hadn't realised that I hadn't meant it to be taken literally! Ok?

I give up! :rotfl:

WOW!

And you talk about other posters taking things too literally. :rotfl:

I always find that using the 'Preview Post' facility helps me decide if a post conveys what I actually mean.....:cool:

Georgiegirl256

Pollycat wrote: »

WOW!

And you talk about other posters taking things too literally. :rotfl:

I always find that using the 'Preview Post' facility helps me decide if a post conveys what I actually mean.....:cool:

Ok Pollycat! :rotfl:

Jeez, I'm almost frightened to write anything else incase that gets taken out of context too....:(

Ok, basically to sum it up, my badly worded second post was meant to convey what balletshoes put in her post (only she worded it much better lol!)

I think we should resume normal service now, before this thread descends into an even bigger farce than it has already turned into.

FatVonD

I wouldn't go because if I was spending £300 I would rather spend it on my son/home/something we could do as a family.

If I was single and had no kids I still wouldn't go as wild horses couldn't drag me to a spa, it's really not my cup of tea. However... if it was a 3 day hen party at a music festival for the same amount I'd probably go because it was something I wanted to do anyway but no way would I pay £300 to do something that didn't float my boat.

OP, could you stay home but book and pay for a spa treatment for the hen or arrange for a couple of bottles of champagne to be delivered to the cottage?

getmore4less

£100+pp just for the accomodation,

what sort of place is it

Hope thats for the full 3 nights of a weekend and not just 2?

what else are you getting for the £100.

Are you sharing rooms to cut down costs?



on another angle as you have not been able to make other events you could look at this one as just spending the money you have saved by not going to those.

Have a great time, place must be stonking good at that price.

Errata

£300 for a hen 'do', another £300 for wedding outfit, travel, overnight stay, another £xxx for a wedding present = the thick end of a thousand quid. It's mental.