12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

daisiegg

I am utterly convinced I am going to drop and/or break my baby

time2deal

I'm adding this video only because it has the cutest little newborn in it! http://www.snugglebundl.co.uk/video-thesnugglebundle

Daisiegg, you will be great. Everyone knows nothing about this stuff to start with! We will all learn.

daisiegg

time2deal wrote: »

I'm adding this video only because it has the cutest little newborn in it! http://www.snugglebundl.co.uk/video-thesnugglebundle

Daisiegg, you will be great. Everyone knows nothing about this stuff to start with! We will all learn.

That is amazing! I am sorely tempted to buy one....hubby and I just watched the video and are now sold lol!

Whattodonow

Hi all

Man this talk of what everyone is buying is freaking me out!! We have nothing yet. We are absolutely skint at the moment and can't afford anything so that eBay advice from Lilmiss has been a godsend. Hoping I can get some bargains.

I'm ok peonie thank you for asking. Actually that's a lie the headaches have died down but I'm anxious and stressed all the time. Hoping im not getting antenatal depression. Also feeling guilty for feeling lien this: firstly because of what I've been through to get here - how dare I complain, secondly because of the effects on the baby. And then I feel more stressed because of the guilt.

Dreading going back to work on tues.

Talk about bringing the thread down!!

mrshappy

Asda baby event is online just now and instore from Monday Disney, I got a perfect prep for £65 x

daisiegg

Whattodonow wrote: »

Hi all

Man this talk of what everyone is buying is freaking me out!! We have nothing yet. We are absolutely skint at the moment and can't afford anything so that eBay advice from Lilmiss has been a godsend. Hoping I can get some bargains.

I'm ok peonie thank you for asking. Actually that's a lie the headaches have died down but I'm anxious and stressed all the time. Hoping im not getting antenatal depression. Also feeling guilty for feeling lien this: firstly because of what I've been through to get here - how dare I complain, secondly because of the effects on the baby. And then I feel more stressed because of the guilt.

Dreading going back to work on tues.

Talk about bringing the thread down!!

Aww don't worry, that is what we are all here for! We all,have bad patches when we need to talk. If you don't mind me asking, do you have a history of mental health issues, anxiety or depression or anything? I do and my mw talked a lot about it at my booking in appointment, saying that it puts me at a higher risk of antenatal depression and that if I felt low I should speak to someone and get help sooner rather than later.

That said, I think we all feel anxious. Yesterday I was posting about worrying that I couldn't feel the baby move...and in real life I spent about half the day crying because I was so worried about it! I know it is easier said than done but try not to worry about worrying...if you know what I mean! I have never heard of anyone causing problems to the baby by being too worried. If you think about it, people have babies under all sorts of stress - during wars, in prison, when they have bad home lives, in extreme poverty...even just women in very stressful high powered jobs who work right up to the birth. I don't think feeling stressed and worried during pregnancy will harm the baby, even though it is no fun

But we are all here to talk to if you need it! And I would advise if you really are worried and think something might be wrong, see a doctor or midwife. My mw said they have specific mental health midwives who would look after you if you weren't feeling right and it is better to get help than suffer in silence.

Sending hugs!

time2deal

Whattodonow wrote: »

Hi all

Man this talk of what everyone is buying is freaking me out!! We have nothing yet. We are absolutely skint at the moment and can't afford anything so that eBay advice from Lilmiss has been a godsend. Hoping I can get some bargains.

I'm ok peonie thank you for asking. Actually that's a lie the headaches have died down but I'm anxious and stressed all the time. Hoping im not getting antenatal depression. Also feeling guilty for feeling lien this: firstly because of what I've been through to get here - how dare I complain, secondly because of the effects on the baby. And then I feel more stressed because of the guilt.

Dreading going back to work on tues.

Talk about bringing the thread down!!

What daisegg said! Excellent advice.

Re buying things, I have bought precisely one 6-12 month 'themed' outfit, which I got for my husbands birthday and nothing else! Just looking at ideas now. There are so many choices...

But I am thinking that buying a few things each week might be an idea to spread the cost a bit. I'm not precious about things being new, so I will be looking on Ebay too. Also we are moving to Australia when baby is ready to travel (expected at 6 months) so we don't want to buy too much stuff as there are many many babies in Sydney waiting to hand over their goods.

I know what you mean about not complaining. There are some things that are annoying me, but I don't want to complain, and I remember how deeply frustrating it was to see people complain when you are TTC. At the same time, the whole thing is different to how I expected and not exactly a bed of roses, but will be worth it in the end. Just keep that mantra up!!

lilmissreading

Whattodonow wrote: »

Hi all

Man this talk of what everyone is buying is freaking me out!! We have nothing yet. We are absolutely skint at the moment and can't afford anything so that eBay advice from Lilmiss has been a godsend. Hoping I can get some bargains.

I'm ok peonie thank you for asking. Actually that's a lie the headaches have died down but I'm anxious and stressed all the time. Hoping im not getting antenatal depression. Also feeling guilty for feeling lien this: firstly because of what I've been through to get here - how dare I complain, secondly because of the effects on the baby. And then I feel more stressed because of the guilt.

Dreading going back to work on tues.

Talk about bringing the thread down!!

I think I post on a forum as I am possibly more excited and more involved in their pg perhaps than people who do not. This is only speculation though. Hence the massively early buying. Plus it feels very MSE to me to buy a bargain when I see one and we need to spread the cost.

More importantly, as sure all that stuff we buy matters but really happy and healthy mummy and baby matter more, sorry to hear about the headaches. Around 6-8th April I had a headache arrive which wouldn't leave. That was bad enough. So sorry to hear your headaches aren't giving up.

Number 1: I would say that babies are wonderful, special little miracles and the magic and mystery of your body growing and developing a new person is awesome. What people are less inclined to say is that it is a windy, painful, crampy, tiring, moody, achy, boring, constipated, headachey, expensive, uncertain, nauseating, stressful time. It is all the wonderful and awful things for me. I burst into tears today (v unlike me) because I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired and yet if I dare to suggest otherwise to the outside world I feel like I am getting sideways glances of 'you ungrateful so so.' I am grateful. But I am also all those other things too.

Number 2: The impact of your stress on your unborn child is unknown. Look around you at your friends - can you tell which one had a mum that was stressed in pg? Or had pre- or post natal depression? You can't because human beings are more complex than being affected one cause. So if you can, pick up that guilt and put it to one side as many times as you need to and tell it that it has no known basis in reality.

Number 3: While the impact of stress is unknown, we can say that all of us are going to impact our children for better and worse. You have parents - are they perfect? No, we are aiming for good enough and sometimes that'll end in results we didn't intend. This makes me burn inside because I want to aim for perfection but if I don't accept good enough I'll become some relentless self critical looney which is to no one's benefit.

Number 4: have you mentioned how you feel to your GP or mw? A lady in my office who is due in July has been referred to a slightly out of area specialist pre-natal mental health service. Not because she's mad but because the NHS is recognising in some areas that pre natal mental health care is important. If you feel exploring some strategies might be helpful or having someone to talk I imagine it would be easier now before the baby arrives? I really admire for facing her anxiety and taking positive steps to change. Plus she gets her appointments as paid ante natal care.

Number 5: most important, you are growing a person and that makes you pretty special. Never forget that. Special people need looking after - by yourself and by others. Can you think of any things that would help? Even if they are little things - for example I am headed for a bath this afternoon and tomorrow is a big treat of a takeaway as we have a 25% off hungryhouse (sorry appears to be an email link for me only otherwise would share).

Take care :grouphug:

monty-doggy

What's a perfect prep? Xx

time2deal

I think this: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Tommee-Tippee-Closer-Nature-Perfect/dp/B00BG6304A