12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

time2deal

My boss was in meetings all afternoon so I ended up sending an email. He was totally supportive as expected but still makes me a bit weepy! In his words 'the priority here is obvious'.

I can work from home, but on a pretty limited workload. Phew!! All done. Next scan on the 18th and I'll reassess after that. Thanks for the support ladies.

daisiegg

Well done! And....relax!

Peonie

Time2Dance that's great news. Obviously not the reason why you gave to stay at home. But that your boss is supportive and there is some work that you can do.

AFM, I pretty much spent the morning in bed with a high temperature. I'm also going bra-less (TMI I know) but the new bras I got fitted for a month or so ago are now so tight on my rib cage I have bruises. The fitter did say my rib cage would expand but I thought I'd get more than 2 minutes out of £80 worth of bras.

I've been trying to think of a way to explain what a kick feels like as I did not get the flutterings or bubbles like others have. Mine are more a kin to a solitary heart beat.

Today I tried on some old leggings and they stay up/fit. No need to buy any maternity ones yet. Yay.

teaandcakeordeath

Peonie- i bought a couple of maternity/ nursing bras from the elle mcpherson outlet in chechire oaks. They have a load on sale at the mo and the thing I was most impressed with them was the sheer number of adjustments on the back. Think there's 5 or 6 different back settings.

T2D. At least you can carry on working from home and your surgeon has given you a definite answer. As daisi said, the rest is worth it if it stops the worst outcomes. Not a situation i'd like to be in but as i've stalked you for so long i'm sure it's something you'll take in your impressive stride.

Daisi, i suppose that makes sense about summer babies not achieving as well as they could- i definitely coast along and don't push myself but maybe that's an inherent personality trait. Lol. I went to uni and am doing a second degree through work- think I got my enthuasiasm for learning through my grandad who had to give up grammar school to go down the pit. OH has a levels and that's it. I used to think that getting my kids to achieve great things at school was really important but after being told we might not have any I reassessed my priorities. As long as baby is happy, healthy and can live a full life i'm happy with that. If they're not academic (like oh who has the attention span of a gnat) then i'll be there to get them through school and help them find a job/ career. TBH if I had my time again I would ignore my very well meaning teachers about the importance of uni (I loved school!) and have pursued working in a trade like I wanted to. I'd be rich now if I had!

LailaP_2

time2deal Just sending hugs and support, hope you can relax during your time off.

Hope everyone else is doing OK?

AFM, after 2 days of lots of energy, I've now gone the other way and am now completely knackered! I got in from work at 4pm and slept until 6:30pm! Just hoping I sleep OK tonight but I have a feeling I will.

monty-doggy

Peonie check this out, I've got them and they are brilliant xx

http://www.jojomamanbebe.co.uk/sp+4-pack-bra-extenders-in-maternity-products-and-underwear+a9182?gclid=CO7UvqS2474CFQ3JtAodM2UAyg

time2deal

Ahh - stupid.. I just wrote a response then hit back to check something on the previous page and lost it!

Peonie Worrying about the temperature still. Hope you get better soon. Did you get a decision from work about whether this is pregnancy sick leave or normal sick leave?

And loving the new nickname. Time2Dance.

Laila I think energy comes and goes, and just listen to your body when it says to sleep. While I'm actually feeling pretty normal, I have been so tired and headachy so I'll make the most of the ability to sleep and relax more.

Peonie I also totally agree with your description of what the kicks feel like. I'm still not 100% sure the heartbeat'y type feeling is the baby or not. Now I get the odd bubbly kick but more often it's a general shuffling around feeling and the odd gentle tapping. He definately doesn't approve of the laptop and anything else pressing on my tummy though. I get a little flurry of activity to tell me to move. It's really lovely.

alioops78

T2D I'm really glad that you got a quick response from your doctor and that work are so supportive of you. Your manager is right in saying that the priority is the baby.

Peonie really hope the virus disappears soon for you.

I've not bought any maternity bra's yet I've just got some comfort bras to be getting on with although I have worked out that the itchiness under my boobs is due to sweating a lot more so today I put deodorant under both boobs and it did the trick lol. The things we do to be comfortable.

Might head to Cheshire Oaks in a couple of weeks to have a look round as I've never been and it's somewhere different.

Really looking forward to my 20 week scan now so that we can see and hopefully hear sproglet. Will have to get DH to be ready to record it if he can. Oh and one of his revelations last night was that he's sh*tting himself about becoming a Dad, as if I'm not doing the same thing lol.

Peonie

T2D, I knew something was wrong about the name but I think that's what I read not your actual name. I've not had shuffling. It must be different for everyone. The beat is definitely the baby.

Monty, thanks for the link, I'm already using them but still getting the bruises - argh.

TCD, I agree with what you say about trades v education. Education was definitely pushed and trades looked down on but the people I employ make a lot of money!

Lemon_Tree

warning - this is a whinging post so feel free to ignore if you wish.


My in laws live in London but were originally from Italy, therefore speak both languages, for quite sometime now when we visit all of MIL's side of conversations is held in Italian (which I don't speak). After the first couple of times of just sitting staring into space or at daytime tv (which I detest) and getting really wound up, I decided that if it was good enough for her to knit all day when we were there, then I would take my own to do, or read, so that if she switched to English I could take part etc. Well apparently I am being rude by doing this. I obviously also stole her son away and 'made' him move to Suffolk because I refused to move into her house with him, (I'm the main breadwinner with the better job and at that stage had my own home). Again I am evil and rude by doing this.
I know when we do visit she spends her entire time b!tching about various members of her family who are no longer welcome in her home, don't exist for her etc, & she doesn't have a nice word to say about anyone. Apparently when hubby visits on his own or anyone else visits it's me who gets the b!tching about treatment. I don't visit enough, am evil, blah blah blah, but when I do visit I get treated like something the dog has left behind and she's stood in. I always suspected that this was the case, but we have hubby's sister and her OH visiting and I've been told outright that this is the case.
Apparently also when she visits us, I don't make her welcome or look after her, and she's asked my SIL non stop whether I'm being nice to them, feeding them, looking after them etc and is disappointed that she's being told that I am. On the 3 occasions that MIL has come to this house, we get only an hour or so's notice that they've actually set off (they don't plan ahead or won't confirm they are actually coming etc) and I'm expected to make a roast etc, yet I guess that by being in the kitchen making said roast, providing cuppa's etc I am not looking after them. Again whilst here she's holding her side of conversations in Italian so excluding me on purpose. Yet because I don't join in I'm being rude.


I always suspected that she b!tched about me constantly but it hurts to know it's actually true. I know I shouldn't care, but I'm the one who makes all the plans, books train tickets, actually MAKES OH visit his mum, yet I'm basically sh!te as far as she's concerned.


Sorry warned you all that this was a complaining message! just can't say anything here as OH doesn't like confrontation, and I don't trust my SIL not to report back every word I say to the MIL.
To top it all, I've got to arrange for us to visit next month and be all smiley about it when OH would be happy never to visit again but it would just cause so much more grief if we were to do that- oh joy!!!