12-24 weeks pregnant (part 3)

Lemon_Tree

I keep getting that water in the ear feeling as well, but only in my right ear, it fair does my head in!


filled out my form at work today to claim my 12 weeks enhanced maternity pay, and said to my manager that I was sure that sometime soon I had to give her an idea of when I planned to take my maternity leave etc. What it did do was make her look up the policy and discover (which I already knew) that I have supposed to be having monthly maternity assessment meetings including assessing my risk assessment document which she hasn't been doing. At least they are now booked into the diary each month. Did check with her about annual leave, as the email which came straight back from HR said I have to take all accrued leave before I go off, but she said as far as she's concerned that's rubbish (not quite the word she used ) - she know's i'll be back before the annual leave period is up and that I will be tagging it onto the end of my enhanced maternity leave so she's happy with that, her policy is what HR don't know can't harm them!
I guess it helps my argument that she won't actually sign off any leave until the week before my maternity leave due to my work loads and the deadlines and if HR insisted I took all my leave then I could, out of spite, insist that she lets me book it (particularly this month), and we would fail to meet statutory deadlines and get an almighty telling off from the govt.

wendz86

Sorry the scan lady wasn't nice Daisy. Try to forget about it.

Sounds like your manager is helpful Lemontree, good to have someone on your side.

Anyone watching the secret life of babies, is really interesting!

LailaP_2

daisiegg Your scan lady sounds rubbish, sorry to hear that. I think sometimes the professionals forget how scary pregnancy is for us ladies and a bit of reassurance is all we need!

Peonie and freebiequennie Hope you are feeling better soon

MrsC....tobe Sorry to hear about the ear, I've had tinnitus since I was a kid and it's a right pain in the backside. I have to sleep with a fan on to drown it out.

Lemon Tree Your manager sounds good, that's a result about the leave.

I've still got lots of energy today but I feel a bit on edge. I'm not sure why, but you know that nagging feeling like you've forgotten something? That's how I feel. Hubby reckons that I thrive on worry, that I wake up and think oh what can I worry about today, and I haven't got anything to worry about at the moment so maybe that's the problem :rotfl:

mr_knight

Just popping in to say hello. 13 weeks now and 12 week scan yesterday. All was good and it was very clear.

Edd 9.12.14

daisiegg

Welcome mr knight (or seeing as you are pregnant surely it should be ms knight?! )

Thanks for the kind comments about my scan ladies. It was awful, the woman made me feel horrendous for being fat I know I am big but I am not THAT big. She was huffing and puffing the whole time and pushing SO hard with the wand that I have bruises...I don't mind them doing what they need to do to get a good look but usually if they have to press hard they are apologetic and they ask if it is ok. I have had a lot of scans now this pregnancy and apart from the heart not quite being clear enough at 20 weeks there have never been any problems due to my weight. We've always got lovely clear pictures. She was scanning in a weird place, not where they usually scan on me and she didn't move it around to try and get a better view, just kept huffing and jabbing harder and harder. Eventually she said 'well it looks ok as far as I can see' but she has written on the notes 'quality of the images severely reduced due to mother's BMI, heart looks normal at best look'. I was so upset...I came out and got in the car and burst into tears and said to hubby 'I'm sorry I'm so fat they can't see our baby properly!' I am so annoyed because she was so grumpy and rude, and if she could not see properly surely she should not have just let us go, and should have said we needed another scan after this one to get a good look at it? The fact that she DIDN'T do that makes us think that for all her grumbling she must have been able to see enough to satisfy her, so why make such a fuss and make me feel like cr*p? I am not sensitive about my weight...I am the one who brought it up at my 20 week scan when he didn't say that it was the reason for an unclear picture...I am well aware that I am bigger than I should be, but she was just very, very unpleasant

Anyway....despite that rant...I am actually over it now! :rotfl: I have said though that I do not want to go into another pregnancy the size I was at the start of this one (BMI was 34 at booking in...it was a bad time to get pregnant in terms of weight as it was just after the Christmas period when I always gain a bit!) I am going to do my absolute best to lose weight after the baby is here. Yesterday evening I was all hormonal and saying 'I am just going to stop eating' like a ridiculous teenager but now I know that is silly and though I can do my best to be healthy now is not the time to try to lose it.

Laila - that is funny about being addicted to worrying! Is it a similar feeling to where something is slightly not right but you can't figure out if you are hungry, thirsty, tired, worried about something, or what...there is just SOMETHING! I keep getting that a lot recently.

Lemon Tree - glad your manager is being helpful, that sounds like a good outcome.

Mrs C - sorry about your tinnitus ear thing. That sounds annoying. I know what you mean because I get it occasionally (often when I am feeling dizzy/faint) but certainly not constantly! It doesn't sound very nice

lilmiss - I absolutely talk to my baby girl! When I am on my own I chat away to her all the time. And I tell her I love her a million times a day! Never too early to get them used to hearing that they are loved, I say and I am getting into the habit because I want to talk to her loads when she is here. My mum swears that we were all bright and talked early and so on because she used to chat constantly to us from birth, explaining things, etc. I am planning to do the same

freebiequeenie - hope your headache is better now. I'm sure you have been doing this already but make sure you drink loads of water and we are allowed to take paracetamol.

t2d - glad you felt better and had more energy yesterday did it continue? I felt like that over the weekend - Saturday, Sunday and Monday I was almost like a normal human being. Then yesterday felt knackered again! Slept well last night so feel pretty good this morning though

wendz86

Welcome Mr_Knight! Glad the scan went well.

Daisy - that was really unprofessional and rude of her. Glad you are feeling more positive though.

monty-doggy

I had a similar thing at my scan daisiegg, and she wrote about my bmi on my notes which upset me. I'm not huge I'm a size 16-18 and 5 ft 7 so I don't look like a huge blob but that's how she made me feel. What about the plus size mums who are size 26 etc how must they get treated?

daisiegg

I was wearing size 12 maternity leggings at the time! I am definitely not a giant blob! She was slim, fake tanned, giant false eyelashes, bleached blonde back combed hair etc...obviously taking pride in her appearance which is fine...she probably was absolutely disgusted by me!

time2deal

Glad it's not just me! I'm also not too sensitive about my weight normally, but something about seeing it written in the notes gets me down. For my second scan it says "technically difficult scan due to BMI++ and abdominal scarring" and something like "Baby appears normal within the limitations of the scan".

I also think what must it be like for ladies who are much larger! I'm 16-18, BMI 31-2 at booking it - but at 5'9" I guess I am quite heavy. At booking in the lady was lovely, she was very relaxed saying don't worry, it's not too bad and I was otherwise perfectly healthy so not to worry. She was happy at my perfect blood pressure, zero CO2 reading, no sugar in urine and all normal blood tests.

Having said that, I am getting a little worried about my heart. I get really odd uneven thumping heartbeat in my neck whenever I sit down on a sofa or in bed. It's ok in my office chair or standing, so I think I must be putting excess pressure on a vein of something when I have bad posture. Due to all this 'you are so fat' stuff I feel uncomfortable raising it! I know I should, but I don't want any further intervention and I feel I can manage it. Anyway...

Sorry that was all very me me me ! Welcome "Mr" knight. I see there are a lot of ladies about to move up from 12 weeks which is lovely! This is a nice thread - less of the sadness and stress of <12 weeks, and less of the drama and worry of the ladies approaching birth.

lilmiss - lovely that you chat to one of our boys! I must start chatting to mine. Presumably they can hear from now. I listen to a lot of music, but all though headphones so I must listen more outloud so he can hear. I read the other day about a lady who would play the ewan the sheep music to the baby in the womb, and then it worked very well soothing him once he was born. Interesting idea...

time2deal

Got to say that the scanning ladies themselves were lovely and didn't say a word to me about it, or make me feel like it was my fault. There was only talk of the baby being in the wrong position, and not that my fat tummy was the problem. I take some heart from the fact that the abdominal scarring is a real issue and means they really can't scan from the lower half of my abdomen much.