The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

vesper

Need something to seriously take my mind off all of this. I feel like I am stuck in a no man's land. No results for the tests that we have done, and the next test continuously moving, and is forever away.
I actually confessed to my friend yesterday that I feel like I am hitting an early midlife crisis as my mind seems to be accepting that there won't be children in our lives. I bought a new car earlier this week that would never ever be suitable for kids as it only really has two seats. And am attempting to find new hobbies, we went ice skating yesterday which I love, and am going roller blading soon and indoor skiing, not exactly the sort of things I should be taking up when ttc.
I can now completely see my life stretching ahead with no kids, I hate the idea, but I can still see it.

Floaty

Bigmomma, at our first appt with the gynae consultant he took our histories and gave me an internal examination. He ordered several more tests (SA, repeat bloods, dildocam and HSG) and that was it. At the second appt he ordered my lap&dye, and at the third he referred us for IVF. All quite straightforward, although at times it felt very slow and repetitive. OH only came to the first appt as we didn't want to waste the time off work.

Hope that helps

tia86

bigmomma051204 wrote: »

Hi All

Haven't been around for a while as just feeling so disheartened with everything ..... and still feel that I don't really qualify for this thread or the other LOL! Far too long in the tooth to be on the other one BUT everyone on here seems to be a fair way down the fertility route and talking about such scientific things which i don't have a clue about LOL!!

Anyone like me, just been trying for AGES (I don't want to say how many years again eeeek) but not having any intervention at this point in time?

I am seeing whoever it is I have been referred to on Friday 21st - wasn't a "fertility specialist" but rather a gynae consultant so not sure whether thats right or I will just meet another dead end :cool:

Those who are "further down the line".... What happened at your first appt? I have booked in for another set of day 21 bloods at GP on Tuesday and will ask for a print out to take along of both sets. Also have already got a printout from GP of DH's SA results. Is there anything else you think I should take? I just don't want to get there and be fobbed off for more of the same bloomin' tests to prolongue the agony!! Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated ladies :A

Hope you are all doing okay - Hugs to those who are in need of them

Hi Bigmomma,
I am in a similar position to you - not really fitting onto either board at the moment!
I had my first appointment with the Fertility Specialist last month - this was held within the woman's health unit at the hospital as part of gynaecology so I would not worry too much about what name is on your letter.

My appointment was basically filling out forms - the woman went through checking mine and my partners details. They already had the blood results from when I had them with the GP and the results from the scan I had already had.

She then explained the process of having to get a sperm analysis for my OH (some how that had been missed from the GPs initial requests) and that I needed to get my blood tested this time on CD1, 2 or 3 (am going tomorrow for that).
Following this she did give an overview of pretty much from now until the end if things don't work - so much to take it that I have pretty much forgotten apart from the more relevant parts for now. Once I have had my blood test and from my description of cycle length, she said they will post me a prescription for Clomid to start next cycle unless the bloods show that it may not be an ovulation problem. In that time we need to get my OH to give in his sample (we couldn't do this immediately as the hospital is in the wrong direction for work, and neither of us can get there in time, so I asked if it could wait until I have time off in a couple of weeks which was fine). If I am given the Clomid, this will initially be for 3 months, with having to then go for scans mid cycle. After 3 months, more procedures will occur.

So basically, it may be that you are asked for more tests, but if they have the results in, then depending on your situation they might be able to start a treatment I guess.

lisawood78

Oh Star, I had cabergoline a few years back on one try, sadly I ended up in hospital with OHSS! But I was pretty far gone before they started the meds so i'm sure you'll be fine.
Good luck for EC tomorrow!!
Was at clinic for 9am this morning, have to say it was soo nice to be able to travel past spaghetti junction and not be sat in stationary traffic!!
still got about 10 good uns, all about same size (12mm) Started cetrotide today and also upped my does to 375 to combat it as it can slow growth down apparently.
So I have had to have 3 injections today (standard 300 then my cetrotide and another 75!)
Back on Wednesday and he reckons I will be triggering Weds night for EC Friday which will be stim day 10 which seems about normal for me.
Not lookin forward to EC, I've noted my issues previously but my body doesn't respond well to sedation, It fights it and I have to have extra meds to stop me being fully aware of the whole situation (and feeling it all also!) but the extra meds leave me like a drunken fool , but OH thinks it is hilarious! I think I would rather have a GA!
Ah well, got a few days grace yet

star02

Hi lisawood

The tablet makes me feel
Slightly sick for a while after argh

Yes hopefully I believe they didnt want any more forming.

I have the opposite issue with GA - takes me ages to wake up!!!!

lisawood78

Wish I could have GA. They don't like doing anything with me really, my body reacts oddly and unpredictably to a lot of the drugs, I have very low blood pressure and a slow heartrate also so monitoring me becomes a bit tricky. No wonder I am still TTC after 12 years or more and 10 IVF's!
But this is the one (it blooming well is, mutter mutter grumble)

:-)

Loveactually

Star all the best for EC tomorrow.

Lisa - happy that your scan went well.

afm - scan tomorrow after starting stims on 10th March. I don't feel anything twinges or pain in my ovaries and no side effects. On top that as I told they moved my scan date ahead after blood test. Really getting worried that May be I did not respond to the injections and that they may cancel my cycle.

I don't know how I will get any sleep tonight. If they say tomorrow that they are no follies I may break down in the scan room I think.:(

lisawood78

I reckon you will be pleasantly surprised and that there will be all sorts going on in there :-)

ruth26

Hi guys, mind if I join you? I've been lurking here for a while and thought I'd better say hello. I was over on the other thread last year and recognise a few names. We're just stepping on to the infertility rollercoaster and I'm finding it all a bit overwhelming

Bit of background. I'm 32 and was diagnosed with a borderline ovarian tumour a few years ago which destroyed my left ovary. Had that and the left tube removed. I currently have a cyst in the remaining ovary that has been slowly growing and which they're keeping an eye on. We've been trying for about 14 months now with no luck, so things are moving ahead quite quickly as there's a chance I'll lose the ovary if the cyst turns out to be borderline again. I had a laparoscopy a few weeks ago to try and look at the cyst, and my consultant was going to do a dye test to check the tube and hysteroscopy at the same time. Unfortunately it was discovered that I've got really bad adhesions and she had to abandon the lap, so just did the hysteroscopy (which looked normal, just waiting for biopsy results). I'm now waiting for a HSG plus the usual bloods - seems like I've done things the wrong way round to most people! Husband is also having a SA. Once these are done, I'll have a series of scans over the course of cycle or two to see what the cyst is up to and then we'll see which direction things will go in. IVF has already been mentioned due to the severity of the adhesions and the problems they can cause plus the fact that the ovary may have to come out anyway at some point.

Sorry, went on a bit there! Feeling quite down about everything though and it helps to write it all down. Hoping to contribute to this thread a bit more than the other one

lisawood78

Hi Ruth.
Adhesions are the reason I find myself where I am. They caused my first ectopic which ruptured and took my first tube. Then during one of my many IVF cycles I got a BFP and that was also ectopic causing me to lose my second tube, but both tubes were in a terrible condition with adhesions anyhow so no use to anyone!
Hoping for a short journey for you!