The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

isla_red

Fingers crossed for you. It's so hard because unless you've been through it you really don't understand how difficult it is.

chocoholic_chick

Thanks ladies for being lovely as always. I just think it's one of those things, even though everything seemed to be perfect nothing is guaranteed.


star - Good luck for your FET! When I did mine I started the drugs on CD1 but I think this is down me having irregular cycles, I know other places start you on CD21. I had to call CD1 so they could schedule in my scans etc.


skaps - when I first started progesterone I had horrendous stomach cramps and sickness. That settled after about a week. Still having other symptoms but they're more manageable - mainly feeling exhausted and ridiculously massive sore boobs, I could give Dolly Parton a run for her money at the moment! Oh and I want to eat everything in site, me and the bathroom scales have had a serious falling out! Looking forward to having a few weeks of normality and no drugs after tomorrow! Just take it easy and take care of yourself. I really hope this works for you hun xx

star02

Hi

Choc - Yes I was told CD21 will start drugs and CD1 was today. I will get full details of treatment plan tomorrow so hopefully all will be laid out clearly!

I am trying not to get too excited as I hear that a frozen cycle isn't so successful etc but will try and think positively. This time we are not telling anyone doing treatment.

Re success rates, I wish there could be more detailed results broken down by reason etc as that would be interesting, all they seem to show is grouped by age.

chocoholic_chick

Well blood test this morning has confirmed I'm not pregnant so stopping all drugs and back in 4 weeks for a review appointment to see where we go from there. I'm hoping that at the review appointment I can get started on another go at FET soon after, I don't want to wait for months to start again.

star02

Choc- sorry to hear the news, hopefully you can start again shortly

I got my treatment planned today - hadn't realised it was such a long course which runs all the way to "results day" 2nd May providing transfer happens when expected etc!! Think it will be a long wait!

cwtw

Hello ladies. So I had transfer yesterday - it went really smoothly, other than having to wait an hour for the doctor so I was bursting for the lip when they were scanning me. It was incredible to watch transfer take place on the screen. So now I'm PUPO and excited!!!

Fingers crossed for you Skaps and Star as well.

Take care everyone x

isla_red

Star, hope tomorrow goes well for you.

cwtw, congrats on being PUPO! Hope it's a sticky bean for you xx

star02

cwtw - good luck

What worries me most is going through all this treatment from mid March (day 21) to get to transfer day and the embros not surviving defrosting stage although we are lucky and do have 3 day 5 embryos frozen (1 higher grade)

ljaneyr

Morning all,

I have just come on here to moan so apologies in advance and feel free to ignore!

Today marks 1 year of unsuccessful ttc for us. I know this is nothing compared to some but as I know I've got endo, I've found it a particularly stressful time and you guys have been a huge help.

On Sunday I got a 'we're pregnant' text from a friend and it's really hit me. She is a friend I don't get on with very well and I'm embarrassed to say I feel painfully jealous. It's awful, I feel like such a nasty person but I'm so angry that it's not us.

To mark the occasion, I am going for an internal scan and scan of my kidneys - yay! At the same time, DH has to deliver his SA at a different hospital so I have to go on my own.

Sorry for my lack of positivity but I would have to lie to maintain it at this moment! I think this journey might be easier if I could shout and cry and hide in bed when I want to, rather than having to pretend to be normal and capable at work. It takes such an effort and I'm worn out!

Again, sorry for moaning and thanks for being here. I'm struggling with a lack of pepole to talk to about this.

Janey x

pinkteapot

ljaneyr - you have absolutely nothing to apologise for.... I've wandered back in to the thread as I'm struggling with it at the moment. I turn 35 this week which is such a depressing age in fertility terms, and we're coming up on five years of TTC with not a single BFP in that whole time. In the last year, my entire group of friends from school have all had babies - they've all suddenly done it at once, coincedentally.

Another has been born today. It breaks my heart. Jealousy is completely natural - just remember that you're not being mean. You're not wishing it away from them. You just wish it could be both of you.

I'm also struggling with how taboo it is. You can't discuss infertility. As you said, it's putting on a happy face at work...

As it's been a long time for us, I've come a long way in terms of coping with it, but sometimes I still have spells where I struggle, and this is one.

Thinking of you my love, and I wish more than anything that none of us and no-one else had to go through this.