The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

pinkteapot

Mogwai - personally, I found IVF horrible, and even though we could have more attempts funded by the NHS, we don't think we're going to go ahead because I don't think I can cope with it again.

The drugs affected me mood-wise and emotionally really badly, and that combined with the stress left me struggling with depression and anxiety afterwards. It took me about six months to recover. I'm an extreme case - most people aren't affected anywhere near as badly by the drugs.

If you're self-funding there's added stress due to the high cost and low chance of success. Each IVF cycle costs around £6-8k, depending on your clinic, and has roughly a 1 in 3 chance of working. Common advice is to give IVF three attempts, if you're going to try it. The first cycle is a bit pot luck as everyone responds differently to the drugs, and the clinic find out about your responses and may tweak your treatment for the second go.

I know this post is HUGELY negative, and I absolutely don't want you to rule out IVF just from reading this! Just go into it with your eyes open, and do your research first. If self-funding, you can choose your clinic and some are better than others (with higher success rates).

Despite all of the above, I have friends who are unable to conceive naturally who have a daughter and another on the way thanks to IVF. In total, they had five cycles to conceive two children - three the first time and two the second time. But it can work. And just look at this group's graduates list.:)

mogwai

Thanks pinkteapot - it wasn't a negative post it was your experience and I think I need to get a rounded view of IVF before we consider it. People talk about it as if it's the easy option if you are having trouble conceiving but from what I read it can be just as stressful.

We are on holiday next month so will look into enquiring at clinics when we get back - it's been 16 months plus a few NTNP before that so just need to bite the bullet and take action I think! Does anyone particularly recommend their clinic (in London or west Essex)?

Thanks so much for all the information so far it's helped a lot and given us some hope

ElephantLovesMe

Good luck today frozenpenguin and anyone else undergoing any form of treatment today. will be thinking of you all xx

pinkteapot

mogwai - Fertility Friends has sub-forums for different areas in the country, so that's a good place to look for clinic recommendations:
http://www.fertilityfriends.co.uk/forum/index.php?board=218.0

frozenpenguin - good luck!! Think sticky!

GlasweJen

Good luck for today frozen penguin

frozenpenguin

Thanks everyone xxx Well, the deed is done, one 5 day blasto transferred successfully. The embryologist said when it was frozen last year it was graded AB and they were pleased with how it defrosted this morning so now it's just a case of time will tell!


Friday hugs to everyone xxx


ETA: we used embryoglue this time round! Hopefully that'll make it extra sticky

frozenpenguin

IVF/ICSI/IUI/FET cycles currently ongoing

• Fairy dust: IVF LP. DR injections (Buserelin) 20/3. EC 22/4, 8 eggs collected. 2x3d ET 25/4
• frozenpenguin: Medicated FET. Provera 17/3. DR sniffer (Buserelin) 19/3. Oestrogen (Progynova) 5/4. Scan 16/4 & 23/4. Progesterone (Cyclogest) 26/4. 1x5dET with EmbryoGlue 1/5.
• ElephantLovesMe: IVF LP. DR sniffer (Buserelin) 7/4. Scan 21/4 & 27/4. Noresthisterone 27/4. Scan 12/5.

Ovulation induction
cwtw: Three rounds of ovulation induction by injections
lauraw82: Appointment 12/11, Clomid for 4 cycles


Awaiting FS/other appointment or making alternative plans
159: Waiting for OH's tests
claretsgirl: Trying naturally
chocoholic_chick: IVF LP. DR injections (Buserelin) 2/3. Stims (100iu Gonal-F) 25/3, (125iu Gonal-F) 31/3. EC 8/4, 17 eggs collected, 10 fertilised. ET postponed, 4 amazing blasts in the freezer. Appointment 1/6 to start FET.
cyantist: Trying naturally
Flee: ICSI
Floaty: Medicated FET, co-ordination appointment 8/5
GlasweJen: Accepted into a group for a mitochondrial transplant, EC & ET hopefully at the end of 2015
Gelly123: Blood tests for chromosome testing - clear
Goodvibes: ICSI 2=chemical. ICSI 3= 2015, follow up appointment Jan 2015
Isla_red: Further treatment Jan 2015
lisawood78: Filling in forms for embryo adoption in Spain
lucyloves: IUI mid April
mogwai: Checking for ovulation and trying naturally
Picklekin: Approved to proceed to stage 1 in the adoption process
pinkteapot: Trying naturally and considering options
Primmer: Adoption panel 19/11 - they said yes!
shrimpy_80: Surgery (3 ops) 9/6, IVF delayed for 6 months til after the operations
TamVilla80: Metformin for 2 months then starting on Clomid
Think Pink: Trying the NTNP approach for 6 months
vesper: Referred for IVF


Team wonderbra (lovely and supportive aunties)
codemonkey
tea lover


Recent graduates

• nightsky224: Natural 20/3/15
• emmaj30: IVF. Stims 18/1. EC 29/1. 1 x 5d ET 3/2. 16/2/15
• Wonder_Woman: IVF round #3 with immune meds. 2/2/15
• Clevernamehere: Natural 28/10/14
• jazz25: Clomid. 16/10/14
• Gettingthereslowly: Medicated FET. Oestrogen (Progynova). Scan 12/9. 2 x ET 17/9. 1/10/14
• Danielley: LP. DR (Buserelin injections) 4/6. Stims (Merionel) 29/6. EC 9/7, 16 eggs collected, 11 fertilised. 1x5d ET 14/7. 21/07/14
• Carrot34: Natural 19/07/14

Acronyms
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/...postcount=4460

pinkteapot

Great news fp!

Whenever I hear embryo glue I have an image of a nurse putting Pritt Stick on an embie.

mogwai

Good luck frozen, I don't know your history but hope it goes well!

Thanks for the link pink tea will have a good look - lots to read up on x

TamVilla80

Yeah, good news FP, thinking sticky thoughts for you!