The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

picklekin

How on earth did you talk your OH into going to a spa weekend FP? Sounds wonderful!

We are going with my sister, her children and my dad and his partner to centre parks soon and I wanted to do some of the Spa things, my DH just gave me a LOOK. I think I could have forced him though if I'd said he'd have been left alone with the children muhahaha.

Hope the scan went well

Sorry to hear your coming to your 3rd year Laura... Part of me has accepted that its not going to happen naturally for me, but that still does stop the pain every month when AF says hi. *hugs*

What we need is mass graduation, like some kind of Rapture.

cyantist

There's always someone who's been trying for longer or is in a worse position, but that doesn't make it any easier. I second the mass graduation suggestion. Where can we sign up?

Anyway, CD1 here. Usually I have a strict 28 day cycle, and this was 30. DH kept going on last night about how strange it was AF wasn’t here yet, and I know he thought there might be a chance this month. To be honest so did I, even though I tried not to believe it. I don’t even think about testing these days because like Laura says, there’s only so many bfns you can take.

Why does my body do this? If she just stuck to her standard 28 days I wouldn’t get my hopes up and then end up feeling so crap after.

This month we decided that we’d get a CBFM and really try to time things better from now on. Then we had visitors last weekend and so I hid it all somewhere really safe where no one would spot it. And you guessed, I can’t find it. We have ransacked the entire house; it looks like we've been broken into. On the plus side DH found my kindle which has been missing since December.

tea_lover

Haha :rotfl: cyantist - I thought it was just me that put things in a safe place then never saw them again! I recommend buying another one - the lost item usually turns up within 30 seconds of clicking 'buy'.

Am jealous of these spa trips and centre parks hols - anyone want to smuggle me into their suitcase??

Am loving Brownies so far. Have only been twice but it's great fun. The girls picked my name last night (which nearly made me cry - I just loved it all so much the first time around and I'm so excited about getting to be part of it all again). The girls I'd seen the previous week seemed genuinely excited to see me again, which was lovely (and definitely what I needed after an awful job interview lol). Now I just need to work out if I can say the promise having made it 30 years ago, or if I have to wait and say it again somehow - feels awkward standing there saying nothing when they all say it at the end of the meeting but I don't want to put my foot in it. What a ridiculous thing to worry about :rotfl:.

codemonkey

Hmmm. Nice as the idea of a rapture type pregnancy thing sounds, I think DH would be a bit miffed if I suddenly got pregnant.

tea_lover

I am now reliant on immaculate conception so yeah... bring on the rapture!

cyantist

I might have to buy another as I don't have anywhere left to look in the house!

I have Brownies tonight, just wish I wasn't feeling so miserable as I always get pretty bad stomach cramps and upset tummy for the first 2 days of AF. Thank god I have some super strong painkillers with me.

When I picked my name from a shortlist the girls came up with, I went with the suggestion from the naughty girl of the bunch. She was so excited I picked her suggestion. I know I shouldn't but I do have slight favourites and the naughty girl might be on the list.

I feel awkward at the end, and whenever they sing songs that everyone knows but me, and when they do those coordination game things that I am rubbish at. I'll get used to it I know but in the meantime I look like an idiot who has less ability than a 7 year old.

Sorry the interview was so awful. Fingers crossed everyone else's was even worse!

tea_lover

I just make up the songs lol. It's funny, normally I'm crippled by the thought of being seen to fit in, do the right thing at the right time, etc. But there's something incredibly freeing (if that's even a word) about hanging out with 8yr olds.

Totally agree about the naughty girl - definitely my favourite too!

How long have you been going?

cyantist

I might spend my afternoon hard at work, googling brownie songs

I think I have more in common with 8 year olds than people my own age sometimes. I need kids so I can have an excuse to go and play at the playground, and get a trampoline for the garden, and go to disneyworld (DH says we can't go until we have kids - because he is a big meanie)

Tonight will be my 4th week with this group. But I tried a couple of groups before deciding on this one. I had one evening with the rainbows, but they weren't quite on my maturity level.

tea_lover

I've definitely found my level, anything more grown up in life than brownies is beyond me! Was talking to my mum last week about what I'd been up to and I had brownies and a flute lesson - I have the same social life I had when I was nine lol.

GlasweJen

Delurking, we have an update! Still can't get a surrogate - I think people have issues with being a surrogate for someone with a life limiting condition? Like they feel their baby would be better with a healthy family or something. It's really depressing me.

On the other hand we've been accepted into a group for a mitochondrial transplant (one of those 3 parent babies that were on the news a few months ago). In terms of the embryo making we need to march to the scientists tune so we will be looking at egg collection and embryo will hopefully be here by the end of the year. It/they will be frozen until a surrogate comes along.

My older sister initially volunteered but I don't really want to use her as she's so self centered that the whole pregnancy will be about "her" baby and if it's a boy I don't think she would hand him over (which is an awful thing to say about your sister but my mum actually warned me that she thinks that's what sister would do and then make it out that it's all just so emotional and hard and not about me).

My younger sister has also offered but wouldn't want to be a surrogate for her first baby, it's nice of her to offer but she's been diagnosed with PCOS and has had cervical cancer before so she might not be in for the smooth run she's hoping for. She's getting married in June and they are planning to start trying straight away.

re. the brownie/guide promise, if you made it before as a guide then you wont need to renew it ever again though you might want to when you get your disclosure through and start working on your book.

If you only made it at brownie level I think you will need to do it properly.