The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Fairy_dust

Thanks GTS ! Your test date is the day after mine. Scary times ahead. Frozen will be a couple of days later. Hopefully it's a triple whammy

I think 2 is definitely the way to go rather than just having one in the hope that at least one embryo implants, obviously there is a risk of twins but we are told of the risks at the time. Just before my second transfer I read about this couple who had been trying for years, had ivf and had 2 embryos transferred. They ended up with quads :eek::eek: I told my OH about this after driving out of the clinic & I definitely noticed his face drain of colour :rotfl::rotfl:

Live 4 is a good amount. That's over 50% fertilisation which is good. Some of those 7 may have been too mature or immature so that may have been the reason they never fertilised.

I think with ivf it's a luck game as I've heard of people that have perfect blastocytes/embryos and have had a bfn and others with crappy embryos that have resulted in pregnancies. I read this yesterday. Makes you think Not Suitable for Transfer

It is definitely a roller coaster ride this whole process. Wishing you and your wife lots of good luck xx

live'n'learn

F.D.


Thanks for the reply.


Would be happy with 1 or 2 though if 3 or 4 I think I would need a 2nd job and an extension on the house.


Exciting times I hope.


Cheers

Fairy_dust

livenlearn wrote: »

F.D.


Thanks for the reply.


Would be happy with 1 or 2 though if 3 or 4 I think I would need a 2nd job and an extension on the house.


Exciting times I hope.


Cheers

Haha we would be the same! It said it was a 1 in 2 million chance so pretty unlikely. I was wrong it was just the one embryo they had transferred :eek::eek: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2324817/You-wait-years-baby-FOUR-come--theyre-girls.html

picklekin

Oooh a man in the thread that's new! Hi there LNL :wave:

I think that the percentages must increase, if you start out with a 30% and people drop out at each stage then I think if you get to ET then it's got to be higher. I wish you and your wife the best of luck. My OH says he can't wait for egg collection then he's free to have a beer!!

live'n'learn

picklekin wrote: »

Oooh a man in the thread that's new! Hi there LNL :wave:

I think that the percentages must increase, if you start out with a 30% and people drop out at each stage then I think if you get to ET then it's got to be higher. I wish you and your wife the best of luck. My OH says he can't wait for egg collection then he's free to have a beer!!

That was my thinking is each part of the process went fine then the chances would surely go up.


One more thing, this might be a silly question but if the 2 eggs fail do we have to go through another long process to get the 2 other fertilised eggs put in?


Cheers

tea_lover

Depending on the condition of the embryos (not eggs) on ET day, some of they may be frozen. If so, the process to transfer them is simpler than a full fresh cycle (still a bit of faff, but a lot better).

If you google FET there's some great explanations.

ETA: the clinic/hospital should publish their rates at different stages of the process (eg. % live births per 3/4/5dt etc).
eg http://www.uhcw.nhs.uk/clientfiles/File/Outcome_and_results_2014_CRM_UHCW.pdf

live'n'learn

Thanks again,


I am having fun trying to work out what the appreciations mean lol


L

live'n'learn

Sorry for all the questions.


Does it make any difference if the fertilised eggs are put in day 3 or 5?


Is the odds better either way on which day they are put in?


L

Fairy_dust

If your embryos are good enough quality and get to blastocyst stage then they may freeze them so should your cycle fail or you want to try for a sibling they can thaw them. Not everyone manages to get embryos to freeze, it is normal that some embryos will just stop growing before transfer day, in all 3 cycles I have never managed to freeze any.
As we have had none to freeze all 3 cycles have been fresh which means having to go through the whole process each time.

Fairy_dust

The odds are supposed to be better as some embryos arrest around day 3 so by going for a day 5 the weaker ones have been weeded out. But looking on ivf forums there are loads of women who got bfps on day 3 transfers and plenty of women with bfns with a 5 day. So who knows really?!:D