The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

gettingthereslowly

Pm sending u lots of hugs!! Sorry u r still bleeding. Stupid bodys grrr hope the other s**t can get sorted. Nothing worse than everything piling on top at the same time!! Xx

Part_Mouse

gts thanks, I dont think the other crap can ever get sorted just sooo tired of it all.

codemonkey

Hugs PM. Life is really !!!! at times.

Struggling myself. My meds got switched and were great at first but now they're making me properly suicidal and DH is being rubbish at dealing with it. All I need is for him to hug me and tell me its all going to be ok and take care of me and decide what's for effin dinner once in a while, but he's decided the best way to deal with a suicidal wife is to ignore the problem and play on his computer.

vesper

Oh I hate all of this, why can't we all have a run of good luck and have the babies we deserve?


Sorry OH is being a pita Code, men just do not get it. I tried to talk to my OH earlier about our appointment and he just doesn't want to talk about it. I just need to talk it out with someone, get everything straight in my head. It did hit me today that I would never go through the natural getting pregnant bit. It then hit me that it really is down to me to lose weight otherwise no help, nice stressful incentive there.
My friends really don't understand , so its not like I can talk to them about it all.
I know we can't afford private help and did a bit of research earlier to be hit with the fact that where I live only offer 1 round of IVF. It did make me think about looking into adoption again, but I know I will get refused anyway so no point.


Its breaking my heart thinking the worst that we will never have a child. Why can stupid people that don't want children get pregnant by accident, when the people that will make the best mothers be left with nothing?

Part_Mouse

Code just sent you a pm.

Vesper huge hugs. Its an awful road to be on isn't it.i know we wouldn't be allowed to adopt and can't afford private treatment either.dh said we could travel if we can't have a baby. Fantastic idea that. We've never even had a holiday or honeymoon.

vesper

I couldn't even really afford to travel. We live in Lincolnshire where wages are very low, its only really farm work/ factory work around here. I just wish I had now plucked up the courage all those years ago when I started to get an inkling that something was wrong to get these tests done. Hubby had SA done about 6 years ago which showed a low count, but no one ever talked him through it all.


I have my cars but that's it. We don't have holidays, we work hard, we don't drink, or smoke. We keep to ourselves, and my idea of a really fancy day out is just taking my classic car out for a run.
We didn't have a honeymoon either as couldn't have the time off, and decided that as we were trying for a child, that was more important.


In the end we will see, there's still more tests to be had (even though the doctor said it was only really to confirm things).

codemonkey

vesper wrote: »

Oh I hate all of this, why can't we all have a run of good luck and have the babies we deserve?


Sorry OH is being a pita Code, men just do not get it. I tried to talk to my OH earlier about our appointment and he just doesn't want to talk about it. I just need to talk it out with someone, get everything straight in my head. It did hit me today that I would never go through the natural getting pregnant bit. It then hit me that it really is down to me to lose weight otherwise no help, nice stressful incentive there.
My friends really don't understand , so its not like I can talk to them about it all.
I know we can't afford private help and did a bit of research earlier to be hit with the fact that where I live only offer 1 round of IVF. It did make me think about looking into adoption again, but I know I will get refused anyway so no point.


Its breaking my heart thinking the worst that we will never have a child. Why can stupid people that don't want children get pregnant by accident, when the people that will make the best mothers be left with nothing?

Its a horrible realisation being told that it will never happen naturally especially as its such a normal thing to want. It's heart-breaking knowing that we will never have children (I now officially cannot watch the opening scenes of UP), but keep heart- you have some sperm and 1 chance of IVF may be all you ever need.

I think men do take it personally - like their sperm relates to their manhood and so any attack on their sperm count and they retreat to their wee caves.

The thing I'm struggling with most atm (all med side effects aside) is how little control I have over all this. We can't have a child with or without icsi because of DH's Klinefelters, which is just one of those things that he can't help. But I hate that as far as he's concerned that's it. There wont be sperm donation or adoption because he refuses to even consider them. And that's the end, regardless of what I want. :(


PM, don't you know that you'd get pregnant if you just went on holiday? :rotfl:

codemonkey

I'd also point out that travelling doesn't have to be expensive. We tend to go to places that aren't in the euro because its cheaper to live there.

Poland, Montenegro and Bosnia are all really cheap and lovely places to visit.

Part_Mouse

Vesper I said to dh what are we going traveling with?. Where's the money coming from?? He had no answer as always,heck we don't even have passports !!!!!! or drive.im praying that even if you need help it gives you your dream.

Code so that's where ive been going wrong all these years.that holiday will give me the ov I never have lol

vesper

Another one with no passports.


Mind you there is so much I have never seen in England. I am slowly planning on seeing all the wonderful things there are in Britain. I am going next month (hopefully) to London, I've only really been 2 times to London, once shopping the other on a school trip. And actually have a proper holiday booked, its only a sun holiday but going to the Cotswolds.